If a girl differs with your spiritual views would you still be with her?

[Basman]

I went on a blind date once with a girl which went pretty well and she was into me, but I didn't pursue it further because she was supposedly christian. She had a general uptightness about her and I thought she would be difficult about sex. We joked once that she needed to orgasm at least once before she dies, or she'll forever be a Scrooge. Bit mean looking back lol. In hindsight I should've been more open minded at least.

[Inliytened1]

11 minutes ago, Basman said:

I went on a blind date once with a girl which went pretty well and she was into me, but I didn't pursue it further because she was supposedly christian. She had a general uptightness about her and I thought she would be difficult about sex. We joked once that she needed to orgasm at least once before she dies, or she'll forever be a Scrooge. Bit mean looking back lol. In hindsight I should've been more open minded at least.

It's a real issue.

[Basman]

10 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

It's a real issue.

She was probably just really shy. Who knows where it would've went.

[Jirh]

We don't necessarily need to have the exact same views. The minimum bar for me is for her to be stage Green, regardless of content. Orange or below does not work. It would be lonely and miserable.

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, Basman said:

She was probably just really shy. Who knows where it would've went.

I always just kept going.  Regardless. I had no filters.  In the end they are gonna want you to be of their religion.  No matter how much you try. 

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Jirh said:

We don't necessarily need to have the exact same views. The minimum bar for me is for her to be stage Green, regardless of content. Orange or below does not work. It would be lonely and miserable.

Where you from? Because a conversation about spiral dynamics has yet to be had and I'm in the hundreds. Perhaps it needs the thousands like Russel Brand

Edited 10 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Hojo]

Yes I want a woman that loves hitler.

It hot to me when a woman say that love hitler. It shows me they are not scared to break out of social norms which 99 percent of woman are in.

Edited 7 hours ago by Hojo

[aurum]

Within a certain limit.

Where exactly that line is, is not obvious.

I would have to take in full picture of her.

[trenton]

6 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Yeah. I've met a one two like that.  That's definitely not gonna work. But what of the one that has no opinion on anything?

 

This sounds more workable in my opinion. I would think of it as someone who might be honestly agnostic or perhaps doesn't think much of spiritual beliefs. From their, the interest would probably be in what she focuses on instead of spirituality.

Does she like games? Nature? Just having fun? Relaxing? What does she like to learn about? What does she enjoy?

I think the details matter. Maybe she's not interested in metaphysics, but has other strong interests that would be worth exploring together.

[Leo Gura]

Even if she has your exact views you should think twice before being with her 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

It's not a problem. As long as they do not proselytise and have a "live and let live" attitude.

[Leo Gura]

It is a problem if they believe a bunch of New Age trash spirituality.

[Davino]

34 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

It is a problem if they believe a bunch of New Age trash spirituality.

That's true, but it could be a mistake trying to make her skip that stage. It has to be an unattached style of promoting her overall development.

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On the other hand, why can't Messi be with someone who doesn't play as good as him football? Ofc, he can, after some point you do your thing and that's it.

[Leo Gura]

10 minutes ago, Davino said:

On the other hand, why can't Messi be with someone who doesn't play as good as him football? Ofc, he can, after some point you do your thing and that's it.

Those are unlike things. Football is a trivial and pointless game. Spirituality is life and death.

Edited 1 hour ago by Leo Gura

[Wilhelm44]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Those are unlike things. Football is a trivial and pointless game. Spirituality is life and death.

I have heard of people who are very much awake being in relationship with people who are not even into spirituality at all, and somehow they were happy.

[Leo Gura]

3 minutes ago, Wilhelm44 said:

I have heard of people who are very much awake being in relationship with people who are not even into spirituality at all, and somehow they were happy.

That can work.

What does not work so well is people whose heads are full of fake spirituality, because they will demand that you respect and oblige their fake ways. They will push their fake ways on you.

Edited 1 hour ago by Leo Gura

[Inliytened1]

4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Even if she has your exact views you should think twice before being with her 

If she has your views lock her the fuck in are you kidding. It's so rare to have that ever.

Edited 45 minutes ago by Inliytened1

[Jirh]

46 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

That can work.

What does not work so well is people whose heads are full of fake spirituality, because they will demand that you respect and oblige their fake ways. They will push their fake ways on you.

That is if they're stage Blue.

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, Jirh said:

That is if they're stage Blue.

Green too

[Inliytened1]

@Leo Gura you're not 'gonna find a chick thar will ever equal you on this stuff. All you can hope for is if their anything close.  But no excuse to be alone. A significant development with you would be to see you with a woman.

Edited 31 minutes ago by Inliytened1