Barbara

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  1. Posted

    @Ethan1 That's great. I have the idea that once you finish the notes, it would be easier to navigate through the map if there was an organization of some sort. But I've never done anything like this, so don't really know how it works :)
    I'm giving a look, would like to help you, but have to rewatch the video maybe, since from what I see you're focusing more on the examples that Leo gives, no?

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    @LastThursday Authenticity to me has a lot to do with how you communicate boundaries.
    And you can't possibly establish boundaries from thought, especially during an interaction, because it's all too fast and fluent. You would have to be connected with how you feel regarding what arises and communicate it freely and truthfully. In that matter, I might agree when you say authenticity is an outward expression since it's about what you communicate, and the purpose of it would be not only removing fear barriers but also express yourself coherently and freely. But, I don't think that being authentic is about others admiring you since that's something you can't control or focus on. At least, that's how I see it :) 

    About vulnerability,

    12 hours ago, LastThursday said:

    it's an outward expression of openness and invitation to intimacy

    It's really well put actually, makes me wonder that you don't have to make that invitation to anyone and that you might establish that by being authentic in communicating your boundaries. 

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    7 hours ago, LastThursday said:

    Being authentic and vulnerable is an outward expression, not a thought in your head; it is for other people to admire and recognise.

    Why do you think that? Just questioning for the sake of curiosity to explore the topic. Not judging

    @Origins Really appreciate your answer, pal. You've enlightened me immensely already. I'll follow and do intuition-based trial and error from a place of connection.

    Not wanting to pester you, would you say that aiming to be relatable (sweet spot between relatability and authenticity), as mentioned above, would be about attention, connection, or both even?

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    21 minutes ago, Elevated said:

    my point here is, that you have to learn to read the room. You have to learn when your authenticity is relatable

    I do get you here. But to me, looking for being relatable would damage the authenticity, I feel. But might be a solution. I would have to put it into practice and see how I feel.

    21 minutes ago, Elevated said:

    How do you know that you came across cocky? 

    I don't. It's just a fear, based on perception. The problem might also be my definition of cocky. I guess it's a kinda scarce mindset, actually. 

    I'll check the videos. Thanks!

    Good luck with your path mate :)

    @Qna Absolutely agree with you, but I did not say I was trying to be authentic. I'm just being and encountering some struggles in the way :)

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    Hi there :x

    On the path of being more authentic in my interactions with others, I find two types of struggles that I would love some insights on.

    On the one hand, sometimes I feel that what I have to say, would expose me in a way I don't feel completely comfortable with. 

    On the other, I fear that sometimes, when talking about a topic that I happen to have reflected on and have my own conclusions of, I came out as cocky if I express it openly. 

    Ultimately, I guess both of them are fear of how others perceive me and that will always affect my authentic way. I also do understand that's an extremely egoic thing to feel since all this resistance is a need to protect my "identity". And I usually, get a kick out of piercing through this ego resistance, but mainly with people that are close to me. Not so much with others.

    Did you ever deal with this? How did you overcome it? I deeply appreciate everything you have to say.

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    @tuckerwphotography That's a great video! And the asking men one is also really cool.
    As a woman, I don't feel like I need men. Because to need is to have no other option and I would say that I do have enough masculine energy within me, that often I really need to accomplish goals and be consistent in creating routines and so. I super agree with Teal here tho, that although I can fabricate it, it's not very natural to me and that can make me anxious and out of tune. With a man, I feel like a step out of a rigid and lead position and can let loose and surrender. I become very feminine with curvy, juicy, and creative energy. But that sometimes can also feel out of balance since it can become too much. So yea, even with a man, I always need to cultivate masculine energy, but in a way that only will help me grown, whereas cultivating masculine energy with no man around becomes more like a job, just to operate in the basic functions. 

  20. Posted · Edited by Barbara

    I do the simplest pancakes in the world xD But they're good. 
    For one/ two people:
    1 banana 
    2 eggs 
    3 tsp of oats (1, 2, 3 easy to remember)
    Blend everything in a food processor/blender for a minute or two. Then medium heat with coconut oil. They're good with peanut butter (I use a 100% peanuts one). 

    Fried cauliflower rice:
    Wash and cut the cauliflower (half of a medium cauliflower is enough for 2 people) into pieces and either put it in a food processor or manually grate. Add to a frying pan with two tsp of soya sauce (essential). Let cook for 10-15 min, while stirring from time to time.
    In a different frying pan add chopped some fresh mushrooms, chopped onion, some peas are essential, and add wtv you want really! Normally I'll also add some carrots and courgette chopped into little pieces or tofu, but if you eat meat, you can also add shrimps or chicken.
    Season with some salt and pepper. When everything is cooked add the cauliflower to your mix and stir!

    Greek chills pasta: I can only make this recipe work with organically raised tomatoes, bc tomatoes from hypermarkets are dry af.
    Slice the courgettes (1 medium courgette/pax) lengthways. Add to a frying pan some red pepper, maybe some carrots, some leeks, some broccoli, or vegetables of your choice with 1 tsp of olive oil. Stir a bit and add 4 or 5 tomatoes. Add salt, pepper, and oregano (a lot) and let it cook for 5 min before adding the sliced courgette. Let cook for 15-20 min medium heat. 
    In the end add crumbled feta cheese and sliced olives on top and don't stir.

    I never took photos of it but I'm gonna make the pasta for lunch, so I can add photos of it latter :D

    Latter on: 

    I made this with broccoli, carrots, red pepper and courgette ofc :) Had to use canned tomatoes, not so good but I still buy organic ones. With the feta I’m not shy since it’s the protein of the plate. Added a little bit of vegetal milk (almond i think), during cooking, bc of the acidity of the tomatoes.  

    Have good meals!

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    @Surfingthewave I don't think that in an equal-parts relationship there'll be the manipulative one and the manipulated one, honestly. Normally when you feel hurt, you'll try to hurt your partner as well. Even if the two apologize sincerely for what they've done, later.

    Of course that, those dynamics are only normative. With higher consciousness, that would be predictable to happen less and less.

    And that would never be the case if there's some degree of disparity between the two.

    3 hours ago, Surfingthewave said:

    Often people can fear saying the wrong thing or fear that person leaving them. 

    What do you mean here?