Meditation and yoga to get girls?

[SamC]

Leo often says that meditation and yoga for example has the potential to completely transform our lives. By engaging in these spiritualy purifying processes he for example argues that we will become more peaceful, more conscious and less needy ( attached) to outcome.

Here is the problem though, and its here where I need your help. I have meditated everyday for over a year now and it have changed my life completly. Today however I come to notice that the reasons why I am doing it ( spiritual purification) is not mainly for awaking but to avoid anxiety ( control behaviour) and become more comfortable with myself ( and less needy) to then be able to get girls. Supriseingly it kinda has worked, I'm getting closer.

Now I wanna continue with this approach together with starting kriya yoga ( + self compassion which I already, + meditation which I already do) to become even more comfortable with my self by shredding my ego and than get girls). 

Note that I am at the same time super interested in conciousness work, but the question is, will I shoot myself in the foot? Am I ready for hardcore awakening work when I am at the same time so desperate and just want sex? I might be able to get both, thats what I hope, but is this a valid strategy, really? Will it do more harm than good? Is my ego really there yet? In Leo's last episode he said, exhaust the shit out of every stage, don't rush! But what about using spiritual purification to than be able to exhaust the shit out of every stage and than grow even more? Thanks for your help.

[JosephKnecht]

Maybe God is tempting you with girls before he shows you how to become awakened through yoga and meditation.  

[Username]

Wanting to get girls is ego based. I wish you luck with shredding your ego.

[SamC]

@JosephKnecht I really hope so hahah. I wonder however if my ego can handle it going though it this way or if I ( as god, myself?) should start with Only focusing on getting girls and success via going ont. I wanna go the direct route via ego work and than become less needy via that and than get a girlfriend ( cause I know It wont fullfill me) but I don't know if it's that smart. What do you Think?

 

[SamC]

@Username Thank you bro and yup, it's 100 % ego. But the problem is, if I don't solve this deep attatchment in me, my ego will crave sex and girls. 

I am obseesed ( I have a strong ego) and I want it, want it want it.  The solution is therefoe either becoming less obseesed and than getting girls via conciousnnes work or getting girls via only focusing on getting girls so that I than burn the desire out of my system. The problem with alternativ 2 is however that if I am obseesed ( needy) getting girls becomes a bigger challange than if I become less needy.

Which way is the smartest do you Think? Personaly I Think it's a combo of both.

[Recursoinominado]

The more i advance in my journey, the less i care with women and sex.

Detachment is only attractive when it is coupled with a strong intention, meaning that you show desire, go for it shameless and are free from the outcome, your cup is already full, anything is a bonus.

Nothing beats socialization to attract girls, get out of your room, don't hide behind spiritual practices and inner game. 

[hamedsf]

do meditation in the morning and go to the club at night. is there anything complex about that?

[TripleFly]

What's so wrong with getting girls?

Yes yes.. The classic renunciationists... Yes.. Sex is distraction... Woman is for perverts.

Here I'll give you my perspective, I don't think renunciation and celibacy is wrong, but being with Woman is Man's way of manifesting God in existence, by, making love.

Anyway, if that's your bliss, and you're not harming anyone. Dude go all the way.

I think you already understand that it's important to  live through these experiences and fulfill the dreams that you have.

You're doing great mate, continue rocking. The trick is that you were always enough for it! Now you just gotta prove it to yourself. So find some methods that work for you.

Mirror eye gazing or with a partner really helps break down and loosen up the areas in which you are still uncomfortable in. Do like 15-30 minutes of that. It gives you insane confidence afterwards, and it also gives you siddhis, but don't abuse or use those at all, they're distractions.

Edited September 17, 2020 by TripleFly

[SamC]

@Recursoinominado yeah man! I strongly agree, and thank you. My plan is to socialize my ass of aswell, but I wanna become more authentic and attract girls by being myself. I wanna solve the root cause. I wanna fix the reason why I even need girls to then be able to get girls lol

[SamC]

@hamedsf yeah, that's what I am thinking! But what if this leads to me fucking myself up cause if I am starting to do yoga aswell, I will go hardco into awaking work and I don't know if my ego is ready for it. I mean in many ways, I think it is but I ( my ego desperately want sex and therefor my ego wont fully let go). I don't wanna stagnate on a kudanlini awaking and get depressed you know lol. Thanks for your answer though!

