How do I remain centered, awake, and high-conscious, in a world that sleeps?

[leintdav000]

I've been born with a gift, but it's also a curse... I'm highly adaptable and emotionally intelligent to the environment I'm in. Whenever I meet people, regardless of their culture--meatheads, gamers, academic nerds, druggies, etc, etc--or just individuals in general, I unconsciously adapt to their energy and frame. I pick up on their sense of humor, energy, body language, etc, incredibly fast and we become good friends really fast. I never consciously do this, but I've had people point out that I'm just really good at this. It's a blessing because I can relate to people really fast; it's especially helped me in sales! 

However, I'm ambitious, driven, and young... I'm a freshman in college and as I'm awakening on my spiritual journey I'm realizing how the unconscious and low vibrational the mass is... I don't say this in my pretentious way, but it's real. The problem is, however, when in solitude, I'm crazy proactive and productive... I feel very blessed. I had a hard upbringing, spent a year in solitude doing online school and meditating, and I know exactly what my vision is and where I'm going. The problem is I'm so unconsciously sensitive to the people around me that when I start socializing with people I lose my self in matching their low-vibrational energy... Days will go by where I snap out of it and realize that I've been sucked into their frame. --it's hard when the majority of people around me are like this... 

How do I remain centered in an awake, high-conscious frame, in a world that sleeps... 

 

[Meditationdude]

@leintdav000 I’m not sure if someone else’s unconsciousness/lower frequency  can have a real effect on you. If that were true we would all be screwed. 

Are you judging, moralizing, having negative thoughts when you’re with them? 

I think you gotta keep opening up to LOVE my man. One love. Unconditional. 

Keep up with you sits! Keep growing! 

 

[Forestluv]

@leintdav000 To me, it sounds like you are highly sensitive to particular energetic dynamics and can absorb/immerse yourself into those dynamics. I would try and detach and develop awareness as a grounded "observer", so not to be tossed around by swirling energies. Almost like finding a grounded place to sit in the midst of a swirling storm such that you can observe the storm without being swept away by it. . . 

[Flatworld Crusades]

@leintdav000 so you sound very much like a chameleon or a Social Chameleon. I don't know a great deal about them but I have met a couple over the years. I believe that you do lose your yourself in their "lower vibrational energy "  I'll contact a friend and come backs to you with what he does

 

[Gabriel Antonio]

That's a very good question. 

First of all, stop labelling things as "low vibrational". I get where you're coming from, but simply put it's a trap. You need to focus on your path, and your path alone. When you're truly peaceful within, the "unconsciousness" of other people and of the world do not bother you. Not to say you become passive and let people throw their shit to you. 

Second, I am almost certain you're a highly sensitive person. I am that. And it is a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, I am very good with people and I am very good at. for example, picking songs for a specific moment. On the other hand, if I don't have plenty of time to recharge, I get easily drained. I have been working on getting better at withdrawing from a situation without being too abrupt, because if I am, people end up taking it personally. 

Finally, I think it's important to have some sort of emotional outlet. That is, an activity where you can release all the emotions you absorb from the world. Weightlifting can be helpful with that. Yoga can work also. A good support network is also important. 

Links about Highly Sensitive Person (HSP): 

https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/highly-sensitive-person-signs/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_processing_sensitivity

Good luck! 

[Forestluv]

@Flatworld Crusades Oooh, I'm unfamiliar with the idea of social chameleon. I take it that would be someone who adapts to a social dynamic and their persona blends in with the crowd. That seems more aligned than my initial impression.

[Flatworld Crusades]

@Serotoninluv I'm really at a loss as to the specifics, but yes they adapt and blend. I do know that this causes them conflict and pain as they are often acting against their values and beliefs.  I see where your going here. Serendipity

@Gabriel Antonio I agree about using "low vibrational" I was simply reflecting his words

[leintdav000]

@Meditationdude social osmosis is very real... you become the environment you're in unconsciously. I'm just extra sensitive to this. 

[Forestluv]

24 minutes ago, leintdav000 said:

social osmosis is very real... you become the environment you're in unconsciously. I'm just extra sensitive to this. 

Super interesting to me. In social dynamics I’m at the other end of the spectrum. I never felt like I fit in with any social group and spent a lot of effort trying to fit in. 

If you were in a “high conscious” group, would you also easily adapt and merge? Maybe something like a spiritual retreat.

[Flatworld Crusades]

46 minutes ago, leintdav000 said:

@Meditationdude social osmosis is very real... you become the environment you're in unconsciously. I'm just extra sensitive to this. 

