RendHeaven
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6 minutes ago, soos_mite_ah said:Off Days and Punishing Small Mistakes
Dear God this entire post speaks to my soul on a molecular level. My parents had the exact same parenting "strategy" as you're describing... and I've dealt with the same personality shadow that that produces.
I'm determined to end the generational ignorance here and now: I'm prioritizing trust, acceptance, and love over "correct action" with any children I ever have responsibility for.
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Smile with your eyes.
Words come and go
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@Flowerfaeiry yeah pretty much
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9 minutes ago, Heart of Space said:Hey babe, I'll take you out and treat you real well. I bet I could impress you. I'm quite the ladies man.
I'm so relieved that you're gay lmao
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10 hours ago, Raphael said:Emotions are logical. I'll even go as far as saying that emotions = logic.
Interesting... can you elaborate? This goes against conventional wisdom, do you think you can anticipate counterarguments and articulate why "emotions = logic" nonetheless?
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Lol there just happens to be a new episode addressing this exact question...
But long story short:
- Love = Acceptance.
- Acceptance = To Embrace.
- To Embrace (in the Highest sense), is to Contain Wholly.
- To Contain Wholly is to exclude nothing.
- God, as All Things, excludes nothing, and thereby Contains Wholly (All Things).
Therefore, through simple substitution, we arrive at the insight that God (as All Things) literally equals (The Highest) Love.
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~~imagination~~
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@MatteO22 You seem to have a giant shadow against submission.
Consider that submission (coming from a pure heart) IS ultimate feminine empowerment, but I don't believe you recognize this since you work so hard to denounce and disown it.
Not to mention that you made the connection between submissiveness and inferiority, to which I say, "says who?"
Be careful of conflating the full scope of submissiveness with our stupid cultural notions of submissiveness.
At the highest level, all finitude submits and surrenders to Infinity, and such an act of submission is Greater than any petty human domination.
Likewise, all degrees and gradations of human submissiveness mimic this Divine Process (some degrees and gradations more pure than others).
When one realizes this, there is no room left to ascribe "inferiority."
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1 minute ago, Peter Miklis said:Better to just not define them at all tbh, and come to your own conclusions throught real life experience.
To "come to [any] conclusions" IS to define.
Without first defining (explicitly or otherwise), there is no thing of which to make a conclusion out of.
So you can't really separate definition from conclusion, which you seem to want to do.
It's like you're saying: "better to draw a square that isn't a quadrilateral."
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But maybe I'm being overly technical, I feel I understand what you mean to say
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6 hours ago, MatteO22 said:By the way I just wanna say this on record, I fucking hate when people say that being feminine equates being submissive. Hate! That! Shit! It’s such a B.S!
Femininity is badass. It’s knowing your worth, it’s allowing your emotional needs to inform your boundaries, it’s being okay with saying no to toxic or undesirable situations and relationships. Femininity is the most gangster, self-worth filled, non-defensive, intuitive and powerful force out there. It’s fucking real, and has nothing to do with submission. It’s a force of nature that births civilisations into existence.
I have spoken !
I agree with the bold, but let's be real - there does seem to be a strong correlation between self-identified femininity and sexual submissiveness.
No, that doesn't mean that the feminine is weak, lol. I never said that.
It's just an acknowledgement of general social trends, void of value judgement.
So, does all femininity literally equate to submissiveness in a one to one ratio? Obviously not.
But at the same time, to say that femininity "has nothing to do with submission" is naive.
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@Raphael AUGHH THE DISCOMFORT BURNSS
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2 hours ago, soos_mite_ah said:I guess if I were to have a website, I would have a tab for my personal, on going journey, another tab explaining the basics of spiral dynamics in an short but entertaining way, another tab talking about self development/ spirituality, and another tab for social commentary/activism.
Bingo. Might as well try it... you're not alone...
On 6/15/2021 at 10:34 AM, flume said:Also currently working on my website
I'm in the process of transferring some of my posts from here to there. Ah, I'm excited. I'm glad that websites like squarespace exist. Makes it so easy for a noob like me to create a good looking website. I still need a logo and will have to spend some time thinking about branding. Will use the coming days to write a little bit about me and take some pictures. Cool beans!
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@Bob Seeker On it
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19 minutes ago, EmptyVase said:Ever got a ball straight to your cojones?
~~just being feels sooo gooood~~
?? ?? ??
