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  1. Posted

    19 hours ago, levani said:

    Do you really think it's worth installing reverse osmosis system or is Evian water bottles good enough for the body/mental aquity

    RO is good but make sure you add minerals back in. If you’re going to spend money on that, you may want to check out Beautiful Water filters:

    https://beautifulwater.co/
     

    Better than RO in my opinion. But it will cost you a bit.

    If you can’t afford it, I’d try to get a better quality glass water like Mountain Valley.

  2. Posted

    12 hours ago, The Caretaker said:

    I am curious what I can add to my food and water to boost my gains and recovery

    Check to make sure that your water has essential minerals / electrolytes. Otherwise the hydrating effects will likely be minimal if at all. And if you’re dehydrated, that’s going to affect your performance in the gym and your recovery after.

    Reverse osmosis water is usually not remineralized. Spring water is likely best. You can also just add a pinch of salt or some electrolytes. See how you feel.

    Be sure to at least eat some of your water in terms of foods that are high in water content. Shouldn’t really be a problem for you as a vegetarian.

    Also, if you really want to boost your gains and recovery, take a daily ice bath and / or sauna bath. Heat and cold is extremely good for you in small doses. Red light therapy is also an option if you feel you’re not getting much sunlight.

  3. Posted

    19 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

    Have you done game drunk? I agree wholeheartedly that sober game is better for calibration and development, but was curious on this point.

    I mixed alcohol and game in college and high school. I don’t mix them anymore, but there are some obvious benefits.

    The first one being that alcohol puts YOU in a party mood. Your inhibitions are lower. You’re sort of in this “I don’t give a fuck about anything” mindset, and you tend to hang out with other people who think the same. You’re in tune with the party culture, doing what everyone else is doing rather than being outside of it.

    There’s this association with alcohol and poor decisions / partying / casual sex where that’s just kind of what is expected, even encouraged. But in a zen monastery or at a Vipassana retreat, there’s a complete different set of implicit or explicit expectations. Hence why people go to nightclubs to get laid and not the latter.

    Of course alcohol also has massive downsides, which is why I don’t do it anymore. It can ruin your health. It can be a crutch do avoid doing real inner work. It can make your decision making sloppy.

    Those “bad decisions” can make for a funny story when you’re in college. But as you get older, they start to get less funny and more consequential. Ideally that’s when people make a change.

    The good news is you really don’t need to drink. You can game sober and get just as good, if not better, results than being drunk. But it may be more challenging, especially at first.

  4. Posted

    @Javfly33

    If you’re doing strict cold approach, it likely won’t matter much. She’s not going to know you live with three other women until she gets there. At that point, if she sees you interacting with them in a way that demonstrates charisma, it may up how much she wants to sleep with you. But by that point she’s already likely interested in you anyway.

    Where I think it could potentially really help you is in more of a social circle setting. They can introduce you to their friends or just be around you when you go out. Maybe they’ll invite you events you wouldn’t have know about otherwise.

    The key is you want them to both respect you and know that you care, kind of like a big brother. That’s when they’ll feel the most comfortable doing all that.

  5. Posted

    4 hours ago, Hardkill said:

     

    However, every time I've said anyone of these kind of statements to them, they either get pissed off at me and walk away or tell me to leave or fuck off. 

    The good news is you’re learning what doesn’t work through your own experience. And if you internalize those lessons, it will subconsciously calibrate you in the future.

    This is why you can’t just blindly follow things you read on the internet and expect them to work in something as complex as socializing.

    To your specific problem, there is a fine line between insulting people and teasing/flirting. Guys with charisma know how to ride that edge AND pull back if they go too far.

    It can be a delicate dance because social interaction isn’t a static thing. There’s always different contexts, different people, different subtle nuances. And you’ve got to learn to subconsciously read all that in microseconds. Which is actually extremely easy once you get the hang of it, but can be challenging at first.

    There’s also the element of delivery. Sometimes what you said was fine, but your delivery (vocal tonality, body language) was totally off. In that case, it isn’t so much about what you said as it is how you said it. I’d say this is actually the more common problem.

    "you are so dumb that you must have a bean brain" -> did you give a cheeky half smile when you said this? Did you say it aggressively, or with a sort of sing-song tone of voice that would communicate to her “I’m just kidding”? Did you hesitate and look away? All of this, plus way more, matters in terms of how people will respond to what you say.

