Am I Finally Ready To Let Go of Dating?

[Elliott]

15 hours ago, Kalki Avatar said:

 

As sweet as women appear to be they will always switch at some point. Thats why you need to be focused on your purpose which means mission and life as a whole. Love your life, forget about love life. Let it come as a by product and even while being detached. Women have to be on your 4th or 5th as a priority in life. 

 

That would suck to be this cynical. A lot of women do suck, but a lot of women are awesome even when old. I know a few amazing older women that would have been awesome to have been their husband. There's absolutely too many soul sucking people, but spending life with someone else is something radically different than being alone, like the difference between a hermit and a time traveler. I don't think it matters how smart you are, another person can think of something you never would have and you also think of things together, it's at least 3x more creative and imagininative because you also get their entire friend group.

Edited 10 hours ago by Elliott

[Emerald]

@Kalki Avatar It's important to understand this. Pay attention, and you'll see it all the time. Your perspective is a self-fulfilling prophecy...

The man who believes most/all women are terrible will meet mostly terrible women.

The man who believes many women are wonderful will meet mostly wonderful women.

The woman who believes most/all men are terrible will meet mostly terrible men.

The woman who believes many men are wonderful will meet mostly wonderful men.

[Jirh]

3 hours ago, Joshe said:

Lol. Damn bruh. You gotta stop letting AI do your thinking. It only works up to a certain level.

Spot on!

Some intelligent people suggest it's now called AFA. It's a thing.

On 07/10/2026 at 6:12 AM, Jirh said:

I will coin the term before anyone else does:

Argument From AI fallacy, or AFA.

It's when you use AI to argue for your point without understanding that AI has its own sets of biases and contexts that probably don't match your reality.

The biggest downside to this is that it erodes your critical thinking capacity and makes you dependent on external intelligence instead of developing and sharpening your own.

[Jirh]

18 hours ago, Kalki Avatar said:

You are just at the right stage.
 

I have been dating the last few months, getting laid and breaking up/letting go of these women. They are all the same with little differences. Don’t matter if they are spiritual, rich, poor, old or young. It’s the same crap wrapped in different colors. 

 

Man, you will waste your life chasing ass. I’ve to stop this already. You will look back and only regret it. Just date enough to get unto that realization. You have to love and date yourself. Build your empire/life and become as alpha as possible while into the truth. Then only date once in a blue moon if too horny and have at least 2-3 girls rotation. Don’t take them seriously. Even if they are spiritual and want your commitment and do promises. You have to do a long screening process of observing their actions to believe them right. It can go to at least 12 months. If you have a high need for expressing love like me daily, get into Bhakti yoga and join some spiritual community for some friends. Even there you want to be as self sufficient as possible. 

Understand that women are brainwashed by feminism and dating has been ruined by social media. Women get their free validation there. You have competition 24/7. It’s a complex game that needs to be studied to be played right. You can ruin a relationship by sending one wrong text. Yes, you heard that right. Because texting is now an essential part of dealing with woman and it relates to their perception. They will interpret your text as they want. It’s only your tonality, body language and presence that gives the right context to it. So forget about a relationship as you want it. Thats like dreaming to become a trillionaire by winning the lottery. For that to happen you literally would have to meet an alien from an advanced spiritual civilization because that’s what you are doing here while living in this jungle. Even Sadhguru got tired of his nagging wife which only dragged him down.

As sweet as women appear to be they will always switch at some point. Thats why you need to be focused on your purpose which means mission and life as a whole. Love your life, forget about love life. Let it come as a by product and even while being detached. Women have to be on your 4th or 5th as a priority in life. 

You're absolutely right about purpose. Always center your life around your purpose, not your girl. Until you have a family, your focus should be on your purpose. Let the girl earn your focus with shared investment over time. If she doesn't invest in you, you don't invest in her. No time or energy for her until she's proven herself to be worth it.

What you described is not particularly strange. It's what happens when you lose your self for a woman. You give and give and forget to take.

Not a big problem, though. Try again with another woman. But this time, keep your boundaries and don't overgive.

Good luck.

[Joseph Maynor]

Someone is always trying to frame-control you, but these people are so easy to spot after a while.  

[LordFall]

8 hours ago, Joshe said:

Lol. Damn bruh. You gotta stop letting AI do your thinking. It only works up to a certain level. Like, did you say to your AI “ Josh’s use of gaslight doesn’t seem right here?”, lol. You’re right though, gaslighting wasn’t accurate. But apparently, you and your AI failed to account for “Josh could have pattern-matched to something and blurted out an inaccurate term with two seconds of consideration before moving on to his more substantial and relevant point”. 

You’re right that my cognitive ability is only slightly above average. Perception is my strength, not cognition. It’s how I know you used AI. 

The cope of having your shitty points dismantled and having to resort to 'this must be AI' is pretty cringe. Next time, put more effort into your thoughts and don't let your bias scream out of your posts if you don't want to be called out. 

If you blurt out stuff with 2 seconds of thought, then of course anybody with a brain is gonna tear you apart for it. What were your more substantial and relevant points exactly? I couldn't find any. 

[Ramanujan]

@Leo Gura

As an INTJ, is dating above my paygrade

Dating require a lot of Se and a lot of Fe

Mostly Se

 

As an intuitive, i dont have enough Se to keep woman in their place.

