Dating One Person At Once vs Multiple - Before Commitment

[LordFall]

Yeah I've only seen the ones with Daniel Craig.

James Bond taught me that having an elite skillset, pulling baddies and saving the world is the best life purpose there is. 

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Yeah I've only seen the ones with Daniel Craig.

James Bond taught me that having an elite skillset, pulling baddies and saving the world is the best life purpose there is. 

Are you serious? you have to check out Connery.  He is the real Bond. I grew up with Roger Moore, who i always thought fit the part until I watched some of Connery. But that was my dad because he told me to watch it.  Ok...Best Bond scene EVER, I'm gonna pull it up, give me a sec

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[Inliytened1]

Just now, LordFall said:

Yeah I've only seen the ones with Daniel Craig.

James Bond taught me that having an elite skillset, pulling baddies and saving the world is the best life purpose there is. 

 

[Inliytened1]

13 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

You guys must be gluttons for punishment lol.  

i just watched that Bond scene and enjoyed it just as much as the first time.  That's my favorite scene.

 

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[Joseph Maynor]

You have to look to how you are respected and listened to by real life people.  All this online stuff is just sus at best.  

[Inliytened1]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

If you've never taken psychedelics before the difference between theoretical awakening and a direct mystical experience is like reading about water in a novel vs being thrown in an arctic plunge.

 

It's the same thing, you don't need psychedelics to give you a mystical experience.  

[LordFall]

5 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

It's the same thing, you don't need psychedelics to give you a mystical experience.  

Nah, I had some 5-meo-dm5 last year. It was beyond anything that you can experience by just self-inquiry. 

[Inliytened1]

12 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Nah, I had some 5-meo-dm5 last year. It was beyond anything that you can experience by just self-inquiry. 

The only thing that is necessary is something to provide the shift in consciousness.  The shift is the same.  

[Inliytened1]

31 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

You have to look to how you are respected and listened to by real life people.  All this online stuff is just sus at best.  

There really isn't a difference.  Not if its all consciousness.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Depends how you approach dating.

All my best, deepest and longest lasting relationships were with men who I was great friends with prior. I still love those men (even if not romantically) and speak to them regularly.

I approach it like friendship; I see one friend for coffee on a Tuesday, squeeze in an impromptu river walk with another Saturday morning etc. Whatever I can do to keep up connection and mutual care/fun. I just do the same with dating, as I firmly believe establishing a basic friendship is the fertile soil for a great relationship. I am slow to warm up, my feelings and attraction develop over time. I like to see men in different situations & experiences and how we both react separately, and then contrast this. I like to allow attraction to develop alongside knowledge of the person.

I don't necessarily think "You need to be friends first", more that a strong romantic relationship usually benefits from the qualities of a good friendship. 

This method avoids some pitfalls I fell into when younger in less mature relationships - I get to prioritise liking the person before I idealise them and it assists me in observing character as attraction develops. I get to test compatibility through normal, ordinary life and I get to witness interactional patterns over time as opposed to isolated behaviour. When I was younger I was much more inclined to fall for my idea of a person's potential, or my own fantasy a life with them.