He called me stupid

[Depersonilized]

@Preety_India You'd give up your life for him, but you feel insecure when he playfully calls you stupid? Stop lying to yourself. Why the hell would you give up your life for him? I seriously doubt that your relationship has gone on long enough for anything remotely like that. Have some more self-respect. 

[Preety_India]

@Depersonilized yea I felt like I would lose him. Because I felt scared when he called me stupid.

It's not long relationship at all. It began on June 11 this month.

We began talking to each other and I felt very attached to him very quickly.

I have no idea/clue what happened that I became mad after him

Something happened in my heart and I couldn't stop thinking about him..

Just his thought would constantly make me laugh and bring a smile on my face and I felt like he is the one I really really want to spend my life with.

So I told him my feelings directly and decided not to hide.

I still feel like I can literally give up my life for him. 

He is all over my mind, over my heart.

I feel like I can't live without him.

I can't explain this madness 

It's a very strange feeling of extreme joy and excitement that I feel every time I think of him.

Just his thoughts and I get super super excited.

 

Edited June 27, 2021 by Preety_India

[Preety_India]

9 minutes ago, Depersonilized said:

@Preety_India I seriously doubt that your relationship has gone on long enough for anything remotely like that. 

You're right. It's not long at all. Just 2 weeks.

 

[Depersonilized]

@Preety_India Yeah, seriously value yourself more than that. You're worth more than a guy you met two weeks ago. You've got some work to do. Get to it?

[Zeroguy]

4 hours ago, Depersonilized said:

@Preety_India Yeah, seriously value yourself more than that. You're worth more than a guy you met two weeks ago. You've got some work to do. Get to it?

Agreed. 

Maybe my serbs will laugh.

Zagorela. 

Wish you luck @Preety_India. You pisces are really ununderstandable for me so will skip it. 

Best of luck, hope that guy will love you. 

 

[Preety_India]

@Zeroguy  he loves me.  You don't have to worry 

He is very intelligent and matured so he understands me, that's why he took it playfully. 

I wouldn't be so emotinally invested in him if he didn't love me. 

 

[Hulia]

@Preety_India It seems, that  these guys have never been in love. Let them do their pickups and be happy about their divine masculinities ?

Preety, did you watch movie "The artist"? It´s very very beautiful! Much better than that boring Oscar-winner "La-lalland"

https://gostream.site/the-artist/

[Preety_India]

@Hulia  I watched the Notebook. Very beautiful movie. 

Yea for pickup guys understanding falling in love is difficult.

They are constantly trying to ridicule me. 

Also telling me that he doesn't love me. 

Trying to denigrate the whole thing 

Maybe they aren't too happy for me 

But who cares.

I always walk where my heart pulls me.

Right now I feel good 

As long as I feel happy with a guy, that's all that matters

[integral]

8 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

I always walk where my heart pulls me.

Right now I feel good 

As long as I feel happy with a guy, that's all that matters

Has this strategy worked in the past? 

[Hulia]

1 minute ago, integral said:

Has this strategy worked in the past? 

Hey, it´s life! If you haven´t noticed yet, I´ll tell you a revealation: YOU`LL NEVER HAVE A SRATEGY THAT WORKS. Sometimes it would work, sometimes not

[Hulia]

@Preety_India I haven´t watched the "Notebook"..will try to find it to watch

[integral]

@Hulia Yes there is truth to that, but i like to think we can design the "best" strategy lol 

[Preety_India]

Just now, integral said:

Has this strategy worked in the past? 

Even if it doesn't, who cares. I haven't felt this happy in the past..

Past is past. Back then I was naive. Took matters for granted. Fell for fuckboys and narcissists.

He isn't a fuckboy nor a narcissist. 

If I had praised my ex Joseph like that, he would have been drooling over it and demanding me to do more for him. 

This guy isn't like that. He is not like the low lifes that my exes were. 

This guy is caring and has put effort to not hurt me in any way. He has never been passive aggressive nor does he shower me with praises like my pathetic exes used to do.

He allows me to be vulnerable without taking advantage. He is honest,tells me like it is.

 he takes me playfully, that's a great sign of his maturity. 

I don't demand much in life, just simple love, devoting time to each other. I am a person of few expectations

 As long as he is not abusive and cares about my feelings, I will be more than glad to have found him.

 

[Preety_India]

4 minutes ago, Hulia said:

Hey, it´s life! If you haven´t noticed yet, I´ll tell you a revealation: YOU`LL NEVER HAVE A SRATEGY THAT WORKS. Sometimes it would work, sometimes not

This is the ultimate truth.

I'll never fall in love if I keep thinking whether something will work or not.

Every relationship is a risk.

There is no relationship that will ever come with a warranty card.

Just be happy and see how it unfolds.

 

[integral]

@Preety_India Ah ok, so the strategy has already changed. 

[Preety_India]

Just now, integral said:

@Preety_India Ah ok, so the strategy has already changed. 

Ultimately there is NO strategy.

You have to live life as it takes you.

Live laugh Love.

 

[integral]

@Preety_India Everyone has strengths and weaknesses that gives them different tools for navigating relationships. Might be why people have been criticizing your approach unfairly. 

I have tools that make identifying a partners quality's accurately and quickly, but its weak in other areas of a relationship, that you would excel at.  

Edited June 27, 2021 by integral

[Preety_India]

@integral in what areas are you weak ?

 

[Hulia]

Here a guy tries hard on his divine masculinity.  ? The artist

 

[Consept]

If you're always having bad experiences in relationships, it's either you're not good at picking the right guy (and getting rid of them when you see red flags) or you have some behaviors that are not working in the relationship. If I was going to date you it would worry me that you describe all your exs as fuck boys or narcissists. 

It seems like you have a lot of love to share and relationships are very important for you, so I think you should take time out of relationships to really work on yourself and discover what issues you have that could be affecting your relationships. Therapy or something like that would help you a lot, I do it myself and have found it very useful, you may not be able to change yourself easily but at least there will be an awareness of where you issues lie as well as the root and how they play out. Otherwise you may unfortunately find yourself in this position regularly. 

In terms of what you said to the guy, assuming you've only had a few conversations with him, then yeah this is way over the top, you may feel this way but of course to some extent its a projection as you dont know him that well. It also shows that you don't value yourself too much from his perspective, if you're willing to drop everything for him. It's a lot of pressure to put on him so early, these parts of the relationship should be fun, life is not always so serious. 

Good luck though