You're thinking about work all wrong.
Rather than seeing is as something you have to do, find a way to make it something you love to do.
In general, don't do things because you have to, do them because you want to.
This means being proactive about your work. It's not really work then, it's creativity. Don't you want to be creative? Why not? You are God after all! You created the whole universe and creation is a beautiful and exciting process.
You're disconnected from your creativity. That's your problem. Find a way to reconnect and this issue about work will dissolve. Then your problem will be that you work too hard!
Your work needs to be the most meaningful thing in the world to you.
You have yet to realize the significance of life purpose. You know it only as an intellectual abstraction, not a tangible burning passion.

Best to keep dating and enlightenment separate pursuits.
If you wanna date, go date.
If you want enlightenment, go do enlightenment work.
Dating is not about finding some Buddha to bang. You bang whoever you can and see where things go from there. Don't expect your partner to know anything about enlightenment.
Maybe if you're lucky you'll bump into a girl who meditates or does Hatha yoga. But even that is rare. And even then it will all just be surface level stuff.

Sit, be silent, and don't do anything with your mind.
Sit like a cat.

I would be cautious with this path - it can lead to a nasty solipsistic trap. Be careful conflating absolute and relative. The big "You" is creating all of this, not the little "you". 
When you frame the question as "Am I just dreaming up this life? I am the only one right now that has a subjective experience?". The answer is both "yes" and "no" - and if these two get mixed up and can lead to a nasty solipsistic trap. At the level of the little "i", no you are not dreaming up this life and you are not the only one with a subjective experience. At the god-like omniscient level of One "I", yes YOU are dreaming up this life and are the only ONE. Because there is only ONE.
Think of having a dream in which your dream character Paul asks the same question. Paul asks "Am I just dreaming all this? Am I the only person right now having a subjective experience?". From the perspective of Paul, then no. From his perspective he and all the other dream characters are real. It would not be fair to say Paul is dreaming it all up, because Paul is within the dream. We need to transcend Paul and level up to Krockerman. From the perspective of Krockerman, he is dreaming it all up. Paul and all the dream characters are ONE dream. NOT Paul's dream. The higher consciousness of Krockerman's consciousness.
Similarly, there is transcendence of the Krockerman character. Krockerman is not the one dreaming it all up. Krockerman is within God and God is dreaming it up. Krockerman and all other characters are ONE dream. 
If Paul realizes he is Krockerman - that becomes a conscious lucid dream. If Krokcerman realizes he is God - that is awakening, the Ultimate lucid dream.
 

To admit idealism is to admit that reality could all just be imaginary. What serious intellectual wants to do that? The whole appeal of being an intellectual is to take one's mind seriously.
So it's a problem of the fox guarding the hen house.
An academic cannot admit idealism because that then leads to mysticism and that then leads to the end of his career.
People who discover mysticism either leave academia or don't enter it in the first place.

Suffering IS the loss of self.
Suffering is what it feels like for the ego-mind to get crushed.

Fear of being rejected, fear of blowing the chance.
The hotter the girl, the more you put her on a pedestal, the more you feel you need to impress her.
The trick to attracting hot girls is to treat them as if they are nobody special. And being a strong leader. This requires lots of practice.

@orpheos Take ownership of the problem and start acting with more passion. Fake it a bit till you make it.
Be more playful, more flirty, more proactive. Rub up on him, tease him, put your hands on him, etc.
This isn't rocket science. Don't ask how. Just do it. Learn to turn yourself on with your mind, and learn to turn him on.
If you need to watch porn, watch porn and take notes. Although really this stuff is pretty obvious.
A deeper issue you might have is shyness or fear of intimacy. Or perhaps you were raise in a family/culture which taught you to be ashamed of sex. In which case you're sexually repressed.
How do you fix that? By questioning those old beliefs to death and pushing your comfort zone and exploring sexuality. Many books have been written about sex.
Being good at sex isn't natural. It requires practice and training. Don't be afraid to practice and train. Go suck on a cucumber until you figure out a good way to do it. This kind of basic stuff is what women avoid, but it necessary if you want to get good. Don't expect good sex to happen automatically. You have to put energy and intention into it. You have to be interested in doing whatever it takes to make it good. This might mean buying books, videos, toys, courses, attending classes, watching porn, practicing, visualizing, talking with your partner, training with your partner, etc.

