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  1. How Supernormal Stimuli F*ck with Survival Instincts (many ramifications for humans too) Fish Butterflies Excerpts from: "Supernormal Stimuli: How Primal Urges Overran their Evolutionary Purpose" by Deirdre Barrett
  2. How funny, looks like some of us found it already at a similar time
  3. ^ Title says what this thread is intended to be about ^ Resource #1 Stumbled upon this resource / commonplace book, many useful pointers. The Integral Guide to Well-Being: https://integralguide.com/⭐️+Start+Here/About It wouldn't surprise me if the author watched some actualized.org content.
  4. Not personal: There's a documentary on Netflix called "Tinder Swindler"..., this scam got him thousands of dollars from women he went on dates with...
  5. Where are you looking for it? All of Leo's books are linked to amazon... That book is basically three other works by Wattles in one
  6. hell yes!
  7. "con-artist deprogrammers" took advantage of people's fears and feelings of urgency (one interpretation)
  8. This is just too lit ... BLUE/orange?
  9. I use a VPN too at times. But I could use my ISP, as of now. Wouldn't it make it easier for you @Leo Gura to make this a poll thread?
  10. How about soft when relaxed, hard when contracting? Increasing the range of softness and hardness of your muscles and conscious control over it (being soft or hard at the appropriate times, being able to let go of tension and relax, and flex hard when needed)... nice list. What helps me too is doing shamanic breathing (breathwork in general), and simply feeling deeper into my body (duh:). You might also want to check out the book on Leo's book list under Body Awareness. Some let's call then "energy healers" might help with relaxing too. My knees didn't touch the ground while sitting cross legged and after a session with such a "healer" I could do a full lotus... but given homeostasis and my exercise habits this state didn't last long, ... gotta inch your way to it over time. Also magnesium is supposed to help relax muscles, take a form of Mg which can be absorbed well. Edit: Heard that animals do not stretch but something called pandiculation. Here's a video of a cat pandiculating:
  11. 108. Dream Life - What It Takes To Create An Extraordinary Life (https://youtu.be/W1-4UsQVgkM) The deep challenge of building an extraordinary life, and what you’ll have to do to really make it happen. Big Ideas The Problem of Life The question is: how do you actually create that dream life? What is the dream life? You know what it is. It’s that highest ambition you had for yourself before life beat it out of you. Everyone tries to live big at some point, but almost no one succeeds. Why? I remember hearing an old story that will help us understand what’s going on. Story of the Old Lady and the Wolf A long time ago there was a village just outside the woods. In this village lived a simple old lady. One night the old lady goes out into the woods to run a chore. As she wanders through the woods, suddenly, a giant blood-thirsty wolf jump out in front of her. The wolf’s jaws are wide open and his fangs are glaring. The wolf is just about to maul her. Having nothing in her hands to fend off the wolf, the old lady is absolutely terrified. Even a grown man couldn’t handle this wolf alone. So what does she do? The only thing she can: she reaches out and grabs the wolf hard by the tongue. She pulls out the wolf’s tongue past his teeth and starts walking towards the village. When she finally gets back to the village with the wolf, one of the men clubs him to death over the head. Old Lady: 1, Wolf: 0 Moral of the Story So what does this story tell us? Simple: you either go all-in, or you’re fucked! And what does this have to do with the problem of creating a dream life? Simply: You are the old lady! And the harshness of life is that wolf. You either go all-in and face your fears, or you are dead. The only reason you’re not living your dream life is because you’re too afraid. You keep telling yourself that life is dangerous and that you must be cautious. Caution is okay is some cases, but not when you have a wolf in your face about to maul you. Think about it, what would have happened if that old lady hesitantly reached out for the wolf’s mouth? And what would have happened if that old lady let up for even a second while she was dragging him back to the village? Right! He would have bitten off her hand! Going Beyond Tricks and Techniques Many of my videos give you small tips and tricks that you can use to patch up some part of your life. I get it, you want a quick fix that will make everything all better and comfy. I love giving you little techniques, but that’s not ultimately what I’m here to do. I want to show you how to create a transformational, extraordinary life, and I’m kidding about that. To do this, I need you to buy into the idea that you’re going to live your life BIG! This goes waaaaay beyond techniques. If you’re going to half-ass your life, you will get mauled, and it will be painful. You MUST be all-in. You MUST go full-out. Looking For A Quick-Fix Stop looking for the quick-fix. Stop looking for the one secret technique. When you do that, you’re not building an extraordinary life, you’re just maintaining mediocrity. Sometimes I get criticism in my Youtube comments about some of my suggestions being too ambitious, too idealistic. The criticism is: “But this won’t work in the real world!” All of my suggestions work in the real world! But many of them won’t work if you half-ass it. You need to be committed to taking massive action and going above and beyond. Even though you might have landed on one of my videos hoping for a quick-fix, you’ve got to move past that idea and start getting on board with the big vision. Idealism Is Underrated Remember back to a time when you were certain your life would be BIG. Perhaps