Men: How do you feel & react when you see women cry?

[EdgeGod900]

On 15/10/2026 at 4:59 PM, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@EdgeGod900 is having a little holiday to have a think about his contributions ಠ.ಠ

 

[Joseph Maynor]

If I caused it, I feel terrible.  It might take a while for me to realize it though.  

[Butters]

It gives me a boner. This is a pretty common reaction I think.

[integral]

I don't ever feel anything.

But I respond by giving them the love that best fits there individual needs.

But if someone is crying all the time, it's their responsibility to work on it, and not dump all their problems onto me, and so I start setting boundaries.

Edited October 27 by integral

[Nercohype]

@Natasha Tori Maru Personally, when the woman I love cries, I feel incredible pain. I feel her suffering and sadness, and I want nothing more than to be there for her and comfort her in whatever way I can. I don't feel disgusted or angry with her for crying. Instead, I feel angry when someone has caused her that suffering.

[Schizophonia]

On 27/10/2026 at 3:36 AM, integral said:

But if someone is crying all the time, it's their responsibility to work on it, and not dump all their problems onto me, and so I start setting boundaries.

You're right we're real men.

We don't lark

Edited October 29 by Schizophonia

[integral]

4 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

You're right we're real men.

We don't lark

lol What ends up happening is they abuse you if you don't set a boundary.

[yetineti]

On 10/29/2026 at 1:30 PM, Schizophonia said:

You're right we're real men.

We don't lark

“Any sufficiently advanced satire is indistinguishable from reality.”

 

[yetineti]

@integral

On 10/26/2026 at 9:36 PM, integral said:

I don't ever feel anything.

But I respond by giving them the love that best fits there individual needs.

But if someone is crying all the time, it's their responsibility to work on it, and not dump all their problems onto me, and so I start setting boundaries.

If you don’t ever feel anything, how do you know what love fits their individual needs?

What sort of boundaries have you had to set before? Have you actually had somebody cry that much? I’d be curious what they were crying about and how you felt although that was them asking something of you.

[integral]

1 hour ago, yetineti said:

@integral

If you don’t ever feel anything, how do you know what love fits their individual needs?

I over stated it, i have empathy but most people problems are them not self-regulating and i cant spend all my time regulating it for them, nor is it healthy for them to have a dependency on me. The healthiest thing for them is that i am healthy and there in my vibe, not the reverse, as i hold healthy vibe effortlessly and they cannot.  

I dated a few BPD woman and learned the hard way that to love them is draw clear boundaries to mantain your own health. Your health is there health, but they are not stable enough to avoid harming you.

BPD will destroy the boat there sailing on. 100% of the time. With endless emotional chaos.

You have to be uncorruptable for them. That means setting yourself up for success with systems and strategy. With out a plan you are not going to make it.

You would think loving someone is simply listening to what they have to say. And that couldn't be further from the truth. Because they have no idea how to be happy. 

You have to be highly educated and prepared To give them the love they need. It takes years of effort, study and trial and error.

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What sort of boundaries have you had to set before? Have you actually had somebody cry that much? I’d be curious what they were crying about and how you felt although that was them asking something of you.

We go to a restaurant, she didn't like it. We watch a movie, she didn't like it. And then she lies down and she cries that her parents criticize her

Edited Tuesday at 12:10 AM by integral

[yetineti]

@integral

What a great response. Actually helped me, in a few ways. Thanks.

[Basman]

On 03/11/2026 at 1:00 AM, integral said:

We go to a restaurant, she didn't like it. We watch a movie, she didn't like it. And then she lies down and she cries that her parents criticize her

You know, those kind of things are fine if its something you connect over, but when they act like their life has been ruined all the time by other people... I hate archbishops of complaining.

[Rigel]

Entirely dependent on who the specific woman is and why she’s crying.
Is it my mom, my partner, a rando I only saw in pictures and know nothing of?
Is she crying cause she got cancer and is breaking down or because she’s throwing a tantrum for being exposed for cheating? 

I’d say pretty much all feelings and reactions are on the table. The context will generate a reaction in me when it happens.

[integral]

1 hour ago, Basman said:

You know, those kind of things are fine if its something you connect over, but when they act like their life has been ruined all the time by other people... I hate archbishops of complaining.

victim mindset, yeah It's largely a disease inherited from parenting from what i can tell