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8 minutes ago, intotheblack said:It’s really not the case that no guys can be friends with an attractive female.
If you are a guy who was well socialised with girls growing up and don’t objectify them, have your own balanced feminine energy, can get feminine energy from ways other than sex and don’t see women as something to conquer.. then that neediness of wanting to fuck any hot girl you see actually diminishes.Of course!
But how often do we see this?
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3 minutes ago, Lucas-fgm said:For god's sake, it's just obvious that most guys don't see any girl like their friends. Unless they are ugly. Unbelievable how innocent you girls are.
I feel like this is a toxic judgement, but my instinct is to agree.
From my POV, every single heterosexual male "friend" that a conventionally attractive woman has is covertly gaining proximity in hopes to fuck.
While I continue to (lightly) hold this belief as true, I won't weaponize this "truth" to judge women's decisions.
To me, it's a no-brainer for hot girls to instantly disown their straight male friends - "if I were a hot girl..." I'd say -
but then I stop, because maybe she has different needs than my myopic male lense of worldly sense-making.
And so I honor her autonomy.
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Pardon me as I rant about myself for a few paragraphs -
I had a similar thought once. I thought my niche could be to "Help young straight men realize the virtues of SD stage green" - "virtues" including all things social justice but also including helping them to get in touch with their emotions, to help them be less forcefully opinionated, more open & listening, energy work, and helping them to feel firsthand the power of expanding your circle of concern outwards to others, etc.
And I thought that my medium could be youtube, since that way these guys can literally watch me embodying strength + happiness (instead of conceptually preaching at them through an article, not to mention our generation is addicted to youtube lmao). I thought I'd be in a unique position to cover this area of self-help/spirituality, as I've been that abrasive SD orange guy during my high school years. Also, I have the optics (straight male, capable of debating rationally if need be) to convince those very people who need help the most... orange hates listening to green. But maybe they'd listen to me lol.
And every day I hear more and more people (especially women, but also people like forestluv) complaining about the lack of feminine integration in the male populous...
I'm personally still conflicted though, because in hindsight that vision is small-fry compared to my true potential. Teaching orange about green feels like babysitting when I could be building a rocket to mars. But maybe I'm getting ahead of myself, I don't have actual results in the social world yet so maybe I'll have to do some babysitting first.
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Tl;dr - yes teaching SD is 100% valid, if not an excellent way to start out.
50 minutes ago, soos_mite_ah said:Is my niche too specific?
Quite the opposite. You're far too broad.
Try to narrow it down to address a specific problem you see in this world.
Why you? And who's gonna listen to you? What specifically do they get out of it, and what does the world get out of it?
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I also want to mention that you have one of the few journals on this site that I actively look forward to reading. I don't mean to box you into writing as a medium with this comment, rather just trying to point out that you have a unique strength.
More specifically, your strength isn't necessarily writing per se, but something more like presentation - you tend to dig deep consistently, because that's just who you are. You simultaneously showcase your "flaws" but then have a meta-awareness of how you're bullshitting yourself, and then you proceed to forgive and embrace. It's like watching Self-Love work being done in real time. Usually people only show the before-and-after (I'm guilty of this myself) but you're enthusiastic about the during.
I recommend therefore, that your LP should incorporate this strength - presenting to the world your during-process, as opposed to a stark before-and-after.
If you go forward with this advice, not everyone will come along for the ride (let's face it: many people just want a simple before-and-after), but your target audience will be 1000x more loyal to you, and I'd bet your impact and self-satisfaction will multiply likewise
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1 minute ago, Etherial Cat said:I need people to be genuine, authentic and be interested in my welfare.
Believe it or not, these qualities are not mutually exclusive with the act of "picking up" women.
In fact, the real "art" imo comes from deeply embodying these qualities.
4 minutes ago, Etherial Cat said:Most pick up artist are just interested in lowering down your boundaries for a while and then will go hunt another girl.
Sadly, correct.
6 minutes ago, Etherial Cat said:I'd say, I am too emotionally intelligent and sensitive for pick up to work.
I believe you.
Just keep your heart open - virtuous men exist
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@mivafofa EW, DEAR LORD.