it was back in school, or college, or even just a few years ago. But then what happened? Yeah, everyday life overwhelmed you. Somehow things slipped and slipped and slipped until you didn’t even bother looking back. But I’m here to tell you that you’ve lost sight of the big picture and it’s time to get back on the horse. Your problem is not that you’re thinking too big, it’s that you are thinking too small! The reason you need all these little patches to maintain your crappy little life is because you’ve been thinking too small for too long, and whatever you think, you get. When you start to think big, many of your petty problems will naturally dissolve. The common objection is: “But that’s too idealistic, unrealistic!” It’s not unrealistic if you commit to growing yourself. The only reason you think it’s unrealistic is because you are a small person. What you’re not facing up to is the courage that you lack to live big. But this can be fixed if you commit. Being idealistic is good. Being idealistic is also hard. Being idealistic requires fearlessness. It Won’t Be Easy If I could wish for you to have one personal characteristic that would guarantee your success, it would fearlessness. Stop looking for easy. What I’m talking about is going be to challenging. But it’s also going to be incredibly rewarding. You will have times when you will want to quit. You will have times when you will want to cry yourself to sleep in a fetal position on your couch. But that’s okay, because this is not what’s really sad. This is a noble way of life. What’s really sad is living the crappy little life that you are living right now. Working your ass off for something big isn’t sad, that’s the glory of life. And it’s also the only way you will be happy. The Dangerous World My ideas and strategies can seem like wishful thinking, but everything I share with you is extremely practical and field-tested. The real problem is that you’ve been conditioned into pessimism by your parents, society, media, friends, and your own past failures. Living a big life in modern society is unnatural. A big life is unnatural and rare simply because it’s much easier and more comfortable to be mediocre. And besides, all your friends are doing it. If you don’t stay conscious, if you aren’t deliberate, if you don’t set very clear objectives, then you will just roll with the flow and become mediocre. Understanding The Real Risk One of the worst assumptions that we pick up when growing up is that life is dangerous. When you believe that, you start to be cautious and timid. You stop making bold decisions and start straddling fences. If the world is dangerous, then you start following the herd. You stop questioning your religion, your friends, your culture, your government, your parents. This assumption runs so deep that it keeps you from reaching out and grabbing that wolf by the tongue. Imagine how you would live your life if you were fully conscious of that fact that your life will be over in the snap of a finger. 1/3rd, 1/2, 2/3rds of your life are already over. All you’ve got left is about 20-50 years, at the most. Right now, somewhere in your life you are telling yourself that you are more safe by holding back and being conservative rather than going all-in. If you go all-in, you will be scared. And you don’t like to feel scared, you like to feel comfy. But actually, the greatest risk isn’t going all-in, it’s not committing to anything. If you don’t commit, your life trajectory is very easy to predict: you will peter out like a dud firework that never bursts. Where is the bang, the spark, the flash in your life? I know that you are holding yourself back because even after all the years of hard work that I’ve done on myself, I still hold myself back. Enough Is Enough I don’t know about you, but I want to live a big life. I’m sick and tired of hold myself back. I want to give my all, and if it doesn’t work, so what? At least I will die in peace. How miserable will I be on my deathbed if I give life a half-assed attempt? Here’s the thing. You are either going to have one of two types of death: an instant death or a slow, drawn out death. If you are living a mediocre life, you better hope for instant death in a car or plane crash, so you don’t have time to reflect on your weak decisions. But chances are you will have a slow death, where you see yourself slowly age and decay into listlessness. Oh, man, is that going to be painful for you. As you slowly decay, you will regret so deeply that you didn’t reach out and grab that wolf by the tongue. You’re going to wonder, “Why was I so afraid? What’s so bad that would have happened?” And at this ripe old age you’re going to be wise enough to see that had you just been a little more fearless, you would have accomplished something amazing. The Real Danger The real danger of life is not that you will get injured, or your family will be threatened, or someone robs you, but that you hear my message and take no action. Is massive pain and regret what you want in your life? Now is the time to ask yourself what you want out of your life. If not now, then when? Are you going to commit to transforming your life and doing whatever it takes? I can guarantee you that it will take everything you’ve got right now, and much much more. This won’t be easy, but it will be rewarding. If you’re not willing to commit to self-actualize, to share your greatest gifts, to live to your full potential, then you are already dead. Bottom Line: Commit to doing whatever it takes to build an extraordinary life. Grab the wolf by the tongue. Go all-in!
  12. Of course! Gotta keep these summaries clean of mentions of Chris E - Haha. Great job to you too. Let's go: we all could have all of the released videos summarized in a year or less! Really humbling to see the entire huge list of hour long videos Leo released until now (and some had to even be re-shot!)