Yes, I see how this would happen. When you absorb yourself into the other environment how is it that your consciousness awakens to the situation? Is it some kind of energetic realisation and suddenly you realise what is going on, or do you see/hear yourself doing/ saying something that you wouldn't normally do and it brings you back to yourself? Or is it something different?

Just thinking if you can keep yourself present with your own belief system and consciousness, something might come of it.

[Nahm]

@leintdav000 You’re asking what consciousness work is. Clever is the gift & the curse. 

[Sahil Pandit]

@leintdav000

[Truth Addict]

@leintdav000

Meditation, long sessions.

Conscious deep breathing.

[leintdav000]

@Flatworld Crusades

Yes, I see how this would happen. When you absorb yourself into the other environment how is it that your consciousness awakens to the situation? Is it some kind of energetic realization and suddenly you realize what is going on, or do you see/hear yourself doing/ saying something that you wouldn't normally do and it brings you back to yourself? Or is it something different?

Just thinking if you can keep yourself present with your own belief system and consciousness, something might come of it.

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All these replies are super interesting to me; I'm surprised at how many people can't relate to this... I'm not a social chemilain--if I am, I'm an eccentric one... meaning I definitely stand out. People know me for being me, you know?  It's not a (spiritual conscious) thing, I'm just really quick at reading and adapting to someone. Meaning, if they hold themselves a certain way, I'll match that--I see this; if they speak with a certain tonality and energy, I match it--I hear it; if they have a certain sense of humor--eg:  puns, nagging, riffing, etc, I'll hear this and shoot it back to them. I observe and absorb whatever they send out and I sent it back: completely unconsciously. 

I don't even really even notice the transition... it's not a bad thing either, on an individual level. My problem is that we're at the bottom of the pyramid; people "usually" aren't happy, aren't driven, aren't motivated, aren't "high-conscious" for a lack of better terms... I adopt this same energy and fall into it. I sort of just snap out of it, like waking up from a dream, and my energy completely changes after I realize I've fallen into the group's energy. 

 

 

[Forestluv]

@leintdav000 What you describe reminds of certain skills for traveling and learning a second language. A lot of what you describe about adapting, getting in sync and mirroring another’s mannerisms and tonality is a really helpful skill in traveling through foreign cultures and learning their language. 

[Robi Steel]

First of all, the way you are on the inside, heavily influences how and how much others have an influence over you. The goal of self-actualization is to be grounded in oneself completely and be the master of your emotions and being. Your light should melt away their egoic and rigid way of being, this is also the point when you naturally gravitate towards the most conscious people and quickly repel negative influences. 

Heal yourself first and foremost. Complete the process first in yourself. During the process, if you are not strong enough to handle certain negative influences and people in your life, which may hinder your progress, start cutting them out one by one while also detaching a little bit more from everyone else in your life. Give yourself space to fully ripe to the state where people have absolutely zero control over you. 

If they create suffering in you, you are still causing suffering in you. If you understood their nature fully, they would not bother you one bit. Their low vibration would feed your development. The key lays in being them fully and being on their level truly while still being completely grounded in yourself.

Edited April 30, 2019 by Robi Steel

[Flatworld Crusades]

@leintdav000 have you seen Leonardo Dicaprio's movie "catch me if you can". This guys is a charismatic chameleon who adapts to different social environments and becomes successful in each one.  That's the kind of idea that came to mind for me.

so what you really need is a more sophisticated social environment.

[fryingLotus]

Brainwashing is a word with negative connotations, so maybe conditioning or daily reminders of what your life is about and where you want to go would be ideal.

 

I can sit and talk about consciousness, yoga, near death experiences etc with one group, and then revert to geeza English waffle with another. Both conversations have their pros and cons but both also completely influence who I am at that point, how I will feel when I get home, how productive I am and in which areas, what my goals are etc.

 

My point being that reminders can be powerful, and you can use different mediums to bring you back, so to speak. Sometimes I'll get lost in work, friends, daily routines etc, then watch one of Leo's videos and just be taken back to it all. It's as if I've been asleep and I just wake back up and start working again. I'm not a complete whore for Leo but his videos have always made the most sense to me, whilst some others just seem to throw ideas around they've read on a blog etc and thus they lose their value.

 

But there's lots of things you can do for yourself to keep you centered. Maybe you could make a daily habit of say 10 minutes just to write down what you want to do in life, where you find enjoyment, what's important to you etc. The world is a complete sensation orgy and there are only certain people that can keep their cool throughout life without much effort. Sure, they still work hard, but I'm assuming they just found their passion and went for it, blocking everything else out.