[-empty-]

Learn to become a multiorgasmic man. Very important basic skill. Does take some years. So in that meantime you need to do other things too.

see mantak chia, the multiorgasmic couple.

Sex will change , also you will progress spiritually. Why not have both?

Edited September 17, 2020 by -empty-

[SamC]

@TripleFly

8 hours ago, TripleFly said:

What's so wrong with getting girls?

Yes yes.. The classic renunciationists... Yes.. Sex is distraction... Woman is for perverts.

Here I'll give you my perspective, I don't think renunciation and celibacy is wrong, but being with Woman is Man's way of manifesting God in existence, by, making love.

Anyway, if that's your bliss, and you're not harming anyone. Dude go all the way.

I think you already understand that it's important to  live through these experiences and fulfill the dreams that you have.

You're doing great mate, continue rocking. The trick is that you were always enough for it! Now you just gotta prove it to yourself. So find some methods that work for you.

Mirror eye gazing or with a partner really helps break down and loosen up the areas in which you are still uncomfortable in. Do like 15-30 minutes of that. It gives you insane confidence afterwards, and it also gives you siddhis, but don't abuse or use those at all, they're distractions.

Thanks a lot man for your words of encouragement. Very inspiring and I agree 100%. I will try mirror gazing for sure. ?

[SamC]

30 minutes ago, -empty- said:

Learn to become a multiorgasmic man. Very important basic skill. Does take some years. So in that meantime you need to do other things too.

see mantak chia, the multiorgasmic couple.

Sex will change , also you will progress spiritually. Why not have both?

Thanks for the tip man!?I'll look it up!

[The0Self]

Get it out of your system ?

[SamC]

16 hours ago, The0Self said:

Get it out of your system ?

@The0Self yeah lol

[Thestarguitarist14]

It is your sexual neediness that prevents you from having sex.  Here you are, spending all your time wanting sex instead of having it.

 

You can be mature and realize that you do not have to succumb to your animalistic desires.  Instead of being a conscious creator, you are being an unconscious creator.

Edited September 18, 2020 by Thestarguitarist14

[Akemrelax]

I don't get why you need to have sex. Getting into a relationship purely based on sex is a bad idea, call me old fashioned. Often times you have to be fake and lie to the girl to get into her pants, even if you don't lie you're probably putting on front, and women don't like it when you play with their emotions. Not to mention it feels fake and wrong to do that. Why don't you try getting a hooker if you think you're missing out on sex? 

Don't cave into societal pressures and your own prejudices. There is so much porn nowadays how come that does not fulfill you? Girls of every type on your finger tips, something not even kings had in the past! Why demonize porn, it can be used effectively to fulfill a basic need.

Focus on your own life then get into a relationship with a person you actually fall in love with! 

[Thestarguitarist14]

1 hour ago, Akemrelax said:

There is so much porn nowadays how come that does not fulfill you? Girls of every type on your finger tips, something not even kings had in the past! Why demonize porn, it can be used effectively to fulfill a basic need.

 

To be fair, porn can be anti social, cause shame, guilt and lower self esteem.  Basically, there are no benefits from watching porn.

[Akemrelax]

3 hours ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

To be fair, porn can be anti social, cause shame, guilt and lower self esteem.  Basically, there are no benefits from watching porn.

That's because you think of it as a negative. It doesn't cause anti-social behavior, shame, guilt, or self-esteem, by itself, you feel those because of your worldview and how you use it. Shame, guilt, and self-esteem especially is caused by your own projections, nothing is inherently shameful.

[Thestarguitarist14]

1 hour ago, Akemrelax said:

That's because you think of it as a negative. It doesn't cause anti-social behavior, shame, guilt, or self-esteem, by itself, you feel those because of your worldview and how you use it. Shame, guilt, and self-esteem especially is caused by your own projections, nothing is inherently shameful.

LOL, it totally does.  There is nothing good that comes out of watching porn.  You are connecting with pixels.  You have to be in a state of unconscious to jerk off to porn.  Next time you watch, just observe and when you see her hair repeat “hair, hair, hair” or her tits repeat “tits tits tits” (got think from a monk) your won’t be able to engage.