Where Have You Had Sex?

[Joseph Maynor]

One thing that I think deserves to be said is -- to be the masculine whether you are a man or a woman is not easy to know for a lot of people.  And everyone has masculine and feminine energy.  

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Why don't you try creating a circle of high quality people where you are? You seem to be good at meeting people, so the organization seems to be the part that you struggle with.

What are you into in terms of hobbies? What skills do you have? If you create regular meetups where you are in 6-12 months you'll now know many women that you can choose to date/sleep with if they're down. 

Like i said I'm gonna do it, i just need to get my shit together for a little bit.  Then I'm gonna hit it again.  But now I have your tools, so i can't lose

[Inliytened1]

@JoshBCall me bitch, i just got my new cell phone, can't get it connected until tomorrow.

[Joseph Maynor]

There is something to be said for keeping it classy.  

[Asayake]

Just now, Joseph Maynor said:

There is something to be said for keeping it classy.  

I agree, but could you be more specific what you're referring to?

[Joseph Maynor]

2 minutes ago, Asayake said:

I agree, but could you be more specific what you're referring to?

This gets into filter in how you communicate.  And maybe no filter is healthy too.  I find that women see men acting as pigs very unattractive usually.

[Inliytened1]

6 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

This gets into filter in how you communicate.  And maybe no filter is healthy too.  I find that women see men acting as pigs very unattractive usually.

What about them?  Do we always have to be on our best behavior for them?  What if they need to be?

[Joseph Maynor]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

What about them?  Do we always have to be on our best behavior for them?  What if they need to be?

It is like eating a lot of rich food, at some point you will tire of it and want something deeper.  

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Joseph Maynor said:

It is like eating a lot of rich food, at some point you will tire of it and want something deeper.  

I can only eat a limited amount of chocolate cake or ice cream.  Then i have to stop.  Maybe it's the same with women.

[Joseph Maynor]

2 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I can only eat a limited amount of chocolate cake or ice cream.  Then i have to stop.  Maybe it's the same with women.

Exactly.  I'm not trying to say something is good or bad, don't get me wrong.  What I find really attractive is when I meet someone who can finish my sentences and we seem to have a deeper understanding and respect for each other.  

[Joseph Maynor]

I agree that you don't want to play into the money thing with women.  That is a trap.  There are some practical truths that deserve to be stated.  

[questionreality]

I come back here 14 hours later and it’s still going, with even more white knights piling on.

As has already been said, people who accuse others of being judgmental are often some of the most judgmental people themselves. That’s the irony of it all.

You got a user yetineti straight out calling @Inliytened1 old man, while demanding apology and accountability from him, are you kidding me?

Only one woman has actually come forward saying she was offended, and she also happens to be a mod. For some reason retraction and apology is not enough for Natasha. 

I think @LordFall nailed it when he said this thread has triggered a lot of shadows. I don't think I have seen this much projection in a while.

As I said, the title of this thread makes it obvious what it is about and what type of content it will contain. You don't have to read it and get your feelings hurt, if the language that it uses is not acceptable for you. Simply don't read it, you don't need to torture yourself. 

Hopefully the thread can get back on track and people can answer the question: Where have you fucked the girl?

[Joseph Maynor]

@questionreality  Putting lipstick on a pig doesn't work out well.  

 

[Rishabh R]

13 minutes ago, questionreality said:

I come back here 14 hours later and it’s still going, with even more white knights piling on.

As has already been said, people who accuse others of being judgmental are often some of the most judgmental people themselves. That’s the irony of it all.

You got a user yetineti straight out calling @Inliytened1 old man, while demanding apology and accountability from him, are you kidding me?

Only one woman has actually come forward saying she was offended, and she also happens to be a mod. For some reason retraction and apology is not enough for Natasha. 

I think @LordFall nailed it when he said this thread has triggered a lot of shadows. I don't think I have seen this much projection in a while.

As I said, the title of this thread makes it obvious what it is about and what type of content it will contain. You don't have to read it and get your feelings hurt, if the language that it uses is not acceptable for you. Simply don't read it, you don't need to torture yourself. 

