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  1. @Strangeloop Letting go of shame is the hardest part of realising your sexuality. Let go of what your family and others have conditioned you to think. This is your life and you have every right to live a life of being gay. Work on these emotional difficulties you have that come up for you, they appear very strong but in reality they are just thoughts and feelings you can let go of.
  2. Here's your problem. Yes you can let it go on some occasions but you also need to look at your own personal boundaries. Why would you permit yourself to be treated this way? Why does this keep happening? In certain situations it's about being assertive and managing your self worth.
  3. Interestingly my sleep has improved. It's not consistent but much better. My mind becomes very active at night I've become aware of this. My chakras are more balanced 😂 - I reduced my portion sizes and stick to mainly protein and veggies for dinner, before bed (no meat or carbs) - I've introduced more herbal teas, particularly ginger and turmeric. I've also introduced more blueberries, nuts, avocados etc into my diet. - I stick to a script when I wake up in the night, a bit of a mindfulness practice so I don't get into a cycle Sleep is medicine. Let's not underestimate it's value. Someone also posted on here you need less sleep the more spiritual work you do. Not sure about this but I'm sure that when I'm exhausted my ego runs amok.
  4. @Nak Khid Interesting debate. It depends on your own inner resilience, coping strategies and neurological balances /imbalances when it comes to mental health. Mindfulness can be used to help solve some emotional difficulties however when it comes to chemical imbalances, in such forms of severe depression or anxiety, medication and or psychological therapies may be needed. I think professional assessment is often seen in a negative light when it actually can enhance or be enhanced by mindfulness. I can relate to the part about traumatised egos looking for a short cut solution in the form of enlightenment or searching for the "no self". You probably should work on the trauma before any seeking begins.
  5. @Surfingthewave Further insights /additions - The letting go work I am doing is really enlightenment work. - I often give others advice when I need to give myself the same advice. I can be very hard on myself, as I see in others on this forum. - Wonderland really is in every moment. When you fall down the rabbit hole, the world you see becomes curiouser and curiouser. Quotes from Alice in Wonderland.... Lewis Carroll was a master writer. "Who in the world am I? Ahh that's the great puzzle." "Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." "It's no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then....."
  6. @ardacigin Fantastic post thank you. It's so important to define these states. For me in the past I have got stuck in the contentment state, this could be due to the practices I follow. I'm currently working on equanimity, the ability to reduce craving and sit with the suffering. I seem to go round in circles with this state. What resources / practices guide our work and how often to you have formal sits?
  7. @FoxFoxFox Thanks for your insights. My questions are: 1) What were your reasons for leaving the forum? 2) Since your awakening experience, what advice would you give to those who may be stuck in trying to grasp the conceptual understanding of this work?
  8. @JonasVE12 I've worked in a setting where neurofeedback was used for people with ADHD. Do you struggle with sensory processing also? Touch, light sound etc? It had amazing results. Following investigations, discussion with GP, doctor etc if you think you'd like to try it do it and feedback to this forum. You could always go for a consultation.
  9. Insights this week: Insomnia still prevails, however insights are still appearing late at night. The politics of my country leaves me to dispair but I realise there is something bigger at work, beyond the corruption of our political system, beyond the huge multimedia machine driving and influencing voters and I have faith in that. Energy is key to my motivation. When I'm lacking in energy my soft and hard addictions can consume me. Focusing my energy through exercise, yoga, meditation practice and visualisations will impact my life purpose work and levels of fulfillment. Letting go work has improved my ability to not let things get to me. I almost have an invisible barrier protecting me, or perhaps it's the other way round and reality/actuality is protecting me.
  10. My personal favourite Desiderata by Max Ehrmann 1927 Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. 🙏
  11. @VeganAwake Many congratulations my friend you've found what you had lost. I look forward to you deepening your insights.
  12. @undeather Good suggestions, I like your no bullshit approach. So many of us get lost when we begin to seek. We loose what is really important, what's in front of us - life itself. To enjoy what we have, to enjoy what is around us and who we are is all. Thank you 🙏
  13. @AwakenedSoul444 You are not alone in your quest for peace. You are also not alone with your mental health problems. Many many people have similar difficulties. You seem to be pursuing many things at once and have got a bit confused. Again you are not alone in this, in this intensive information age we live in. Go back to the source. Go back to your deep inner voice. If you can't find it because of all the noise and distraction in your head do the things you need to do to locate your inner voice. Walking in nature, music, a retreat, travel whatever you need. Take yourself out of yourself and really and truly listen. Feel your inner guidance. If you can't feel it again get some help with this. You may need professional help. Your boat is floating off and you need to get back to sailing into the wind. How do you do this? Only you know. If you don't, get some help with locating it.
  14. Big insight in the middle of the night. Maybe that's why I've been having bouts of insomnia recently because things are massively shifting and I'm trying to consolidate. My ego is trying to adjust (or floundering while trying to retake control!). For many many years I have put other people first, as in I've felt that helping others in need (my current job) is the key to to meaning and fulfillment. Well it ain't just that I'm afraid. It's lead me to many many geat things in my life but it's not my life purpose. I'm on track with my life purpose now but I've been struggling with commitment and discipline to this. I think this is because I've programmed myself when in doubt help others. This also relates to experiences in my childhood. But also maybe because I'm lacking in clarity with my LP? Need more space and time for contemplating. Part of myself feels like I'm obsessing about myself. Sometimes when I watch Leo's vids for example I think wow, he really thinks about himself a lot, does he not just miss having a few beers with his pals? Maybe that's what OSHO was doing with all those Rolls Royces. Sometimes with this work you gotta stop for a bit and go and have some fun!
  15. @Bill W Just wanted to reach out to say well done so far with your journey. I resonated with your entry about being entitled and also about our attachments how we are not lacking in anything (from OHSO). I like how you are posting passages on here, very helpful. Good luck anyway 🙏