How do you lock a woman in to where she isn't thinking about anyone else but you?

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Flattered you see me as capable of both 

Chime in more over there i would love to see you.

[Ulax]

1 minute ago, Inliytened1 said:

Chime in more over there i would love to see you.

Glad you like my chiming in 

[Inliytened1]

Just now, Ulax said:

Glad you like my chiming in 

I don't like you that much lets not get weird about this.  I have a reputation to maintain. 

[Ulax]

1 minute ago, Inliytened1 said:

I don't like you that much lets not get weird about this.  I have a reputation to maintain. 

If by weird you mean unique, then ty 

[Juan]

You don’t, why would you want to manipulate her? 

If you want someone loyal then you have to be it with yourself first. Having a Life Purpose, being funny and have your shit together is the ultimate attraction magnet.

[Inliytened1]

5 minutes ago, Juan said:

You don’t, why would you want to manipulate her? 

If you want someone loyal then you have to be it with yourself first. Having a Life Purpose, being funny and have your shit together is the ultimate attraction magnet.

I don't mean intentionally setting out to do it but ultimately the end goal is for her to fall in love where you don't have to worry about her going with other guys.  Because she is in love. I'm finding that.

Edited 4 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Xonas Pitfall]

If the goal is manipulation, find someone who's desperate enough to be susceptible to it. That's why con artists, cult leaders, and "loverboys" often learn to identify and target people in vulnerable situations. I feel like people glorify people like this as if they're hyper-charismatic masterminds, but a lot of the time they're just extremely predatory and good at identifying those who are most susceptible. Their "success" often comes less from some magical level of charm and more from preying on the vulnerable.

But if the discussion is actually (I hope) about building love, I'd argue that many people underestimate how powerful it is to create an open, safe environment. If you can take the lead in creating an atmosphere where people feel comfortable letting go, you'll often find that people naturally gravitate toward you.

This is also why people use alcohol or drugs. They lower your inhibitions, so you feel freer, more playful, more emotional, and more like yourself. Life just feels more fun. People love this state because people love feeling good. Fun feels good. Feeling accepted feels good. Being able to be weird, playful, or a little crazy without judgment feels good.

If you can make people naturally enter that kind of state around you, you become really addicting. You become their "high/drug/booze". That's why best friends or long-term couples can seem almost drunk together. They're just so comfortable and open that they can fully let loose. People end up wanting to be around whoever makes them feel that way.

[Juan]

15 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I don't mean intentionally setting out to do it but ultimately the end goal is for her to fall in love where you don't have to worry about her going with other guys.  Because she is in love. I'm finding that.

Got it, well I cannot control that, if she wants to talk to guys or girls that’s her decision. I know what I bring to the table and whenever we are together we are gonna have a blast and a good time, that’s my focus at least. The more you accept her then she will trust you more right? 

Let’s turn the tables around, had you guys thought on somebody else while being on a relationship? (Let’s call it a “what if’s with X person”) I know I had but, I’m clear on my current goals so I just move on with life, I assume it’s the same for girls.

Edited 3 hours ago by Juan

[Inliytened1]

6 minutes ago, Juan said:

Got it, well I cannot control that, if she wants to talk to guys or girls that’s her decision. I know what I bring to the table and whenever we are together we are gonna have a blast and a good time, that’s my focus at least. The more I accept her then she will trust you more right? 

Let’s turn the tables around, had you guys thought on somebody else while being on a relationship? (Let’s call it a “what if’s with X person) I know I had but, I’m clear on my current goals so I just move on with life, I assume it’s the same for girls.

I don't know I truly believe that the sexual connection binds everything.  Without that, you have nothing.  Women are very emotional and sexual - and their way of connecting with us animalis is through sex. That's how they can reach us. Or so they think. Because we are savages. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Natasha Tori Maru]

If you want a real, emotional and intellectual connection with a woman, where you are each defined individuals with true connection to yourselves, but want to dissolve all the things that might be in the way - safety will always be necessary.

Cannot have real connection without safety.

After all, union, connection, infinity are Love - fear is the corruption, safety is the salve ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 hearts on fire ! 

Edited 3 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

If you want a real, emotional and intellectual connection with a woman, where you are each defined individuals with true connection to yourselves, but want to dissolve all the things that might be in the way - safety will always be necessary.

Cannot have real connection without safety.

After all, union, connection, infinity are Love - fear is the corruption, safety is the salve ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 hearts on fire ! 

What do you mean like use protection? I'm packing magnums.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Inliytened1 Goldeneye. The golden gun 🔫 

 

[Inliytened1]

16 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Inliytened1 Goldeneye. The golden gun 🔫 

 

Hey I'm still firing. Not sure for how long though.  

[Hojo]

I dont think you can.

You cant control another mind. You can try but anytime you try they will know.

You kind of have to love them so they go out and they realize that there isnt a better place with you.

Like with my cats. I am so nice to my cats that they dont leave me. I am the best place for my cats they choose that not me.

My cats dont go outside my yard even tho I let them out freely they hang out beside my house. Because everywhere else isnt as good.

Cats are easier than humans tho because they dont want anything.

Edited 2 hours ago by Hojo

[Miguel1]

It depends on the woman you want to attract.

If she is immature and unhealed / unintegrated, and has unhealthy attachment style, then playing games with her will work wonders.

If she is mature and conscious, then be fully honest and open. Provide masculine safety and containment. If you two have proper compatibility, you will be inseparateable.

[Joshe]

Aside from filling the main requirements, you have to offer something like a unique selling proposition, something they will miss and not easily find again if they leave. It could be anything from the perfect sized dick to making them laugh. For me, it’s a sort of unique intimacy they aren’t likely to find with the next guy. This single quality is the main thing that kept my gfs from moving on. And it’s what keeps them calling me back years later. But like any good thing, it exhausts.

Even if you have a good USP, if you’re dating a nympho, she’s gonna stray, lol, as it’s just in her nature. But there’s the other end of the extreme: I’ve hypothesized about 5-10% of girls, once you win them over, they’ll basically never leave you and you’ll always be the object of their affection. But this comes with its own downsides as these are the girls that will always want to be in your personal space. The types that scoot right up to their man in the truck, always wanting to hold your hand, etc. 

But these are the extremes. The average woman requires a fair amount of maintenance for you to remain the only one she has eyes for. I used to ask my girlfriends after several years, if your favorite movie star showed up right here while we’re out to dinner and invites you to come with him, would you leave right now and go with him? They knew lying to me wasn’t an option, lol. Fucking hilarious. All they could do was fight back a smile. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is, it’s possible, but it takes a lot of maintenance and an actual USP (you can’t just be any geek off the street). Also, I don’t think it’s a worthwhile endeavor, as it’s too much trying to control things outside yourself, and trying to control this aspect of reality is setting yourself up for a massive let down when reality shows you it’s not in your control. 

Relationships just end as each party exhausts the good things that were keeping them there. Don’t cling, and accept their impermanence. 

Edited 4 minutes ago by Joshe

[Joshe]

In sum, the next Brad Pitt will always be able to fuck your girl, and that’s ok. Lol 

[Jirh]

You can't stop her thinking, but you can stop her action. It's your job as a man to protect your woman from her own stupidity.

You can make it crystal clear that if she ever deviates, that she will permanently lose access to you.

This way you may have a chance. Otherwise, you really don't.

But also some women are loyal by nature. These are the highest quality women. But they are rare.