Dating One Person At Once vs Multiple - Before Commitment

[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

You can have many life partners, if you'd only like one that your personal desire not a reality of how a lot of human beings arrange their life on this planet. 

Read the damn opener

[LordFall]

I did read it AND I gave you a framework to reach YOUR stated goal that should help make the process better and add more value to your life.

Which is why I'm calling you out for proselytizing your philosophy as the one true way instead of having the humility to think of it as your own conclusions that fit your desires. 

Edited 5 hours ago by LordFall

[something_else]

1 hour ago, Miguel1 said:

@something_else Your dates lasts 30 min?

Ehm, no? Did I say it did 

I’m honestly not sure what point you’re trying to make here

[Jirh]

@Miguel1 You are a difficult person.

[Valach]

2 hours ago, something_else said:

Because laughter happens when you are relaxed and in the moment. Not when you're thinking about the future and evaluating if this is a person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. That puts you both in a job interview frame of mind, lots of pressure.

I'm not saying it can't work to be clear, I just don't think it's optimal.

But you do not built relationships on laughter. As @Miguel1 said a lot of what works within the realm of casual or PUA dating is basically an antithesis of healthy long-term relationships.

I am not saying that having fun is an enemy, but there should be some level of seriousness and vetting in the dating process and that is inherently not as emotionally stimulating.

It is quite interesting when it comes to this if you think about it. There is a general consensus that focusing on just what feels right is not the best life strategy - then I would just play videogames, jerkoff, smoke weed etc. Yet when it comes to dating most peoples vetting process is basically "How emotionally stimulating is this person" - it's nuts.

[something_else]

22 minutes ago, Valach said:

But you do not built relationships on laughter. As @Miguel1 said a lot of what works within the realm of casual or PUA dating is basically an antithesis of healthy long-term relationships.

I am not saying that having fun is an enemy, but there should be some level of seriousness and vetting in the dating process and that is inherently not as emotionally stimulating.

It is quite interesting when it comes to this if you think about it. There is a general consensus that focusing on just what feels right is not the best life strategy - then I would just play videogames, jerkoff, smoke weed etc. Yet when it comes to dating most peoples vetting process is basically "How emotionally stimulating is this person" - it's nuts.

It’s not the only thing that matters, but it’s certainly important. Good luck building a long term relationship if you don’t share a sense of humour.

The long term stuff comes after a few dates. No point in planning a life together if you don’t even know whether you’d enjoy each other’s company at dinner, a movie, drinks, games, chilling at home etc.

I have a strong suspicion that the people who look actively for a ‘life partner’ tend to be the type who jump from relationship to relationship and break up after like 6 months. You try so hard to force everything to be long term even if it isn’t meant to be, and then it blows up.

[KosmicGeng]

I can recommend everything from him:

https://www.youtube.com/@psychacks/videos

He has some video on the topic, yet the more I conscious I became, it was more akin to the mojo naturally manifesting, and I saw how my intuition might do that, as I only have reference experience from a perspective that wanted to have a two life partners, simply due to the energy and support, I yearned to have as well as the fecundity at times I feel in me, when I am at peak health, this is a more moderate, but highly educated take, being married has many stigmas, social benefits, capitalistic benefits, and life benefits, where I tracked more the synchronicity aspect, after doing deepak chopras work, also Leo mentioned it's cruel to not mention to a girl you want multiple women, I for instance still crave two, or one who can give me the benefit of two, and I'd like to be married to both and have kids, irregardless of the challenge, it's a bit reckless, but I don't think I will get it that quickly out of me, at times my own depth is deeper, and I just require two women, as one women can't fill that level of depth, but I also still have to explore, the biggest obstacle is simply purpose and financial freedom, this would come automatically I bet just "causal success" is not enough for two women imo, and the social paradigm does not benefit it, besides some hippy stuff. 

I wrote for instance with a girl who was open to it, and she just asked if you had the money, and she was very loving, this was only via text though, and with open chinese women, I am highly attracted to. 

[something_else]

13 minutes ago, KosmicGeng said:

I wrote for instance with a girl who was open to it, and she just asked if you had the money, and she was very loving,

Sorry, but you’re going to get absolutely railroaded if you fall for stuff like this. She was interested in money, not love or depth

[KosmicGeng]

38 minutes ago, something_else said:

Sorry, but you’re going to get absolutely railroaded if you fall for stuff like this. She was interested in money, not love or depth

It's not as clear as day, we were open to building a relationship that had the benefit of having more then one women, and she simply asked for the logistics, we built the relationship first then I asked her if shes was open for it, practically said yes, and if I had the money, it was more logical, she was more interested in the life of the ressources we could build, and another dynamic I opened, her parents were affluent, so the money was not the true issue, she was paid everything for and simply craved a relationship that had depth. I can be superficial at times, but it protects me more, just letting everything out at times costed me more then giving me gain, but every failure is learning, this was the first time I asked a girl if she was open, and I followed the tip from Leo to ask right away if she was open, instead of torturing here with guesswork about my intentions, and she said yes and if I had the money, obviously she could gun for the money again, but it was an interesting experience to me mostly. 

I did a course on healthy long-term relationships, most young girls are not ready to put in that type of work, so success and financial abundance accounts to more "healthy and stable relationships", but it does not disclude the issues of manipulation, fame and toxic values, I did Leo Guras life purpose course, so I choose more healthy vales, but after this relationship failure I still have to learn go out and game, but I have to put many pieces in order, after having studying with the peak of A.I here, and doing it myself, as I see to many issues, for e.g 12 volumes on love lost from Darwin etc. which is imo highly important and I faced a lot of corruption. Hope this gives some insight, she was conscious about money, but yes I also agree she could've just been about money, but just framing her like a gold digger would be wrong, as she was kind, responsive and loving about me, and the connection I had while working out and she put in effort, which was a good sign. 

This was with a chinese women. 

Edited 3 hours ago by KosmicGeng

[Rafael Thundercat]

No matter what style you look for. One thing is the same: I you relating with someone or some ones. So is great to have fundations

Foundations on choice and foundation on the relationship if is supposed to be long term. There is no bypassing on this matters.

 

[KosmicGeng]

@Rafael Thundercat This women is awesome I am watching this, thank you for sharing!!

I reflect upon this and share my experience from the relationship, the after effects have been going on for a while, as I yearned to have a spiritual experience, but when I practiced next to her, she just feel asleep and said she was tired, and just wanted to manifest money, instead of focusing on love and god, our values were completely afflicted by her intentions imo, but let me be healthily self-critical here.

I am definitely still recovering, and I still require experience that are causal with women. 

Edited 55 minutes ago by KosmicGeng