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  1. Posted

    17 hours ago, Emerald said:

    To understand women, the first and most important thing to do is to understand how humans work... and to then recognize the humanity of a woman.

    I'd say, men and women are 80% similar based on the core humanity. And it's something that's gotten even clearer to me working as a coach over the past 7 years. We're all going through the same core human patterns.

    And one major blindspot that I notice that a sizable percentage of men have is that they can tend to see women as fundamentally alien to themselves... like a totally different species.

    And this tends to create a lot more tension and friction to developing positive friendships and romantic relationships with women for the men who see women as alien. 

    And it creates this worship/hate dynamic, where men with this paradigm will see woman as both above and below them... like angels and demons, instead of actual people.

    And the same can't be said the other way around. Most women don't see men as alien to themselves.

    And this tends to create an imbalance between the sexes level of understanding of one another where women understand more about men than men understand about women simply by recognizing that men are as human as they are and are going through all the regular human things.

    But in the 20% of qualities that are genuinely different between men and women, I would sum up the main difference that I notice like this...

    Think about movies where people are skillfully sneaking into a maximum security place to retrieve something.

    And the person is about to walk into an open room with the thing they're trying to retrieve on a table in the middle of the room. 

    But then, someone notices that there are a bunch of faint red laser lines all over the room. And if anyone walks across one of those laser lines, then the cops will be informed and will come immediately.

    And then, the person retrieving the item has to duck and weave through all the red laser lines.

    In this metaphor, the red laser lines represent raw emotional information and vibes. 

    And generally, women can see the red lines more easily and can see the implications of what happens relationally if those lines are crossed... for better and for worse.

    This creates more social awareness and a deeper connection to feeling in general... but also difficulties doing what needs doing if it means crossing a social line. And grudges can be held more easily because there's a deeper connection to the underlying lattice-work of 'laser lines world'. Red laser-lines world doesn't go away... it's very loud.

    Also, red-laser lines world is complex... and it takes a lot of skill to learn to read it. And if you don't learn how to read it, it will bury you in TONS of un-processable information.

    And generally, for Masculine men (but not usually Feminine men) they can't see the red laser lines quite as easily and have less connection to what happens if those laser lines are crossed... for better and for worse. 

    On one hand, decisions can be made more quickly and unnecessary boundaries can be discarded more easily. And red-laser lines world in HD is A LOT of information to constantly process... so, it's easier to emotionally regulate when the laser lines are a bit fainter, as there isn't so much information that it's overpowering.

    But it can be easier to disassociate from red-laser lines world altogether, since the lines are a fainter and easier to ignore. And when that happens there can be a "bull in a china shop" dynamic with those red laser lines... and real social consequences can happen but not be felt. This is especially true for men who see red laser lines world as unimportant or lame.

    Red lasers are a good analogy for social dynamics and power games I might steal it.  Usually most men don't really play the social games of society they mostly just labor so they don't have to learn social dynamics quite as much as most women do. 

  2. Posted · Edited by LordFall

    29 minutes ago, AION said:

    Emotional intelligence is an internal skill to regulate your body-mind and emotions in particular. Picking the right partner is more a social/cognitive skill. I.e dating people, take lessons out of it, changing mindset, chosing different kind of women to date. That is how I see it.  I'm not looking for a long term relationship but I would I would fed for very specific things. 

    Emotional intelligence is a wide set of skills. Emotional self-regulation is just one of those. Understanding your impulses i.e. wanting to go jump and date random women and where that stems from and how to do it in a productive way is a component of it. 

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    Understanding your ability to be alone with yourself and understanding if you want a partner for a constructive reason or just cuz you're bored, anxious and low self-esteem would lead one to have more intentional relationships and not a string of breakups. 

    Also goes full circle in why emotional intelligence is an attractive trait in both men and women. Someone who doesn't understand their own emotions let alone yours will be a nightmare to deal with. They will constantly invalidate you and not be there for you when you're stressed/anxious and good chance they will throw it back to you and make it worse. Plenty of women have low emotional intelligence as well and would make a bad wife as a result. 

     

  3. Posted

    Just now, AION said:

    I already told you but you are not reading. He chose the wrong women.