Of course not.
Male and female attraction is asymmetrical.
They fantasize about some knight in shining armor whisking them away. Read some cheap romance novels from Walmart to understand how women think about sex/relationships. That cheap romance novel from Walmart is a woman's version of porn.
Much less important. A woman is looking for strength and leadership qualities, not looks.
Of course if all else is equal, she will pick the guy with better looks. But in practice all else is never equal. This is why a guy with below average looks can attract girls with above average looks. He compensates for it with strong inner qualities. The nice thing about this is that it's possible to cultivate these strong inner qualities. The bad thing is, this involves serious emotional labor.
In a sense being a hot girl is easy because you don't have do anything. You wear your value on your sleeve. The downside of this is that if you're not a hot girl (and definition most girls aren't), it's almost impossible to change that. So men have more flexibility in this department. But in practice very few men actualize this possibility.
Most people end up settling for someone at roughly their level of reproductive value.

It's both

Infinity is not a something you can reason about. Realization of infinity requires a new state of consciousness which you have not yet had.

It's not so simple. Small children can act very selfishly. And they certainly have fear. Try taking a baby away from its mother. Notice the fear.
In a sense it's easy to be joyful as a kid because if you have good parents they will handle all of your survival needs for you, allowing you to play and not worry about survival. But as you grow a little bit you gotta start surviving by yourself and that's when life becomes hard and ego invents elaborate devilish survival mechanisms.
So that ego defense mechanism rises as a necessity of life. How do you navigate a world where everyone lies, cheats, steals, and manipulates? You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't. This is the fundamental dilemma of life.

In practice you're gonna have to settle for some compromise. You're never going to find the perfect package. Try to make a list of everything you want in a girl, then rank it from most to least important, and then be prepared to only get 60-80% of that list (if you're lucky).
There will always be hotter girls. Attracting and maintaining 9s and 10s is very difficult in practice. The chances of attracting a 9 with a great and suitable personality is very low. And of course looks will fade too.
Perfectionism here will be disastrous.
But also, you gonna determine if she meets your basic quality standards. Otherwise you will never be satisfied with her and she will sense that off you, and it's not fair to her.
So ask yourself this question very honestly: "Is she good enough for me to settle down with? Or would I regret it in the back of my mind?"
In general you need to get very clear with yourself about what is and isn't good enough for you. You need to be clear so that you can better screen girls in the future. So you don't end up settling for something that isn't right for you. This problem is not with her, but with your lack of knowing what you want. So get more clear about that. What are the things with a girl that you're not willing to negotiate on? Make a list.
For example, I have a few basic rules that are deal-breakers: like if she smokes, drinks, likes to get tattoos, or is overweight. I just know that I will never be satisfied with that. So it's best to not even continue down that road. Physical attractiveness is more tricky because there are so many degrees of it. Sometimes a girl is right on the edge where it's not clear. Ideally you want her to be at least 30% over the edge. Any lower and you'll probably be too luke-warm about her.
I've actually invested quite a bit of time simply training my eye for physical attractiveness. You can go to the local mall and just walk around looking at random girls and asking yourself, "Would I fuck her? Yes or no?" And force yourself to quickly make that determination within a few seconds. Do this a thousand times. As you practice this more you'll get better and better at quickly determining if a girl is right for you on the level of physical attractiveness. Obviously there are many other factors beyond that. But since looks is the first screen, it's important to get clear about that screen. Self-clarity is the key.
As you become more conscious, looks will matter to you less and less and your ability to love will increase exponentially.
Determine which features of physical attractiveness matter to you and which ones don't: tits, face, ass, height, hair, legs, weight, skin color, teeth, eyes, nose, race, etc. Get clear about what your deal-breakers are. It's a lot easier when you can screen for this stuff up front. It's very painful to do it once you know her. This screening needs to be done as early as possible.

