I Fucked Up.

[LordFall]

Two main things come to mind after reading your post 

1) You seem to shame your own sexuality a lot. I would argue you seducing a woman is a gift to her, as long as you don't lie about your intentions and lead her on. Life is boring and stressful and you don't need to marry a girl for 50 years to offer value to her life. A fun night of kissing and bonding refreshes anyones soul, you don't need to see them for a long period of time afterwards to make that a mutually beneficial exchange.

2) You seem to lack a container in your life for women that you're not massively into but are still friendly with. That's where the power of social circle game and container events shine. You can organize a monthly or bimonthly event that aligns with your interest where you invite all the women you know and your friends and use it as both a testing ground for how these women align with your life but also as a way to keep in touch with women that you wouldn't necessarily ask out on a full date but also aren't already part of your social circle. I'm in the creative industry so I've done this with photoshoots and open mic events. Dinner parties can aslo work well for this.

[Valach]

37 minutes ago, LordFall said:

1) You seem to shame your own sexuality a lot. I would argue you seducing a woman is a gift to her, as long as you don't lie about your intentions and lead her on. Life is boring and stressful and you don't need to marry a girl for 50 years to offer value to her life. A fun night of kissing and bonding refreshes anyones soul, you don't need to see them for a long period of time afterwards to make that a mutually beneficial exchange.

A lot of people (vast majority) carry a lot of trauma that leads them to pursue things that are fundamnetally not good for them. Human mind is rather fragile. A lot of people will get hurt and get jaded by going through these experiences. It is not as simple as "having fun in the moment is good for you". I mean you could use the same arguments for doing drugs or any unhealhty habbit that clearly have a long term effects on you and those are usually not positive.

With a lot of self-awarreness you can easily spot this in people. Many time I have met woman (or men but obviously it is easier to spot in people you date) who eventhough they engage in casual stuff and dating, you can sense that they truly do not desire it. And they are just using it to run away from themselfs.

 

[LordFall]

You seem to not be comfortable with sexuality as I've already mentioned about you on in a previous post.

What process have you gone through in your life to get to the root of your own shame and discomfort around it and do you have litmus tests to know if you're creating a positive experience for the women you're interacting with and or if you're reinforcing their bad behaviours?

The way you talk about sexuality like it's a dangerous opioid is not healthy in my eyes but I could be wrong.

[Ulax]

Seems chill to me