    Perhaps but to make this a useful exercise in understand human psychology we have to ask ourselves why does someone choose the wrong women to partner up with continuously. To me that screams lack of self-awareness and a stripe of impulsivity which are the cornerstones of lack of emotionally intelligence which is where my assumptions came from. 

  5. Posted · Edited by LordFall

    It's a good case to talk about. Clearly with his relationship track record I'm sure he struggles with emotional intelligence and communication skills. It's not because you a lot of women want to sleep with you that you're a great partner. A lot of these high status guys make the lives of the women they're dating more difficult and stressful, not more pleasant. I get why they experience a lot of breakups after the novelty wears off. 

  6. Posted

    Thank you for sharing friend. I agree with it, people should embrace themselves as the hero of their lives and not give so much importance to celebrities apart from learning mechanisms of success from them.

    For me the most interesting part of looking at my life as a story is looking at today as mid chapter of it and looking back at the early chapters to hypothesize where the later chapters end up.

    I've recently moved back to my childhood neighbourhood and house after living away since being 10 years old and it's been trippy exploring my old neighbourhood and old city after being away for about 20 years. I both feel a sense of failure since I've moved away to different cities in my 20s and worked hard on business and still had to move back but also a sense of safety and profound looping.

    I read the book Mastery by Robert Greene a few years ago and he talks about going back to the basics to things that you enjoyed in your childhood in order to inspire your masterpieces as an adult. I've been keeping that in mind and thinking about which part of my life are desperate overreaches for things that are not really important to me and which parts are authentically beautiful that I resonate with without needing to derive an outcome from them. I'm working on making my own video game and anime and that's the most fun I've been having these past couple of years so perhaps that will be part of my life purpose in the end. 

    It's still a work in progress and I'm thankful for the deep introspection that's common on this forum and the opportunity to get to know myself deeper by getting to know you guys deeper. 

  7. Posted

    10 hours ago, AION said:

    If you are Brad Pitt you don't have to do anything to lock a woman in. But if you are not, you have to play with the toys god given you. So you either have to bring status or capital or the poor man's choice: romance aka story building. Greene talks about this extensively in his book Influence. You might want to look into it.

    I don't know what kind of godlike image of Brad Pitt you have in mind but he's had 9 high profile breakups including 2 full on divorces.

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    Being high status doesn't save you from the reality of human relationships. A lot of these actors have very bad communication and emotional intelligence skills and they wind up entangled with partners they are not really compatible with. 

  9. Posted

    7 minutes ago, Porphyry Fedotov said:

    Europe took in close to 5 million Ukrainian refugees without any issues. 40k Moroccan zoomers isn't a problem. The real issue is a racism

    Well there are plenty of issues, in Poland for example the anti-ukrainian sentiment is rising and some assaults are occurring because of it

    https://www.infomigrants.net/en/post/72703/polish-prime-minister-warns-of-rising-antiukrainian-sentiment-following-attack

    To go back to the Morrocans migrants, what do you propose they do with them? They can't stay in Ceuta there is no work or lodging for them. Even in Spain as a whole there isn't really capacity. Are you going to house and employ them?

    Spain is one of the least racist countries in the world. They just gave legal status to over 500k undocumented migrants just a few months ago

     

  10. Posted

    Offer a lot of value and connect to her emotions.

    Give her a wide spread of emotional experiences like a roller coaster, probably mostly positive but some negative ones are inevitable.

    Offer value like good experiences but also legitimate guidance and structure in her life.

    A lot of men are a net negative if you did a spreadsheet of the good and bad they bring you would realize your association with them is negative and you need to get them out of your life for the sake of your flourishing. A lot of women do that same calculation and tend to stay away from the majority of men. 

    It's hard to continuously offer genuine value but it's one of the only roads to keeping people around long term. It's one of the core aspects of leadership as most people either don't offer value/leash it or are fake leaders aka the blind leading the blind. 

  11. Posted

    13 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

    If understanding them required you to turn gay would you. You see my dilemma here. I don't think its this complicated.  I don't think you need to become them. You just have to pleasure them right and they will return.

    It's interesting that you phrase it in the context of homophobia like you're scared of turning gay. You're treating understanding the feminine as a threat to your masculine identity, rather than an expansion of it.