    This is why inner game becomes so important. There’s so many subtle variables going on here that it’s impossible to consciously be aware of all of them. But if your inner game is solid, a lot of these variables just solve themselves like magic. You don’t even need to think about it. Which is exactly the place you want to get to.

    So dial it back a bit. Remember, fun and light. You suppose to actually like this person. And keep working that inner game as well.

  6. Posted

    7 hours ago, Noahsteelers34 said:

    The problem is I need a daily practice I can do every day to get comfortable meeting and talking to new people. And my fear is if I don’t have that I will not be social at all. To me even if I’m known as that guy, at least I will have grown 

    The way you get daily practice socializing is by socializing, not by doing crazy social anxiety drills though. Let that be your fear challenge. It’s more than enough.

    Something simple: approach one girl everyday. Look for girls in your classes, girls in line for things you’re in line for, the library, the bus, etc. That should be plenty fear inducing.

    If you want to still do crazy social anxiety drills, fine. But be smart about it. Maybe drive somewhere people don’t know you.

    7 hours ago, Noahsteelers34 said:

    So do you think if I just casually stop people and small talk, and casual say hi to random people all day, that that would be too much. I would try and make it natural but the bottom line is I must approach. I need a consistent daily practice of meeting people of some kind. 

    I wouldn’t do it all day. It’s fine to do it every once in a while. But your intention should be on doing real, solid approaches. Not just saying “hi” to people and running away. That should really only be a warm up. In a way, it can be weirder than striking up a real conversation.

    Remember, the drills are drills for a reason. They are NOT good game and their end goal is NOT to get you to be like that all the time. Their purpose is just to loosen you up so then you can do real approaches and meet women with confidence. So don’t get hung up on the drills. They’re a means, not an end.

  7. Posted

    12 hours ago, Noahsteelers34 said:

    I’m I’m now at a college of 40k students and am worried that if I do these exercises I will build a bad reputation

    Of course. Those are drills, not something you should be doing all the time. You could maybe get away with it a bit, but there’s a limit.

    12 hours ago, Noahsteelers34 said:

    Even forgetting all the exercises, I feel like approaching girls on campus could cause me to gain a bad reputation

    Yes, you need to be intelligent about it. Be more social and less aggressive and direct. Focus more so on making friends. Set up cool things and invite girls you meet to them.

    12 hours ago, Noahsteelers34 said:

    I’m a freshman so I can’t really get into parties to game 

    ???

    Freshmen go to parties all the time. If you have 40k kids then you’re probably at a major state university where freshmen will absolutely be partying.

    If it’s really challenging and greek life is good where you’re at, join a fraternity. You’ll have an instant social circle and parties to go to. And you can invite girls you cold approach to those events.

  8. Posted

    6 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

    I don't think so. There is truth to what he says, you just have to drop your ideological bias and look

    You can find truth in what anyone says.

    I’m sure Kevin Samuels has made intelligent arguments at some point in his life. He may even have bits or pieces of truth.

    But overall, his content is geared towards stage Orange and “redpill” type dudes. He’s not someone I’d recommend to basically anyone. Maybe some people would find temporary value in it, but lord help you if you get stuck there.

  10. Posted

    3 hours ago, ertopolice said:

    I acknowledge that I am at "risk" of being a prey for these men. Your nailed it, as I mentioned. This particular guys it's true that with his pickiness and standards seem a bit aggressive and manipulator so it reminds me about my mother...don't know why.

    From what I’ve read, it does in fact sound like this guy is a tool.

    It’s a common thing for guys who were once “nice guys” to suddenly go macho-bro-alpha and talk about they have high standards and they demand this and that and blah blah blah.

    It’s basically overcompensation from their past.

    My gut says he is one of those dudes. Maybe has read some Redpill thinking at some point. And it sounds like his arrogance may have triggered your insecurity. You’re a perfect vibrational match for each other.

    I’d move on. It seems like you fell in love with a fantasy more than a reality. So your work is to discover why that might be.

  11. Posted

    18 hours ago, ertopolice said:

    he is so disgusted about my opinion about some topic we talked about in the audios, and that his situation changed.

    What did you possibly say?

    You’d have to say something pretty serious for most guys to drop a date like that. If you don’t want to tell that’s fine, but it sounds bad to me.

    Or he is bullshitting and has another reason for canceling besides whatever you said.

    Either way, it’s a lot of pressure you’re putting on a first date. You’ve never met in person and you’re already feeling like he is your dream guy. In my experience, putting that much pressure on in the early stages of dating rarely leads to anything but frustration.

