girls don't like nice guys

[Joseph Maynor]

58 minutes ago, Jirh said:

It's actually interesting, because being nice is a female survival strategy.

When they see you implementing their survival strategy, their system automatically places you in the friend-zone, because you remind them of themselves and their female friends.

It's not that they don't like nice guys. It's that they don't want to have sex with a girl. Polarity is required for attraction.

Nice guys are used and discarded. They end up doormats that get walked on, because they're weak and incapable of enforcing boundaries. They fail all the shit tests.

Obviously, there are cases where even the nice guy is attractive. But they usually involve unhealthy dynamics.

Don't fake it homie.  Be yourself and chill.  

[AION]

There is nothing wrong with nice guys. What is anti seductive is the desperation, clinging and self absorption. And above all he is hiding only showing his persona so her animus projection doesn’t have anything to cling on. I know literal killers who are nice but at the same time so dangerous and masculine. It is such a weird duality to see. 

Edited 6 hours ago by AION

[Jirh]

1 hour ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Don't fake it homie.  Be yourself and chill.  

Huh?

[something_else]

Nice just isn't really a distinctive personality trait. If the best someone can say about you is that you're "nice" then it means you are likely quite boring.

Kindness is attractive, especially if coming from a place of strength where you choose to be kind.

[Joseph Maynor]

1 hour ago, Jirh said:

Huh?

Um Hm.  

[Zenterus]

The blind leading the blind.

Most men's idea of being nice is synonymous to being a weak pussy. That's what women don't like, not the nice part. 

In fact, the longer I am in the game, the nicer I am to women. But I still have boundaries, I'm still being authentic, I'm still grounded, fun, charming, dominant, assertive, willing to tease, etc.

Women respond to strength. Strength comes in all forms. Trying to mold yourself and bend your own values into something you think the woman will like is inherently weak.

Instead, ask yourself: "In what ways am I weak as a man?" The answers will come to you and now you have a roadmap to success 

Furthermore, find multiple men who you deeply respect and admire and ask yourself "Why do I hold these men at high regard and what traits do they possess that I do not?" For more insight.

Being a douche isn't gonna get you any results if the woman doesnt inherently find you attractive on that primal level. It will only result in harsher rejections and potentially developing a very negative reputation in your city 

[Olaf]

@Zenterus but Zenterus, you are not a nice guy, lets be fair. You might be kind and bring good energy to woman, but you are not pleasing them and trying to manipulate with nice guy behavior: buying them a beer, showering them with compliments etc.

[Jirh]

2 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Um Hm.  

If you have something to say, be a man and say it. Don't play games.