Hopefully the thread can get back on track and people can answer the question: Where have you fucked the girl?

If that's the case then I apologize to @Natasha Tori Maru even if I didn't create the thread.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

33 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Do we always have to be on our best behavior for them? 

It is the wrong angle - be on your best behaviour for YOU. It's for you that you remain in control and authenticity with your expression in a civil way. Hold space for your emotions and feelings in full masculine expression and containment. You can say "I find her unnattractive" in healthy authentic expression without the need for rhetoric like "That woman is a disgusting whale".

Your outer behaviour should be calibrated against your inner voice (and not dictated by it), otherwise there is a risk of becoming out of integrity with your considered values. And you value good, strong and loving feminine women who are higher consciousness (from what you have said previously!). That's a fundamental value as it touches on connection, unity, love. Oneness. Infinity through the yin/yang dichotomy.

Most of the time people with healthy boundaries tend not to tolerate that type of speech. They don't need to control you; they can simply remove themselves from your world. On the flip side, people with weaker boundaries may remain and either tolerate the behaviour or attempt to control it. Boundaries are never about controlling others - always about what we let in.

You want that high consciousness healthy woman! Your expression is part of what that woman will evaluate when deciding whether she wants you. You want that woman! Your masculine expression can attract that. But it might be difficult when you call women “whales,” ay?

With love! 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

15 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

If that's the case then I apologize to @Natasha Tori Maru even if I didn't create the thread.

No need, no transgression. Like I said, I think the topic is fun and very open - some of the rhetorical terms depicting women got wonky. Sometimes we aren't aware of how it can appear 

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How's your experience of singlehood compared to your relationship experience. I mean mentally.

Amazing. At first being alone was daunting. I had never experienced it. It has been the most enriching experience for me to get in touch with my true self - I wish I had done it earlier. I remain in a really good, happy, peaceful and content space  

@questionreality It was not just me (as the only female) that noticed the poor rhetoric. And I was not offended as much as I was disappointed. I work in commercial construction. In an overwhelmingly male environment (so I'm very familiar with male banter and how men communicate) and I know where the line between rough humour and genuinely degrading rhetoric tends to fall.

Edited 15 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Joseph Maynor]

I want @Emerald to comment on this thread.  

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

27 minutes ago, questionreality said:

I come back here 14 hours later and it’s still going, with even more white knights piling on.

As has already been said, people who accuse others of being judgmental are often some of the most judgmental people themselves. That’s the irony of it all.

You got a user yetineti straight out calling @Inliytened1 old man, while demanding apology and accountability from him, are you kidding me?

Only one woman has actually come forward saying she was offended, and she also happens to be a mod. For some reason retraction and apology is not enough for Natasha. 

I think @LordFall nailed it when he said this thread has triggered a lot of shadows. I don't think I have seen this much projection in a while.

As I said, the title of this thread makes it obvious what it is about and what type of content it will contain. You don't have to read it and get your feelings hurt, if the language that it uses is not acceptable for you. Simply don't read it, you don't need to torture yourself. 

Hopefully the thread can get back on track and people can answer the question: Where have you fucked the girl?

Niggalations 3:7–9

7 Hearken, O ye sons of Adam, and give ear: the simp is the beginning of all evil, and from his groveling doth every plague upon the earth take root.

8 For he that casteth his substance before the vain maiden, and boweth the knee unto her Instagram and her empty words, hath opened the floodgates of iniquity; yea, his seed is weakened, and his house shall be laid waste.

9 And the Lord looked down upon the simps, and He was wroth, saying, These are they that have sold their birthright for a smile that lasteth not, and from their folly cometh the ruin of nations.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

10 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I want @Emerald to comment on this thread.  

It is funny - because she slowly removed herself from the forum for precisely the issues raised in this thread.

Leo doesn't want this to be a male only space.

He has made that expressly clear.

[Joseph Maynor]

2 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

It is funny - because she slowly removed herself from the forum for precisely the issues raised in this thread.

Leo doesn't want this to be a male only space.

He has made that expressly clear.

I think this can be a women friendly forum.  I agree.