  12. Posted

    Here is a really nice talk just released by Rebel Wisdom’s Alexander Beiner:

    I suggest watching the whole thing, but here’s a quick TL;DW of his points:

    • Psychedelics use is in the beginning stages of entering into the mainstream
    • As such, it is at risk of being “captured” or corrupted by capitalism and our overall toxic stage Orange culture. In many cases this has already happened, such as fights over patents in order to corner the market
    • Solutions: create an intentional psychedelic culture that values what we want it to value, as well as seek out alternative economics models.

    Overall the video gets a lot right. Tools to access God have always been corrupted since the beginning of time, just look at organized religion. And selflessness becomes twisted into acts of selfishness.

    If we could consciously create a culture that saw psychedelics as sacred and that upheld the values we desired, that would be ideal. My issue is that creating such a culture already requires a population with a certain level of consciousness. Lack of consciousness tends to generate more lack of consciousness and visa versa.

    As well, the problem with “alternative economic models” is that they tend to get stomped on by the current models, which Alexander acknowledges.

    I don’t have the answers here except to say that any psychedelic-induced mass awakening is going to take time. Expect backsliding, corruption and general ego mania.

    What do ya’ll think? How can we better usher in the age of psychedelics? How can we be better caretakers of these tools? How can we create a culture that will allow for psychedelics to be used to their full potential? What do we want that world to look like?

  13. Posted

    5 hours ago, Bob Seeker said:

    Okay thanks. I’d probably prefer Austin or Miami or something lol. Im not prepared to go that hard right now

    I lived in Miami for 6 years and loved it. The weather is basically perfect sunshine year round. And the girls are ridiculously attractive, with more of a mix of lots of tourists and locals. You can also easily game there 24/7 if you want like Vegas, but with more potential for normalcy. 

    Miami also has incredibly high status, social circle game like Vegas or LA. Celebrities are always around and you can get pulled into some pretty crazy scenarios if you know a few of the right people.

  14. Posted

    @CodyXarex Church game, that’s a new one.

    I would simply practice basic socializing at this point. You are not in a conducive environment for doing cold approach at volume. Maybe every once in a while there will be an opportunity, but that’s not going to be enough to develop a skill set.

    Just learn how to interact in a social circle and date whoever you can. There is value in building basic experience when you are young. And then use your dissatisfaction for where you’re currently living as leverage to motivate you to move. 

  15. Posted

    7 hours ago, bloomer said:

    Shit lol. What if they're all negative?

    Then it’s time to get to work.

    It will take longer for you to get results but they will come. Be stupid, overly excited about even small victories. This will create positive reinforcement and encourage you to keep going.

    Do your best to honestly assess your situation and any mistakes you’re making, but then let it go. If you’re too hard on yourself you’ll burnout quick and want to quit. Practice self-love here.

    You can’t control the hand you were dealt, but you can make the choice to do your best and create your future. And fuck everyone who doesn’t understand that.

  16. Posted

    10 hours ago, Vrubel said:

    But how do I overtake girls and position myself right in front of her? Won't I miss a lot of girls that way?

    Yes you will miss some girls. So what? That’s why you need to be in an area where there is a bunch around. This way it doesn’t matter.

    Never once have I had to run up to a girl doing day game. I just walk and open whoever is along my path that I want to open. That’s enough. You can even just stand and open girls that walk by you if you get a good position. Set yourself up right.

    And if you can’t find an spot like this, then you probably should go to a new area entirely. Or just accept that your number of approaches will be lower.

    10 hours ago, Vrubel said:

    Some of my most successful approaches were run-ups.  (With run-ups I mean jogging pace, they are usually short in distance).

    You can keep doing it if it’s really working for you. But you sounded concerned for your reputation. I mostly don’t do it out of principle and because I feel it puts subconsciously in the wrong mindset of “chasing”. A very quick, light jog might be okay in certain circumstances if you really wanted to open a girl.

  17. Posted

    @Vrubel This can actually happen. Even in a major city, you can approach so many girls that people start recognizing you. But it’s really not that big of a deal as long as your approaches aren’t overly atrocious and there’s enough people.

    Don’t run up to girls. I get checking your ego at the door and not make excuses to approach, but I personally draw a line here. You’re literally chasing girls. No thanks.

    You can also get away with a lot more in a night game environment.

    Part of the advantage of moving to a major city is that you get anonymity. Which is good if you know you’re about to do a lot of potentially cringe inducing approaches.

