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  1. Stick with what you know for certain. We both know this ain't it.
  2. For what it's worth, you remind me of myself 8 years ago. Basically what I learned is this. Be responsible and take calculated risks.
  3. Relationships are the most important thing we can have in life. But it's important to be authentic. By that I mean you're not going to be friends with everybody. When people try to sell social skills it reeks of inauthenticity. Find the people who are like you and that share the same values. When you find your people no effort is required.
  4. With roommates you get to develop interpersonal and conflict resolution skills not to mention work on a whole host of other fears. IMO, living with others fosters the most growth. Sometimes we crave long periods of solitude though, in which living alone would make the most sense. As long as you're not avoiding something, it doesn't matter what you do.
  5. Great advice so far. I second "one thing at a time". You'll never get anywhere without focus. That said, if you are suffering deeply, it might help to get a therapist to keep you on track and offer guidance. I used to see one who specialized in self-esteem, life crisis' and depression. Good stuff.
  6. This! It took me a long time to figure this out. Recently I cut out drinking and that's all that I'm focusing on now.
  7. Same thing happened to me when I started meditating. It's gone away since but it lasted for a long time.
  8. @Conscious life I think you used to pump energy into upholding false "macho" qualities. People only think you're weak if you aren't assertive or don't have integrity.
  9. There are authentic desires, not all are egoic. Motives are what need to be examined. Love, joy, creativity, fulfillment, and curiosity come to mind.
  10. In my experience it's not an effective strategy. The amount of time you spend practicing increases as time progresses. It happens naturally. Too much too soon and you'll have backlash or give up. Realistically, you can only only build one habit at at a time. So, keep that in mind. Start small and go from there.
  11. The best thing you can do is start down a path and recorrect your course when you need be. If you don't know which way to go then experiment. May not be what you want to hear but this shit takes time.
  12. Find out if you're an under-doer or an over-doer. Are you lazy or hyperactive? Learn to counteract whichever leads to your suffering. Also, find a balance between solitude and community.
  13. Cool, I live in san diego. If I'm ever in LA I'll look you up.