I don't know much about him. He seems a bit like Canada's Bill Clinton.
His brown-face scandal I think is pretty silly. I don't think he's a racist. People just behave in crass ways sometimes when they are young.
When it comes to fighting racism the important thing is to look at the politician's systemic policies and not get distracted by superficial scandals.
For example, Trump's policies are racist. I don't see that with Trudeau. That's the important difference.
Judge Trudeau by his policies. Honestly I don't know much about his policies. He seems neo-liberal moderate and somewhat corporatist. Stage Orange/Green. Similar to Macron of France.

The Buddha was a Bodhisattva, who's life purpose was to awaken mankind.
What you're missing is that a life purpose doesn't have to come from ego, it can come from God. And anyways, all ego is just a limited expression of God. So even if an LP is coming from ego, it's still seeking God, however imperfectly.

Correct

@K VIL You can zoom into a pencil forever and you will never reach its bottom.
The pencil has the exact same scale as the Milky Way galaxy. Because all objects have the same scale: infinite.
It works just like a fractal. Each scale of the fractal is the same.

This right here is your problem.
Take ownership of this problem and fix it.
Move to a city which has the kind of vibe and people you like.
Of course some backwater town in Latin America is gonna be filled with very traditional stage Blue people. Create a plan for moving the fuck out. Go where the cool peeps at Getting there will be a great growing experience for you. Don't do it for them, do it for you.

Yes, definitely.
There are phases in this work when you're doing lots of general research but not getting much tangible results. And there are phases where you're practicing a narrow set of techniques and seeing tangible results but not doing much research.
You can naturally cycle between these phases depending on what your life requires.
You'll need to dynamically balance between the two extremes.
Watching a bunch of my videos will fill your head will too much theory and not enough tangible results. And yet, that theory will serve you well in the future when you get stuck or lost.
Things tend to auto-correct themselves in the long-run. Too much theory should naturally drive you to crave results. And vice versa.

Not all things can be found through such naive direct experience.
Here's a counter-example which throws a wrench in your logic:
Sushi seems healthy and delicious. Eating it makes you feel good compared to many other foods. It's light and refreshing and not over-cooked. But if you take this as a sign of health and you start eating sushi 4 times a week, eventually you'll discover it gives your lead and mercury poisoning. Your brain will start to function poorly as it fills with more and more heavy metals and you won't even know what's wrong with you until you get some medical tests which finally reveal the truth.
The moral of the story is that not all problems can be solved through straight direct experience. Sometimes you need an external source like an x-ray or a satellite photo or a Geiger counter to tell you something is unhealthy or problematic.
Also, some things are so dangerous that it's too risky to discover so through direct experience. For example, sticking a fork in the wall socket. In this case you just have to take people's word for it.

Which is why it will take some 100+ years.
Starting a significant cultural movement takes a long time.
We still barely have a cultural movement on climate change. And it's been like 50 years. And it's an issue that directly impacts all humans.
By all means, devote your whole life to it and transform society. If you dare
We have a better chance of simply evolving current humans. And anyways, you shouldn't be too worried about spiritual competition. There exist beings in our universe 1 million times more conscious and advanced than humans. So it's really not a race. We can only do so much so fast.