    I've taken a decent amount of psychedelics and it served me to not tie my identity so strongly with my current sense of self. It allowed me to experience a greater spectrum of emotions that I usually felt in my daily life. Women tend to experience a wider variety of emotions and especially neuroticism so perhaps it helped my capacity as an event host. A lot of women have told me they feel comfortable around me and the events I host. Men especially straight men tend to be pretty aloof sometimes lack empathy which is defined as being able to understand and SHARE someone's feelings, thoughts and experiences. 

  12. Posted · Edited by LordFall

    3 hours ago, VioleGrace said:

    Fair point, but what i mean is not anybody will want to do this type of thing for a living, 

    Lot of people won't want to host party run ads for just for the sake of getting laid, especially if they have other life purposes,

    I guess that you are already passionate by photography, run businesses host party around all of it DM hot girls etc ... 

    This is a lot of work that a lot won't afford to do if it is just to get laid 
     

    Of course. This is the point of lifestyle design and where this goes to stage yellow and systems thinking. You're using your energy to create the best life as possible just like anybody else but just way more efficiently and with social circle knowledge that's not known to every man.

    The idea is that you should align your dating/sex life goals, business/career and your hobbies and interest. For example RSD and the cold approach teachers tend to be extroverts and like going out to clubs often so they base their life around cold approach and going out 3-4 times a week if not 7 days a week. Then they build a business around it so instead of their career suffering from being a wanna be socialite, they start a new cashflow vertical and a business around it.

    You must know yourself, your skillset, how you like to spend your time and your goals. I don't like to go out that often so I like building systems that make my social life as efficient as possible and let me meet a lot of people and be high status by going out only 1-2 a month.

    3 hours ago, VioleGrace said:

    And for exemple if i take my case i would have a lot more trouble than you, 

    I am a personnal trainer so i have no photography knowledge or really basics ones, and i can't help model exept if they want to get in better shape, but i can't build event around that 

    In paris so appartement are a lot more tiny, so would have to find bigger appartement that are expensive  (Not that it is impossible of course just it is way harder and more expensive)
     

    You can easily throw events based on fitness and training. Run clubs are good example or you can do a group workout in the park. You shoot content and make reels out of it so now you're scaling your reach. Hot girls will go to events the more high status they are/the more money you spend on them. So if you host a free group workout at the park you might get 2 random guys and one 38 year old woman to come. If you spend 1000 euros on a luxury dinner then you'll get hotter girls in their 20s but you'll lose money and not get laid. That's fine these are just acquisition funnels. 

    You can try different types of events until you get the outcome you want. Monetizing it is crucial because otherwise you're operating at a loss and spending money to meet women which the average guy is also doing but more cheaply than you. If you build a brand you'll be able to meet women for free or eventually profit while doing it. I'm slowly getting to this point. Calibration and not developing a bad reputation while increasing your status is important as well. 

    3 hours ago, VioleGrace said:

    What are your results so far in term of income and with girls 
     

    When I was doing social circle game in the nightlife scene I slept with like 15 women from it. Got also a few FWBs out of it. I combined it with online dating as well. My income fluctuates from it, I had a client paying me $5000/month a while to help him shoot content and host events and I charge $500 for photoshoots for guys that want dating pictures in Canada. I'm still working on my marketing and brand so my income is not consistent but I'm trying new formats like this Speed Dating event I shared here that show some promise

    I'm documenting the business side of what I'm doing on this thread here. I started in February after I lost my $5000/month client so my income took a dive so this was part of my education in diversifying my streams of income and not rely on one client for my standard of living. Business has been hard for me, I'm not as industrious as most entrepreneurs as you can see I like to mix business and pleasure but it's been a fun journey so far and hopefully in a couple years I'll reach more consistent cashflow verticals and be at a more solid 20-30k/month and with how system based everything I do is I'll have a lot of free time for hedonism and focusing on building a BSDM polycule ala Christian Grey. 