INTP have 2nd lowest Se. INTJ  have 4th lowest Se

Should intuitives stay away from Dating

 

 

Majority of  woman have  higher Se than me. And its a pain

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[LordFall]

16 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

@Leo Gura

As an INTJ, is dating above my paygrade

Dating require a lot of Se and a lot of Fe

Mostly Se

 

As an intuitive, i dont have enough Se to keep woman in their place.

INTP have 2nd lowest Se. INTJ  have 4th lowest Se

Should intuitives stay away from Dating

 

 

Majority of  woman have  higher Se than me. And its a pain

Blaming cognitive functions is just an excuse to avoid taking action. Your problem isn't low Se, it's that you're putting yourself in a victim mindset before you even try. Drop the MBTI cope and go get some real-world experience, you'll be fine.

How many women that you were attracted to have you talked to in the past 3 months? 

Edited 2 hours ago by LordFall

[meta_male]

29 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

Should intuitives stay away from Dating

Go sit where people are and watch all the different types of people that are dating or in a relationship. Do you think they are all non-intuitive?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

34 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

 

As an intuitive, i dont have enough Se to keep woman in their place

This ain't it.

[LordFall]

Extraverted Sensing is great to curate a pleasant and perhaps even sensual environments. Dudes high in Fe are great at being the life of the party but sometimes can bore women over a long period of time because their value is upfront and tends to slack. If you intuit deeply how women feel then you can play a game like I do where you host a monthly event and invite all the new women you meet to it. At your own events you can be grounded and low key and you are the structure of the party without being the life of the party and women usually are great at understanding the subtle context behind the environment and thus who runs it.

I've been told many times by women I met only for a few hours prior that they felt really comfortable around me which goes just as far if not further than being the fun guy that's super exciting in the moment but usually ends up turning off 50% of women due to being too much. 

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[Ramanujan]

30 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Blaming cognitive functions is just an excuse to avoid taking action. Your problem isn't low Se, it's that you're putting yourself in a victim mindset before you even try. Drop the MBTI cope and go get some real-world experience, you'll be fine.

from psychology pov i am so fucked . i dont have energy to keep higher Se woman in their place. 

there is hope too. like rollo tomassi is my type . look at his game. but it will astronomic amount of work.

its an uphill battle

[Ramanujan]

11 minutes ago, meta_male said:

Go sit where people are and watch all the different types of people that are dating or in a relationship. Do you think they are all non-intuitive?

yeah. but sensors are majority . intuitives exist too. but i am INXX. there are only 3 types are lower than me in Se. all 12 types have higher Se than me

[Ramanujan]

11 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

This ain't it.

how much trauma do you have , because of dating higher Se types

[Ramanujan]

5 minutes ago, LordFall said:

If you intuit deeply how women feel then you can play a game like I do where you host a monthly event and invite all the new women you meet to it. At your own events you can be grounded and low key and you are the structure of the party without being the life of the party and women usually are great at understanding the subtle context behind the environment and thus who runs it.

pro gamer move

although it wont work for me

 

 

@LordFall whats your type

 

 

 

6 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I've been told many times by women I met only for a few hours prior that they felt really comfortable around me which goes just as far if not further than being the fun guy that's super exciting in the moment but usually ends up turning off 50% of women due to being too much. 

wow cool

keep it up bro

[LordFall]

11 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

pro gamer move

although it wont work for me

 

 

@LordFall whats your type

 

 

 

wow cool

keep it up bro

I'm an INTP.

Bro the victim mindset with you is strong, we need to break you out of that.

You know you're an extremely powerful man capable of almost anything right? Can you repeat that back out loud and ideally in a comment. Never put random limitations on yourself that you don't really believe in, that's the suicide of your potential my friend. Other humans project their own limitations onto us and we internalize that. It's basically generational trauma.

Break the cycle, believe in yourself and achieve your wildest goals. 

[Ramanujan]

@LordFall yeah . nice to see INTPs getting success in dating. 

 

ig i will learn some game and get a girl

[meta_male]

16 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

yeah. but sensors are majority . intuitives exist too. but i am INXX. there are only 3 types are lower than me in Se. all 12 types have higher Se than me

I'm INFJ, Se is also my inferior function. What do you think a high-Se man can do in dating that you can not learn to do?

[Ramanujan]

1 minute ago, meta_male said:

I'm INFJ, Se is also my inferior function. What do you think a high-Se man can do in dating that you can not learn to do?

wow

how do you deal with higher Se types

[Miguel1]

It’s been 2-3 days since I’ve been here. I skimmed through the responses since then.

My conclusion is that it’s way too easy to troll and give low quality responses here. Too much nonsense, useless fighting and drama. Too much bullshits that are not held accountable, too much rambling, and too much defense mechanisms being activated, that are not checked.

I had a deep discussion with Zenterus in private about my situation, as he also has massive experince in PUA, and my situation is very clear to me now. We also came to the conclusion that this place is oftentimes a huge distraction from the real work.

If you are actually serious about understanding my situation, feel free to reach out to me via IG. My link is in my signature. We can call and I’ll explain everything, and you can ask any question.

But only if you are actually serious, please.

As for now, I will continue my break from here.

The blog has really all you need.

Thank you.