ivory

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  1. @Emerald Nice
  2. +1. This ^^ I used to have zero interest in politics. But after a series of really shitty life experiences I became deeply aware of how sick society was and I developed in interest in the system as a whole. If you you want to dip your toes in the water stay in tune with the highlights. The more you learn, the more interested you become. Also, as you approach stage green in spiral dynamics your heart opens up and you begin care about society. Part of my morning routine is to check the news and see what's going on. This is a really good start if you're interested: https://theweek.com/5things. It just lists 5 new things that are happening each day.
  3. For purification I think everyone should to the Presence Process at least one time.
  4. Brad Blanton wrote a book on the subject. It's called Radical Honesty. As for how to practice, get really clear on what you fear in social situations. With precision. Know your EXACT fears. What do you often hold back? Little by little start peppering vulnerability in your conversations. Typically people fear appearing a certain way to others. There is also a fear of setting boundaries and being assertive in general (expressing likes, dislikes, and opinions). Stop holding back. If you want help with the opposite sex, read the book: Models: How to Attract Women through Honesty. However, I have a feeling you already know what to do. It's about taking action. Books will only help you so much. Get shit done, son.
  5. @d0ornokey I also thought about moving to Austin for that reason. I may end up moving to Portland though. Still need to do a little more research. But I def want to move somewhere that has a high concentration of green. I live in San Diego, and even though Leo says SoCal is green, San Diego still seems very orange to me. Lots of superficial assholes and a complete absence of quality art. San Francisco also seems really cool, but, it is so damn expensive there.
  6. I hear a lot of people wanting to know more about shadow work but I often wonder why. Shadow work is really, really confusing.
  7. I went through a phase where I'd work jobs for a short period of time and then move to a new city. I did that for 8 years or so. Now I find myself wanting to settle down and establish some roots. Learning a new city and making new friends can be really exhausting. Like you, I also crave lasting relationships. I love my alone time, but I don't find myself truly happy without a strong network of close friends.
  8. There are so many things I enjoy doing it's hard to make time for it all. When I'm not working I meditate, take music classes, go to the gym, and stretch out my body. I'm currently learning how to improve my social skills so I hang with friends and meet with a community a few times a week. It may sound like a lot, but I can only do it if I don't spend too much time on the internet or watching tv.
  9. One thing I noticed is that as life changes around you, it illuminates the qualities you need to work on. Life will challenge you. Fear and the difficulties you face show you the things you're supposed to lean into. Recently, I had to have a series of really difficult conversations with people. Setting boundaries and asserting yourself are stage red qualities that I still need to integrate. Am I over my fears? No, but I will be challenged again, and again until hopefully it sticks. We'll see what life presents me. On another note. I was predominantly in stage orange. Running around chasing one accomplishment over the next. I really wore myself out and after a realized that I still felt unfulfilled. Spiral dynamics made me realize that I needed to start focusing on adopting a more greenish value system. Now I spend a lot of time with friends and am learning how to connect with people on a deeper level. I'm also working on taking better care of my health. I feel so much more fulfilled now. I had essentially outgrown orange and needed to move into a different way of being. What I learned this past year is that you're to rise to the challenges that life presents you and don't shy away from the challenges that prevent you from getting what you want. However, if you feel deeply unfulfilled, you may need to re-evaluate your set of values like I had to do in moving from orange to green. In myself, I still see a number of qualities I need to integrate at the lower stages. I believe that I am a yellow thinker, though I don't claim to be tier 2. At red I need to work on assertiveness, at green I need to work connecting with people on a deeper level. The question I would pose you is where do you feel unfulfilled in your life, and what challenges are you currently facing? That should give you a clue as to what you need to work on presently. Don't worry so much about transcendence or reaching the next level. It's all about what's happening in your life now.
  10. @Yellow_Girl I see a number of similarities between you and I. I was encouraging you to stay because I believe you can bring value to this forum. You are still adjusting to a new way of being and it can be a bit isolating. For what it's worth, I just became a member at the local Zen center and joined a philosophy group. I need to be around other deep thinkers. There is some truth three jewels of buddhism: Take refuge in the sangha. It helps with the isolation. That said, I do believe that I, personally, need to work on my social skills a bit so I can relate to more people. In other words, I have yet to integrate some of the crucial qualities that are typically developed in red, blue, and orange. We all have work to do, none of us are pure yellow. Curious to hear your thoughts.
  11. The book Models by Mark Manson is quite good. Also get your hands on any of the RSD videos. They aren't books, but they have all you need to know.
  12. I have a different take. If you are curious you should explore your curiosity. That is the essence of self-inquiry. When not curious, just stick to the breath until curiosity arises again. Then explore.