  13. 59. Summary: How To Never Quit - The Key To Reframing The Toughtest Obstacles (https://youtu.be/awCmTiN9S_U) A radical, powerful way of looking at obstacles so that you never fall off track with your important goals ever again. Big Ideas The Defining Moment The defining moment in any endeavor or project that you undertake is the point when you feel like all is lost and you will give up. The project either becomes too stressful, too challenging, or too mundane. Your mind is a master at coming up with excuses for why to quit. But this is exactly the moment you should be excited about, because this is what separates the winners from the losers! You have to realize that that moment when you feel like quitting is critical to your success. Winners vs Losers Really successful people, world-class performers, are the ones who lean into the defining moments. They know that obstacles are directly create their success. Mediocre, average people are the ones who quit because they trick themselves into believing that an obstacle is a sign of serious trouble. To achieve anything big in life you’re going to have to learn how to reframe obstacles into opportunities. Successful people do this naturally. They realize that obstacles grow them, toughen them up, and separate them from the competition. The reason most people are mediocre is because they only want to do the things that are easy and comfortable. The point where most people give up is the point where you have to keep going! Your Brain Is A Thermostat Your brain will always try to keep you in homeostasis, even when you’re trying to make a positive change in yourself. Most people are always eager at the beginning of an endeavor, that’s easy. What difficult is pushing through when you feel like giving up. Most people don’t realize that their brains will naturally send them signals to quit once they push their comfort zone a little bit. Your brain works like a thermostat, locking you into whatever mode of performance that you’ve recently been at. Changing the thermostat takes extraordinary effort. Any time you try to change your thermostat, you will feel resistance and discomfort. Value = What’s Rare Realize that the reason you chose to pursue that big goal of yours in the first place is because it’s valuable, rare, and difficult to achieve. It must be this way. If your goal was insignificant, commonplace, or easy to achieve, you would either already have it or you wouldn’t want it. For example, if you’re trying to become a doctor, the reason a doctor is so respected and well-paid is because it takes a lot of hard work to become one. For example, if you’re trying to start a business in a new market, the reason that market is lucrative and open is because it takes a lot of hard work to exploit it. Consider the vast disparity in effort required to become a doctor vs flipping burgers at McDonald’s. Everyone’s In The Same Boat The next time you’re feeling discouraged about your big endeavor, tell yourself to get excited. Because this obstacle will set you apart from everyone else! Knowing that most people are quitters, you can get doubly-excited about every obstacle because you know it will set you apart. Every extra mile that you run in a marathon race is an extra mile that someone else will quit. You have to keep reminding yourself that every obstacle you face, others will face. This holds true for obstacles that don’t seem like obstacles: like the boredom you might be facing in your career right now. Don’t get discouraged! Everyone will experience lulls in their career. That’s just part of the game. Whether your journey is smooth or rocky doesn’t matter. Ultimately all that matters is that you stay on the journey until the very end. Seth Godin’s Dip Seth Godin talks about this topic in his brilliant little book, The Dip. Godin calls The Dip that moment when you are ready to throw in the towel. The key is to ask yourself in that moment whether the endeavor you’re about to quit has heart and long-term potential. If it does, you MUST NOT quit! The only endeavors you’re allowed to quit are the ones that have no long-term potential or conflict with your higher values. If you know the endeavor you’re working on is meaningful, then you just have to reframe every major obstacle as getting you one step closer. Not only is the dip weeding out the competition, it’s also making your stronger, smarter, and more resilient. Just the mere fact that you toughed it out past a major obstacle gives you incredible growth and personal power. If you want to become world-class at anything, the only way is by going through obstacle after obstacle as your competitions gets weeded out. If you want to be a well-known actor, a musician, a politician, or a successful entrepreneur, you will have to go through a gauntlet to filter you out from the crowd. The best filter of winners vs loser is emotional labor. Winners are always willing to endure emotional hardship to reach their goals. Loser never are. Sure, everyone would like to be an actor, an entrepreneur, or an athlete, but are they willing to pay the cost? There are millions of people that want things for free or at low cost. There a many who want things at medium cost and even high cost. But very few want something at great cost. The ultimate competitive advantage is being willing to pay extraordinary cost to get what you want. Purpose & Vision Having a life purpose is so important. It will help you stay on track and tell yourself that the hard work is worth it. What you need to persevere past all the challenges is true vision: a crystal-clear picture of your dream. If you don’t have a vision right now, or your vision is lacking, don’t despair. Vision can be deliberately created. From now on, start seeing every obstacle in your way as a huge opportunity for you to advance and set yourself apart. The next time something catastrophic happens with your endeavor, tell yourself that you just have to keep going. Bottom Line: Don’t let obstacles discourage you. Start reframing every obstacle as a big opportunity to set yourself apart.