Loneliness

[Miguel1]

How do you guys deal with loneliness?

Fall is arriving here in Finland, it’s getting darker, wetter and colder each day.

I have a ton of people in my circle, but none my true friend, which just makes it all the worst.

How do you deal with it? I deal with it via art, music, crying, dancing and the little surface level socializing I do.

[LordFall]

Arguing with people on the actualized.org forum of course, 8/10 therapist recommend this method. The other 2 are incels. 

More seriously as an INTP I have less of a need for socialization than you do and what I value is intellectual companionship so people that understand my ideas and wanna talk about them so I mean AI has kept me quite good company these past few months. I also have phone calls with friends in other cities occasionally but honestly Gemini helps more.  

 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Imdyx4bFmQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9cc-ISAzmWs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEQAHvD9_Zc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2KyOG1PbXA

 

Edited 3 hours ago by Raze

[TheGod]

23 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

How do you guys deal with loneliness?

Fall is arriving here in Finland, it’s getting darker, wetter and colder each day.

I have a ton of people in my circle, but none my true friend, which just makes it all the worst.

How do you deal with it? I deal with it via art, music, crying, dancing and the little surface level socializing I do.

As someone who lived in Canada for 4 years, I understand how the weather and lack of true friendship can affect how you feel. 
 

To be honest, the best way for me to deal with loneliness was oneness  that I could reach via 5MeO-DMT I would vape it in Canada every weekend or So but I don’t think it’s legal in your country (in Canada it is for personal possession).

Other things are exercising regularly, fasting and eating healthy. Running especially helps.

Maybe try to watch less porn if you watch it. In my experience it tends to make me feel lonely and depressed.

Edited 2 hours ago by TheGod

[LordFall]

8 minutes ago, TheGod said:

Maybe try to watch less porn if you watch it. In my experience it tends to make me feel lonely and depressed.

Really? Does the opposite for me. If I don't watch it my sex drive becomes so huge that looking at women outside makes me feel physical pain and I will not be able to stop the impulse to try to get laid in ways that are not productive to my life. 

[TheGod]

10 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Really? Does the opposite for me. If I don't watch it my sex drive becomes so huge that looking at women outside makes me feel physical pain and I will not be able to stop the impulse to try to get laid in ways that are not productive to my life. 

Yeah, porn hijacks your reward system and you feel low. The thing is if you like me have been watching porn since 13 it’s very difficult to notice its affects on your mood because your brain adapted to it. On the other hand, porn is very difficult to quit. 
I quit it after 7 years of going back and forth. Now I close my eyes and masturbate to memories of good sex I had with women and I feel rather relaxed and not wasted after it, as it usually happens with porn. At least in my experience. The physical pain that you feel is withdrawal from porn because you’re so used to use it to deal with sexual energy. Dealing with sexual energy is very difficult without porn and requires a lot of practice, discipline and will power. 
Even our lovely Leo Gura can’t master this skill, that’s why he’s so pro-porn  

 

[Valach]

27 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Really? Does the opposite for me. If I don't watch it my sex drive becomes so huge that looking at women outside makes me feel physical pain and I will not be able to stop the impulse to try to get laid in ways that are not productive to my life. 

Out sexual drives are deeply connected to psychological state. Many people use their sexuality to numb out feelings of loneliness and other stuff. Not saying that is you obviously as I do not know you personally. But it is something I have commonly saw in others and in myself.

[Valach]

1 hour ago, Miguel1 said:

How do you guys deal with loneliness?

Fall is arriving here in Finland, it’s getting darker, wetter and colder each day.

I have a ton of people in my circle, but none my true friend, which just makes it all the worst.

How do you deal with it? I deal with it via art, music, crying, dancing and the little surface level socializing I do.

By becoming my own best friend and staying connected to myself even in the worst times.

[Ulax]

Literature and films can help me

Crying helps me too sometimes 

LLMs too

Edited 1 hour ago by Ulax

[LordFall]

14 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Literature and films can help me

Crying helps me too sometimes 

LLMs too

What movies have you watched that you really liked lately?