He called me stupid

[Preety_India]

 

@Zeroguy  I get super angry in a relationship if the guy does anything disappointing and then I leave the guy abruptly.

I did this in all of my relationships.

Once I'm angry, the relationship is over 

 

 

 

Edited June 23, 2021 by Preety_India

[Parththakkar12]

3 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

Once I'm angry, the relationship is over 

?

[Preety_India]

17 hours ago, Lucas-fgm said:

Just relax Preety. There are plenty of fish in the sea. 

Yea 

 

[Zeroguy]

@Preety_India How things are now. 

Can't wait new topic once every storm hit the boat. 

Must be so great. Develop yourself and there will be no need for you to ask anything anymore. 

[Hulia]

@Preety_India I am also waiting for continuation. Was it good that you said it to him? Was it bad? Has he already forgotten the whole stuff, that we´ve been discussing here for days?

PLease inform!

[Zeroguy]

Yeah @Preety_India . Please inform. 

 

[Hulia]

@Zeroguy She has no time for us. Surely she is chatting with her BF now, and they are telling a lot of stupid things to each other  

[Preety_India]

@Hulia @Zeroguy

I asked him about it yesterday. He said that I shouldn't say such extreme things and that he understands my sentiment but doesn't want me to get overly emotional. He also told me that I need to be able to trust him and that he won't expect me to give up my life for him, he said he won't ever ask for such things and it would be wrong for him to expect such things. And he told me to take it slow.

I asked him if he felt nervous or creeped out. He said he wasn't creeped out, he said he simply felt a bit pressured but laughed it off and thought it was very childish of me to say such things. He told me to not worry ,he didn't take it too seriously.

He told me to "grow up" but said that he sometimes likes my innocence and admiration for him.

He told me that he respects my emotions though I shouldn't take it too far. He calmed my over excitement lol.. he is too matured and practical, way more than me. I'm too child-like in front of his maturity. 

After listening to his words I was like

 

 

 

[Preety_India]

@Hulia @Zeroguy

Maybe his effect is working on me lol.

Because after finishing my conversation with him, I have begun looking into EMOTIONAL intelligence stuff.

Maybe I'll finally "grow up" lololol 

 

With my childish heart, who knows

 

[Preety_India]

 

@Hulia @Zeroguy

He kinda motivates me 

Like when I'm alone, I just get too lazy. I will simply listen to songs or play video games.

But he always tells me to get my ass off the couch and sends me motivational videos and tells me a lot of self actualization stuff 

He also told me to read things, watch videos on self help and therapy 

He pushes me like a coach lol.

 

I have decided to take better care of myself 

He is giving me a sense of direction. Sort of.

 

[Hulia]

@Preety_India He seems to be an intelligent guy. Happy for you! And you seem to match. He wants to help and you want to be helped. But don´t exaggerate. Everything is good in the right amount. Enjoy the relationship, but one day you´ll have to overcome this role game. 

[Preety_India]

 

@Hulia @Zeroguy

The best thing about him is that he doesn't talk about sex like my past boyfriends who used to constantly talk about sex.

He respects my decision to not have sex early. I told him that already that I won't have sex easily/early.

And he respects that.

He did not pressure me at all..

So he is not like other "fuck boys" who were my past boyfriends,who were pathetic and always pressuring me for sex and shame me for it 

He is not like that at all.

 

 

[Hulia]

@Preety_India Ah, you don´t only speak on phone or so? Do you meet also physically?

[Preety_India]

@Hulia won't meet at least for a month or two because of covid.

Not going out.

Covid situation is a bit scary in my country right now.

So only talking on phone

 

 

Edited June 24, 2021 by Preety_India

[Hulia]

1 minute ago, Preety_India said:

@Hulia won't meet at least for a month or two because of covid.

 

So you have something to look forward  The happy expectation

 

[Preety_India]

Just now, Hulia said:

So you have something to look forward  The happy expectation

 

 

[Hulia]

@Preety_India You see, how silly the people on this forum are. They think a couple of spoken words can kill the relationship.

For two sensitive intelligent people the words don´t play a big role. They can see behind the words, which are just the expression of a momentum, of a constantly changing mood.

[Preety_India]

6 minutes ago, Hulia said:

@Preety_India You see, how silly the people on this forum are. They think a couple of spoken words can kill the relationship.

For two sensitive intelligent people the words don´t play a big role. They can see behind the words, which are just the expression of a momentum, of a constantly changing mood.

Yup

[Hulia]

@Preety_India Preety, as far as I remember, you have had 6 relationships. So to start a relationship is not a problem for you. Don´t listen to the loosers of this forum, which are getting rejected within the first 10 minutes while approaching a girl  What to say and what not to say... what do they know?

You are the one who must give us all advises on the topic

Obviously your problem is rather to keep a relationship or maybe to chose a right guy from the very beginning, I don´t know. It´s normal that you idealise your guy while falling in love. But be ready that he also has his flaws, which he´ll reveal later  

 

[Preety_India]

@Hulia lol not 6 relationships, only 4 relationships. 

Your advice is perfect.