    Anonymity is bad once you know what you’re doing. Then you want to be known, and your reputation will do more work for you than your actual approaches. But if you’re new you may not be at that level yet.

     

  18. Posted

    @Fadious It depends on a lot of factors.

    What was your upbringing like? How much experience did you have being social and with women growing up? How is your self-esteem? How is your career going? Where do you live? How much of a social circle do you have already? Etc etc

    If those questions were all negative for you, then you’re gonna have some work cut out for you. The more of those boxes you tick the easier it likely will be for you.

    For the average guy, I’d say you could start seeing noticeable results in a couple months to a year if you’re hitting it hard. You may also get a lot of smaller wins before then.

  19. Posted

    7 hours ago, museumoftrees said:

    I'm curious on what @aurum & @Leo Gura have to say on the matter

    You can experiment with the “player approach” that is Leo is describing and is advocated by most puas. Play the field a lot, and wait for one of the girls you’re seeing to choose you. Then if you want to date her as well, cut off the rest of the girls. But otherwise you don’t treat her any different than any other girl you’re seeing.

    This approach does in fact work. You can get a very attractive girl who you deeply connect with to fall head over heels for you this way. And that’s because you’ve flipped all the investment dynamics in your favor. She will be chasing you. She might be jealous of other girls you are seeing or she imagines you might be seeing. She might even explicitly text you for sex and you’re so blasé that you forget to answer her.

    One of my problems though with this “player approach” is that it can cause problems down the line. You’re setting up a pattern where she is constantly chasing you, which feels like you’re winning in the moment, but later on can create a needy girlfriend who always feels insecure in the relationship. And you don’t want that.

    Also, I find that this player approach tends to attract needy girls who may potentially have low self-esteem in general. This is what happens when you play power games. Girls who are more secure with themselves are not likely to continually chase you around and be so manipulated by you.

    Final problem with this approach is that it cuts off alternative ways of getting into a relationship that may actually be healthier. If you insist this is how it must be, than it will be for you. My theory at the moment is that your highest quality relationship will not be born from this approach.

    So experiment if you want. It could be a worthwhile experience. But you are playing with fire and will likely break some hearts this way.

    Another option is you sleep with a girl and then pretty quickly take her on a more traditional “couple” activity, like maybe a nice dinner. This will show her that you’re serious about you and her, and assuming she feels the same about you, you can progress to serious dating very quickly.

  21. Posted

    @gggkkk The problem is that people find copywriting valuable precisely because it manipulates people.

    No one is going to hire you for writing “hey I made this course, you might find it useful if you have X problem”. You get paid for writing “Only 2 hours left until the deal closes!! Act now!! Dwanye Johnson just bought one!”

    I do think there’s an ethical way to market to people. You can speak with confidence about your product and how it might help people. That’s important and all fine.

    But that’s not going to be what is found in most copywriting courses. Most copywriting courses will teach you how the press on the cognitive biases.

    Ethical marketing is almost like anti-marketing. Which can be hard to teach, because it’s like you’re not actually marketing.

  23. Posted

    @chakra_7654321

    My advice for you would be to just keep socializing. Focus on learning, not perfection. Transmute those painful past experiences into motivation.

    The more time you spend around people who are socially calibrated, the more it will subconsciously rub off on you. You’ll see more and more what is appropriate in what circumstances if you’re observant.

    Also, I’d keep doing any inner work you may already be doing like meditation, yoga etc. A lot of what seems like awkwardness can actually be trauma / an overactive nervous system.

  24. Posted

    @john1

    I’d start building skills that will serve society.

    How you choose to do that is up to you. That’s one of the blessings and the curse of living in the modern world. But you want to focus on being valuable to others.

    If you want some examples to get started, just looking at what people pay a lot of money for and what they don’t. That should give you a clue.

    I wouldn’t expect too much in the beginning. Even 2 years and 7 months is ultimately too small a time horizon. Start thinking about where you could maybe be in 10, 20, or even 30 years.

    Follow those inklings of things that seem interesting, but also learn how to deeply commit to something when it’s time.

    As far as books, there’s some decent one on Leo’s booklist. MJ Demarco has written two decent ones. Also the LP course will likely help you here. 

    Keep in mind though that there‘s a lot of gurus in the self-help world who will exploit eager young people like yourself by selling them a dream or get-rich-quick nonsense. Don’t get clowned by them.