I deeply apologize on behalf of all men
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4 minutes ago, Etherial Cat said:I walk in the streets. A pick up artist comes to me and ask me to remove my headphone to have a chat. I clock him and we talk pick up. After a while of discussing pick up technics, he tries to test if I'm down to fuck by giving me a big hug. That's a technic see if I'm ready to get physical but I guess he didn't know I also knew about that one. It's corona time so I tell him I'm not interested. He still wants to test my receptivity and proceed anyway. <- My personal sovereignty is totally overruled by his desire to fuck. My boundary has been trespassed. I can't trust this person and I close off.
Has this actually happened to you??
Because that "pick up artist" is a garbage, shit-tier picker-upper (not even an artist lmao).
The whole point of pick up (done right) is that the man meet all of the woman's emotional needs first and foremost!
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@ivankiss So has she taken the guy up on his advances?
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1 hour ago, EmptyVase said:I also think that there is a "higher" mastery, which would be the perfect genius of existence. By aligning with the truth of what we are, we open the doors to be co-creators, thus align with the mastery of existence, thus becoming masters in our zone of genius.
Mhm, it fucks with me sometimes when I understand that nothing is not-mastery - or more directly, everything is mastery - by virtue of sheer existence alone. And yet, sometimes we are able to distinguish what seems to relatively be not-mastery (a noobie at a craft making obvious errors, lacking experience, holding back, etc.)
So what really is the core of "mastery," as a self-consistent thing?
It might be useful to distinguish an uppercase M - Mastery (the "highest" existential mastery, as you note) apart from a lowercase m - mastery (the mundane human kind) but even then we have to notice at what point the uppercase blends into the lowercase and vice versa.
And now slap on the additional twist of subjective perception regarding the relative... is it wholly up to me to declare things "mastery" or not according to personal whim? Or is "mastery" something beyond personal preference and bias? But if it is "greater" than myself, then why am I unable to untangle myself from the object of inquiry?
Sometimes it feels futile to talk about mastery dualistically as you notice how your own categories begin to break down.
But at the end of the day we know when we feel mastery nonetheless... so we know that it is, at the very least, as a private experience. It's all so interconnected and yet so lonely
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1 hour ago, EmptyVase said:For me, this song is a trip. It really takes me on a journey in which I'm just melting with the song. Bursts my heart open every time I hear it.
It's also superb from a technical POV. Not an easy task to put a song like that together. But for me, it's more because of the feeling this song emits, not so much the technicality of it.
Amazing.
Personally, I didn't feel that myself, but if that is what you encountered, then it is very much "real..."
This leads me to the insight that mastery is inextricably interconnected with personal subjective perception (or something akin to that, as opposed to conceiving of mastery as something independently "out there" unaffected by "perception")
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Posted · Edited by RendHeaven
Hey I just read your comment on soosmiteah's journal, and wanted to casually respond without derailing her journal... I hope it's ok if I post here?
I think that this is the biggest issue that anybody with any great idea will face... Streaming/Video does not erase this problem in the slightest - even on twitch you'd be competing for eyeballs day in and out. I have a buddy who's been streaming his video game playthroughs on twitch for years now and only gets like 3 viewers per stream lol (now to be fair he's doing a lot of things unoptimally, but my point is that the struggle for eyeballs is universal and inescapable).
This is fucked up but 100% valid lol. I've noticed a really interesting phenomenon (at least on this forum) where female members on average gain nearly double the followers as their male counterparts -per post count (ESPECIALLY if they have a face-shot in their profile image).
I can only theorize, because the "facts" of this matter are vague, but I am guessing that female members effortlessly follow each other out of a sense of empathy and shared perspective, while male members will also follow female members because of pretty profile face shots. I mean there are girls on here with content post counts in the low 100s that already have almost 10 (majority male) followers, like dwarniel, barbara, jessichell, etc. They all have extremely high post-to-follower ratios!
On the contrary, I find that women don't follow men as often due to a disconnect of perspective (not to mention that there are many many more men here, so if a woman is to follow a man it's more likely that they'd go for someone established like Nahm rather than a nobody with only 100 posts).
In other words, I don't think it's possible for a new male here with no prior clout to replicate the high post-to-follower ratio of a semiattractive girl after just 100 posts, (unless each post was somehow GODLY in quality a la TJReeves or BeingFrankYang) and I think we can reasonably attribute this disparity in attention to visual appearance...
All in all leads me to the half-baked conclusion that "looks," especially if you're a woman, is definitely a valid way to get your message more heard. That's not good or bad or right or wrong, it just is what it is...