milfs liking you a good thing or a bad thing

[AION]

Bad thing because they think they make a chance with you or good thing because you are liked? Lately I have been getting a lot of attention from them. And it has me thinking, why young women are not like this never taking the inniative. 

[Salvijus]

It's a sign that the world is falling apart was my first thought. But on a second thought - I don't know.

Edited 15 hours ago by Salvijus

[Emerald]

You've mentioned something like that before.

And I find it interesting that you seem not to be interested in them, but you're interacting with them enough to where many of them are becoming attracted to you. 

So, that makes me think you're interacting with them in context where they're likely to understand your attention as coming from a sexually interested place.

It would be unlikely that you're just randomly interacting with a bunch of older women... and that so many of them are becoming attracted to you.

I'm just wondering if it's something like... you feel comfortable flirting with women you're not interested in. But you feel uncomfortable flirting with women you are interested in.

That's what could lead you to end up with a bunch of Milfs interested in you... with a bunch of women your age uninterested in you.

There may even be a belief that older women are less attractive. And therefore you feel less intimidated by them and more open to interacting with them sexually because you feel like the desirable one by contrast and that they won't be as selective as younger women.

Usually older women have higher standards for men, though. More experience tends to give older women less tolerance for things they used to tolerate as a younger woman. 

But it seems like these ladies may specifically be looking for some younger guy.

Basically... how do you end up having so many older ladies interested in you? How are you meeting them... and in what kind of context?

[something_else]

In what scenarios are you meeting them?

The older people get, the more they tend to know what they want and be more direct about getting it.

The other factor is that young woman basically never need to make the first move, so they rarely do unless you’re something really special.

[AION]

@Emerald I don't look for them. When I'm in a public place they come up and talk with me. And I just talk to them out of politeness and because I'm a nice guy. But then they start flirting with me and giving me signals while I don't give them signals. 

For example last weekend I was in a bar and I liked the bar tender girl. And I started flirting with her and stuff and she was open but not head of heels. I started being more reserved towards her and start playing with my phone instead. Then this older women game up and she started having conversation with me. I was bored and I thought she was smart so I thought why not. To be honest I talked to her for a long time because she had a good eye and could read me as a person. Eventually she started giving me a lot of compliments and asking my phone number. At the end she left the bar.

This bar girl witnessed this and afterwards she started opening much more. But I guess I expected her to make moves too and ask my phone number or shit. But I think if a girl is hot and in her 20'ies she won't make moves. I never had girls in their 20'ies take the lead and ask my phone number. Or go out of their way. While older women do go out of their way, ask my number and make moves.

So I'm wondering if it just me. Or girls who are in their prime sexual market value years just don't it. Because I do can get these kind of girl but they make me work for it. 

By the way , I didn't ask the phone number of the bar tender girl although we had a great connection and we come from the same culture. She was Greek and looked like a statue. I think if a girl is hot like that she doesn't make moves. From my exp, if I want a prime girl I have to be very clear and decisive in the sense of "I'm worthy of you and I'm coming for you". Usually I'm ambivalent and that fucks me up.

From my exp, older women don't have high expectations at all. They are very easy. And they lower their standards to get a chance. I don't get this notion that says older women have higher standards. I think most women are aware of the sexual market place. If they have higher standards than a 20 year old girl while being a 40 year old they price themselves out of the market.

Edited 14 hours ago by AION

[LastThursday]

@AION this has happened to me a lot when I was younger. Some older women are more relaxed about flirtation and have greater self confidence and just more experience overall than young women - they were young once themselves. They may also just like younger models, much like some older men do. There's nothing inherently good or bad about it, just because you're older doesn't mean you lose interest in attraction. If you're not interested, then just be polite, enjoy the flirtation for a bit and move on. Don't overthink it.

Edited 12 hours ago by LastThursday

[Schizophonia]

It's normal since you’re approaching your forties yourself if I remember well.

Edited 12 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Inliytened1]

5 hours ago, AION said:

Bad thing because they think they make a chance with you or good thing because you are liked? Lately I have been getting a lot of attention from them. And it has me thinking, why young women are not like this never taking the inniative. 

It's not really the age. It is more personality.  I've been with women of all ages and I've seen younger ones be more dominant and outgoing..taking initiative, and I've seen older ones who never do..you always have to make the first move.  So I think it depends. I love me a wild one though.  Problem is they are usually crazy too. It could be just that they are older so they feel like they are the more experienced compared to you.  Seems like a nice dynamic 😀

Edited 10 hours ago by Inliytened1

[something_else]

27 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

So I think it depends. I love me a wild one though.  Problem is they are usually crazy too.

It is vaguely sexist and part of me really hates saying it, but in my experience it's absolutely true that the best sex I've ever had has always been with girls who were a bit crazy. 