That's what I'm here for
It's not an ego-defense per se. It's just a lack of vision, leadership, and empathy.
Lots of people in society are suffering due to exploitation by those in power. Yet you don't care much about addressing that because you're in a relatively comfortable position yourself. If your daughter was raped, enslaved, or poisoned by some giant corporation dumping toxic chemicals in your water supply, you'd sing a different tune. All the sudden you'd take this stuff seriously because it now impinges on your survival agenda whereas before it was an intellectual abstraction.
You would feel very differently about global warming if you bought a $1 million house and it was sunk under water in 5 years. But so long as it doesn't personally cause you suffering, you don't care much.
That's perfect for the big oil companies. That's exactly what they want. While you sit around and wait, they will rake in $100 billion. Millions of people in 3rd world counties will be dislocated, famine and desertification will get real bad, wars will be waged, and new terrorist groups will form. But none of that will matter to the guys who rake in $100 billion.
And it won't matter to you until one of those terrorists blows up your daughter's school. But even then you'll probably just get angry at the terrorist group rather than connecting the dots and seeing how the terrorist group was merely an outgrowth of the global warming problem which lead to geopolitical stress in impoverished parts of the world.
In this way, root problems are never seriously understood or addressed.
That's precisely a recipe for disaster. The correct path forward is never an average of all the possible paths. Finding the right path requires careful judgment, research, contextual awareness, awareness of exploiters and manipulators, and ultimately wisdom and consciousness.
Finding the correct path requires a visionary. One who can look 100 years into the future and think in a non-self-biased way, aligned with Truth, Consciousness, and Love. Such a person must be selfless enough to sacrifice himself to show people the correct path, because he will be vehemently demonized and resisted by self-biased devils defending their self-interest.
Progress and innovation requires deep questioning of status quo positions and traditions. Nothing can be taken for granted. What's "normal" must be questioned and challenged without any concern for social norms. In a society where slavery is considered normal, it takes a radical to stand up and say, "This is not normal at all! This is devirly! You guys are selfish fucking devils."
Seeking to always be nice, peaceful, and "moderate" paradoxically leads to the rise of radicalism. When 100s of millions of people around the world are deeply suffering and deeply exploited, and you ignore this because you want to be "moderate" and congenial (because you are in a position of comfort), don't be surprised when those oppressed people organize and come after you with pitchforks. When they burn down your house, maybe you'll reconsider your moderate position.
Everything is intellectual until someone burns down your house or rapes your kids. Then you start paying attention.

What you fail to appreciate is that God CANNOT fulfill your wish because God has no form. It can only come through a vehicle, and this can always be denied.
By it's very nature God cannot force itself on a person in denial because the one denying God is God!
God explained this to you in the book. Yet you missed this important point.
God IS a closed circle. If you do not realize that God is talking through you, you're shit out of luck. Because you denied yourself, because you are God.
If God appeared in a glowing white robe and beard on the White House lawn tomorrow, and procliamed, "HEAR ME HUMANS! I AM YOUR GOD!" Most people would laugh, denying it, and some would even try to kill it and subject the corpse to scientific testing, at which point they would conclude: "this was just an ordinary human with some brain defects."
So it is imposisble for God to reveal itself to humans because humans are too stupid and closedminded to understand God.
This seems like a cop out. And yet it's precisely true. Because you are God denying you are God. If you don't get that you're God. That's it. You're fucked. Even God cannot help you now. This is the definition of devilry: you have cut yourself off from God by your own ignorance.
The truth is that God speaks to and through everything, but you must have enough wisdom to see it. And neither science nor skepticism nor proof is wisdom.

@Synchronicity I'd be more interested to know how this works in practice. Like how does it work to experience multiple lives at once? What does that feel like?
Even on high doses of psychedelics I don't get that. I experience infinity but always as my own one life.

@Hansu So what you're saying is, before the Civil War you would have been pro slavery.
Centrism just means you're basically going with the status quo, adding a little lipstick to a pig.
You have no vision for how great mankind could be.
And, see... as an centrist you're extremely easy to fool. All one has to do is stack the argument with extremist positions and you'll reflexively just adopt the half-way point.
So one side says: Abolish slavery. The other side says: let's get even more slaves. And you say: let's be reasonable and just keep the slaves we have.
Or one side says: global warming is a serious threat. The other side says: global warming is a hoax. And you say: who really knows? Let's wait and see.
All I have to do to fool you is fund a think tank which generates whatever serves my agenda, and you'll always split the difference because you don't evaluate anything on the merits of it by simply take the mid-point. So I just manipulate you by making sure to put forth such extreme positions that your mid-point ends but being exactly what best serves me and my interests. So if it serves me to own 50 slaves, I will set my position to be: I should be able to own 1000 slaves. And you as the centrist will go, "Okay, 1000 is too many slaves. Let's be reasonable. You can have 100." Deal!
What you're missing is that truth and rightness are not the average of any two positions.
You can't take a multiple choice exam, mark every answer "C", and expect to ace the class. If only life were so easy. Rarely is the answer "C".