     

  13. Posted · Edited by LordFall

    1 hour ago, enchanted said:

    What on earth is Spain doing in Africa? Lol

    The Strait of Gibraltar has lead so many fun times in history. It's only about 14 KM and the shortest point between Europe and Africa so it's served for mutual conquest from both territories many time in human history. My personal favorite is Hannibal sailing war  elephants across it and then traversing the Alps to attack the Roman Republic in the 3rd century BC. Spain was conquered by the Moors and was Islamic for almost 800 years from 711 to 1492. The current cities Spanish cities in Africa of Ceuta and Melilla come from their counter expansion back in the 15th century. The people from there have lived there for hundreds of years, calling it imperialism at this point is a bit silly in my view. 

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  14. Posted

    35 minutes ago, Heaven said:

    You saying Israel might organized that is pure speculation and creating more hate towards Israelis and Jewish people which caused the Holocaust. Be careful making false claims like that.

    It is speculation but not pure speculation without ground. Israel has deep security/intelligence ties (post-Abraham Accords) and they gain moral ground with their Gaza fiasco by also now throwing Spain into the neo-imperialist boat which makes Spain’s hardline stance against Israel's actions in Gaza look silly.

    The Trump family and thus the current US administration have already made their plans to parts of Gaza into a luxury resort so stirring up trouble and painting arabs as violent migrants that don't respect property rights is in their short term advantage as well. 

  15. Posted · Edited by LordFall

    35 minutes ago, VioleGrace said:

    Cause of how who and why you use systems 

     

    Cause yellow is using systems not just to make it work in HIS favor, for yellow the why ? you use system and wich ? One you use is important not just the how ? and for whom ? Even if it is a big part of it too without taking all of these in account you are just at an orange state 

    Moreover i don't think that one or 2 action will be enough to get to a stage or an other but i don't think that is what you meant there anyway

     

    Ok i get it now thanks for the explanation 

    But that is not something anybody can apply 

    A Dev can't host business meeting with models for exemple

    I never said I used my systems only in my favor. I benefit the models in my community as well as everybody in my community, there are male photographers, male models and business owners of both genders in it. I run business clubs as well, creatives is just one of my niches. I'm the owner of it so I benefit the most but that's a function of me having created communities that give value to others. 

    Be careful of spiritual bypassing that is common in stage green circles. They can't offer value because they reject stage orange so they demonize anything business or value oriented because well sour grapes and grab in a bucket and end up massively virtue signalling while hurting people with their lack of action oriented beliefs. 

    Why can't a dev host a business meeting with models? He would just need a context and something valuable to share. If a dev can learn to make great websites en masse using AI and has a way to get increased views for their content and get them paid sponsorships then he can do the exact same thing I'm doing. Value is universal it doesn't depend on your job title but what problems you can solve in other people's lives. 

    You can host this exact event if you want to : 

    I came up with it out of thin air. Jeff the guy at 1:10 I throw repeated events with and he has a nice house that we used for the photoshoots and I decided to make this one a Content Mastermind instead of just a photoshoot so people shared on their content strategy and I gave a speech before it started. Since I've done a lot of these I get repeat models that come but you can do this in your own cities by dming them on Instagram or running a Meta Ad. 

  16. Posted

    34 minutes ago, Davino said:

    The situation is crazy right now, for a population of 84k aprox, more than 50k rushing into the city is an emergency. Some people in Spain are calling it an invasion, it's not technically that, but it could be viewed in that fashion. Some strong decisions have to be made, but current gov is left party so I'm doubtful they'll make such a call, again something has to be done otherwise there's gonna be a critical escalation regionally, nationally and internationally.

    It's like a soft invasion. It's not meant as hostile but for the people living there it must feel like one which is why I linked the Reddit thread where a woman was talking it from her perspective experiencing it.

    3 minutes ago, Ulax said:

    I'm left wing. But so many on my side are so blind to the issues of immigration.

    We rightly bang on about how important socialisation is. For example, teaching guys and girls healthy belief systems growing up. But then try to somehow act like the fact that someone who you've not had any chance to socialise isn't going to pose some serious risks.

    I'm left wing as well but we can't be ignorant to realities. If we don't follow due process we end up with violent anarchy soon enough. Those dudes seem to be willingly going back home but humans are humans. Give them no food for a few days and access to weapons and they will kill their own people and take their house soon enough. Let alone the ones they see as colonial occupiers like the residents of Ceuta and Melilla. Even though those countries have been a part of Spain for hundreds of years before Morocco was a country. 