I suspect it goes both ways to be fair, the guys who are the biggest assholes with the most issues are probably the best at fucking on average. I think crazy / fucked up people typically enjoy a good power dynamic which makes for great sex.

[Olaf]

@AION I mean of course it is great if a girl asks for your number, but you can't expect that every girl would do that. Sometimes I get opened by girls, does that mean I am gonna expect every girl to open to me? No, just feel grateful when it happens and close her number yourself most of the cases. And honestly I become less and less interested in closing, because why not pull her? Just cause you got a number doesn't mean anything, I rather kiss or pull a girl then getting a number, I might in the future even spend a month or so not closing any numbers at all and focus only on pulling and kinssing girls. 

[Inliytened1]

18 minutes ago, something_else said:

It is vaguely sexist and part of me really hates saying it, but in my experience it's absolutely true that the best sex I've ever had has always been with girls who were a bit crazy. 

I suspect it goes both ways to be fair, the guys who are the biggest assholes with the most issues are probably the best at fucking on average. I think crazy / fucked up people typically enjoy a good power dynamic which makes for great sex.

Heh.  Yeah. Oddly this seems to be the case. But I don't know about the guys who are asses being better lovers.  It's kind of a natural talent that can be blessed to even the nicest of guys 😀

But yeah. It does seem like the nuttier chicks are the best in bed but not all the time.  Sometimes its the calm, quiet, shy christian girl that becomes a wild animal in bed.  And those are the very best.:)

 

[something_else]

14 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Heh.  Yeah. Oddly this seems to be the case. But I don't know about the guys who are asses being better lovers.  It's kind of a natural talent that can be blessed to even the nicest of guys 😀

But yeah. It does seem like the nuttier chicks are the best in bed but not all the time.  Sometimes its the calm, quiet, shy christian girl that becomes a wild animal in bed.  And those are the very best.:)

 

This is also a fair point, I’ve experienced that too and it’s particularly hot 

It all stems from power dynamics. Fucked up people usually experienced unhealthy power dynamics as a child and that can seriously mess up your life, but it means you enjoy exploring or experiencing fucked up power dynamics sexually and that makes for amazing sex.

[LordFall]

It's good, it's a sign that you have some sex appeal. I would keep levelling up so that the women you're more into also start giving you indicators of interest. 

You should flirt with them to practice your verbal game, it's win-win for both parties. They'll feel good about receiving the attention of a younger man and you can let them down smoothly. It's like a hot girl some of them are gracious about refusing advances and some of them are really bitchy about it, no need to be unpleasant to people that are into you. 

Edited 9 hours ago by LordFall

[LordFall]

5 hours ago, Emerald said:

I'm just wondering if it's something like... you feel comfortable flirting with women you're not interested in. But you feel uncomfortable flirting with women you are interested in.

Also probably this, I've had that same problem before. I think most men run into this at some point in our lives. 

[Zen LaCroix]

1 hour ago, something_else said:

This is also a fair point, I’ve experienced that too and it’s particularly hot 

It all stems from power dynamics. Fucked up people usually experienced unhealthy power dynamics as a child and that can seriously mess up your life, but it means you enjoy exploring or experiencing fucked up power dynamics sexually and that makes for amazing sex.

What are some examples of these f*cked up power dynamics that can make for amazing sex with these crazy girls

Edited 7 hours ago by Zen LaCroix

[AION]

I think young girls don’t appreciate intellect. For them other things are important. If you are a guy with a giant intellect it is like having a huge dick for girls that are into huge dicks, and most of the time older women are into that or special kind of people. I think I have to start catering the right thing to the right people. For example if you are in a nightclub your intellect won’t get you anything. It is all about vibe, appearance, presentation, confident and leading. Older women can lead relationships themselves so they don’t necessarily look for guys that can lead but personally I don’t like that kind of girls. 

Edited 7 hours ago by AION

[AION]

Bar is different than a nightclub where people are more into in-depth conversation 

[AION]

2 hours ago, LordFall said:

It's good, it's a sign that you have some sex appeal. I would keep levelling up so that the women you're more into also start giving you indicators of interest. 

You should flirt with them to practice your verbal game, it's win-win for both parties. They'll feel good about receiving the attention of a younger man and you can let them down smoothly. It's like a hot girl some of them are gracious about refusing advances and some of them are really bitchy about it, no need to be unpleasant to people that are into you. 

There are younger girls who are into me. And I see them on a weekly basis during my work outs but they never make moves. Only give obvious signals like being giggly and excited when I talk to them. But you are right about me leveling up. I have had some stunning gfs and that pumped up my self esteem I guess. And being worthy of higher quality. It is so obvious to me that men are the price. And it is expressed in your physiology. 

Edited 6 hours ago by AION

[Willy Phallicus]

Why would anyone taking a liking to you be a bad thing?  

Cougars have needs too.

[Basman]

The smell of leopard 👌