  18. Posted · Edited by LordFall

    38 minutes ago, VioleGrace said:

    It seems to me that you are using overly reductionnism on these stage moreover it being really biased towards orange values 

    Why? Stage yellow is based on systemic understanding as well as multiperspectivalism. If you can make the systems of the world start to work in your favor rather than against you which they are by default I would say that's a stage yellow strategy. In which part do you think it's reductionist? 

    38 minutes ago, VioleGrace said:

    I am confuse, women are your client ? 

    No I operate a media agency. I do both B2B contracts and b2c personal branding & dating photoshoots with it. 

    Royals Agency is my Media Agency

    https://www.instagram.com/royals__agency

    Royals Dating is my dating brand

    https://www.instagram.com/royals.dating

    I organize photoshoot events and own multiple online communities with models in them so I'm considering it turning it into an influencer agency and helping the models and influencers in my communities shoot content and find affiliate deals.

    This is one of my communities in Toronto. I have a few different ones across Canada and soon the US and Europe. 

    https://www.instagram.com/creatives_toronto

     

  19. Posted

    @Hojo Our bodies are right now made of about 60% water that doesn't mean that our lived experience is that of an unconscious wave. Money is the culmination of organized chaos, you can definitely make the argument that making a lot of money is the ultimate expression of art since it organizes all of the universe into a universal currency of value.

    @Inliytened1 I don't know if I would call it a bias, it's clearly divine will. 

  21. Posted

    15 minutes ago, Loveeee said:

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    I've heard a cool theory about Jesus lately on his role in saving humanity of its sins like the Catholics claim it. It's by social scientist René Girard. One of his main contributions to sociology is mimetic desire where humans mostly decide on their life goals and objective by looking at what others have and mimicking it. Until Jesus the main tales and heroes of humanity were violent conquerors. He was the only one who stood out as being a blameless victim as opposed to being a powerful ruler. This story outside of anything divine or spiritual has permeated throughout 2000 years of history and inspired civil rights movements across many nations culminating in our future world peace and final unification as a species because he was given a mystical experience and chose to die as a martyr instead of escaping prosecution. 

    All this today even Jesus probably doesn't like death he just got promised reincarnation into our future world of post scarcity and abundance and VR waifus. 

  22. Posted · Edited by LordFall

    I don't think it happens often like this but sometimes sure. 

    In practice if you have a harem you ask the women in it come fuck and you go fuck and everyone is happy. These cases happen when the man asks come fuck and they say no not in the mood or X reason and the man uses coercion or force to force them into it and is actual rape and/or sexual assault. 

    In the case of Harvey Weinstein for example he would get them alone in a room and say well you wanna fuck or blow me? And they say no and he says well okay think about it if you stick with no you're done in this industry and you will never get an acting role ever again. Some of them successfully navigated this blacklist and still made it and some had to switch industries and some went through with it. It's called quid pro quo sexual harassment when it happens in corporate america. 

  23. Posted

    13 minutes ago, Hojo said:

    It will happen eventually that you do something the other person dosent like. The woman wont tell you in the moment. You are their saviour.

    Sure that can happen in any relationship where one doesn't have the communication skills or boundaries to voice concerns in the moment. It happening over and over again and the other party not feeling that there is something wrong and/or sweeping boundaries under the rug is how the toxic part of the relationship starts. A cult dynamic or power imbalance makes that 5x more potent which is why with great power comes great responsibility. 

  24. Posted

    No you are lying and wrong. I don't believe you have ever done this so you are literally lying and spiritually by passing by saying something profound that you won't actually do.

    You are wrong because deconstructing reality with the mind i.e. philosophy is quite joyful and the feeling you get from doing so first of all is constant as you get continuous joy and deeper joy with each new insight you get and is longer lasting than whatever feeling of letting go you would get by putting your face into cow shit for the sake of enjoying life. 

  25. Posted

    18 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

    You can't convince life over death. 

    According to Gemini, this is what you mean : From the perspective of absolute consciousness, life and death are completely equal, so you can't logically prove that living is better than dying.

    Is this what you mean? If so I still think you're wrong but I wanna make sure we're talking about the same thing here.