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[Inliytened1]

6 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I didn't mean it that literally.

The feminine side is indeed very different. You would have to put on those goggles to understand.  Fully.  Now. If you have taken that back with you, it should make you a superpower with the ladies. Or just one.

Edited yesterday at 08:37 AM by Inliytened1

[Jirh]

30 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I didn't morph into a woman. I just saw how the female mind works, how the feminine works.

The feminine is a different paradigm. Like quantum mechanics vs Newtonian mechanics.

Well, that's definitely interesting.

Is this new? If so, do you expect it will affect your perception and overall insights?

[Inliytened1]

6 minutes ago, Jirh said:

Well, that's definitely interesting.

Is this new? If so, do you expect it will affect your perception and overall insights?

I still got more girls than him. Turning into one doesnt count.

[Joseph Maynor]

2 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I still got more girls than him. Turning into one doesnt count.

You need to chill man.  Lol.  

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Joseph Maynor said:

You need to chill man.  Lol.  

Relax and enjoy the ride.

[Joseph Maynor]

Just now, Inliytened1 said:

Relax and enjoy the ride.

The problem is you are hiding behind anonymity and making lots of statements.

[Miguel1]

2 hours ago, AION said:

Just imagine you are a child and you have huge mood swings and much more fleeting states.  And as a woman you are more prone to seek external safety and being embedded in the social matrix is much more important.

You don’t hear the degrading tone in the way you speak?

In the same way I could say men are like old gramps but just extremely horny, creepy, selfish, lack empathy and are threatening.

Edited 23 hours ago by Miguel1

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

The problem is you are hiding behind anonymity and making lots of statements.

I am not proud of all the women. Its nothing really to brag about. I'm lucky I didnt get any diseases.  But what i can do is pass along my experience.  Sorry if it came off arrogant. I'm not trying to do that.

Edited 23 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Miguel1]

44 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I just saw how the female mind works, how the feminine works.

The feminine is a different paradigm.

I spent my entire life from teenagehood first with girls, then with women, and also studied them and female psychology deeply.

Majority of the people I have hung out with the past 10 years were women (mostly sexual friends lol). Most of my close friends were pretty much my exes.

You are correct that their mind works very differently. I had not even thought that most men could be blind to it. And even I probably don’t understand it deeply enough!

I always thought that I am just wired to be quite feminine and masculine but perhaps spending so much time with girls taught me a lot about my own femininity.

[Leo Gura]

1 minute ago, Miguel1 said:

I spent my entire life from teenagehood first with girls, then with women, and also studied them and female psychology deeply.

That is a boon.

[Leo Gura]

33 minutes ago, Jirh said:

Well, that's definitely interesting.

Is this new? If so, do you expect it will affect your perception and overall insights?

Maybe a year or two old.

It doesn't affect my insight other than a deeper understanding of women.

Women can be understood crazy deeply. Give it a shot.

Edited 23 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Jirh]

@Leo Gura Alright cool!

I'll be waiting by for a more in-depth video 😍

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Maybe a year or two old.

It doesn't affect my insight other than a deeper understanding of women.

Women can be understood crazy deeply. Give it a shot.

Naw we want details.  Like all the juicy stuff.  And don't save it for the book. I think another video is in store  because keeping us in suspense is not fair 

[Joseph Maynor]

12 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Naw we want details.  Like all the juicy stuff.  And don't save it for the book. I think another video is in store  because keeping us in suspense is not fair 

He doesn't know bro.  

[Inliytened1]

4 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

He doesn't know bro.  

If he doesn't he should. The female sex is a whole lot more honest. And faithful.  Man is a beast.  That's what we are.  

[AION]

2 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

You don’t hear the degrading tone in the way you speak?

In the same way I could say men are like old gramps but just extremely horny, creepy, selfish, lack empathy and are threatening.

So how would you rephrase what I said? I tried to explain it in the nicest way possible. By the way I get along with women ok now I understand how they work. Some guys treat women as they treat their male friends. That doesn’t work. 

[AION]

1 hour ago, Inliytened1 said:

If he doesn't he should. The female sex is a whole lot more honest. And faithful.  Man is a beast.  That's what we are.  

miguel1, are you going to lecture him too?? I’m curious 

Edited 21 hours ago by AION

[LordFall]

13 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

If understanding them required you to turn gay would you. You see my dilemma here. I don't think its this complicated.  I don't think you need to become them. You just have to pleasure them right and they will return.

It's interesting that you phrase it in the context of homophobia like you're scared of turning gay. You're treating understanding the feminine as a threat to your masculine identity, rather than an expansion of it.

I've taken a decent amount of psychedelics and it served me to not tie my identity so strongly with my current sense of self. It allowed me to experience a greater spectrum of emotions that I usually felt in my daily life. Women tend to experience a wider variety of emotions and especially neuroticism so perhaps it helped my capacity as an event host. A lot of women have told me they feel comfortable around me and the events I host. Men especially straight men tend to be pretty aloof sometimes lack empathy which is defined as being able to understand and SHARE someone's feelings, thoughts and experiences. 

[Emerald]

To understand women, the first and most important thing to do is to understand how humans work... and to then recognize the humanity of a woman.

I'd say, men and women are 80% similar based on the core humanity. And it's something that's gotten even clearer to me working as a coach over the past 7 years. We're all going through the same core human patterns.

And one major blindspot that I notice that a sizable percentage of men have is that they can tend to see women as fundamentally alien to themselves... like a totally different species.

And this tends to create a lot more tension and friction to developing positive friendships and romantic relationships with women for the men who see women as alien. 

And it creates this worship/hate dynamic, where men with this paradigm will see woman as both above and below them... like angels and demons, instead of actual people.

And the same can't be said the other way around. Most women don't see men as alien to themselves.

And this tends to create an imbalance between the sexes level of understanding of one another where women understand more about men than men understand about women simply by recognizing that men are as human as they are and are going through all the regular human things.

But in the 20% of qualities that are genuinely different between men and women, I would sum up the main difference that I notice like this...

Think about movies where people are skillfully sneaking into a maximum security place to retrieve something.

And the person is about to walk into an open room with the thing they're trying to retrieve on a table in the middle of the room. 

But then, someone notices that there are a bunch of faint red laser lines all over the room. And if anyone walks across one of those laser lines, then the cops will be informed and will come immediately.

And then, the person retrieving the item has to duck and weave through all the red laser lines.

In this metaphor, the red laser lines represent raw emotional information and vibes. 

And generally, women can see the red lines more easily and can see the implications of what happens relationally if those lines are crossed... for better and for worse.

This creates more social awareness and a deeper connection to feeling in general... but also difficulties doing what needs doing if it means crossing a social line. And grudges can be held more easily because there's a deeper connection to the underlying lattice-work of 'laser lines world'. Red laser-lines world doesn't go away... it's very loud.

Also, red-laser lines world is complex... and it takes a lot of skill to learn to read it. And if you don't learn how to read it, it will bury you in TONS of un-processable information.

And generally, for Masculine men (but not usually Feminine men) they can't see the red laser lines quite as easily and have less connection to what happens if those laser lines are crossed... for better and for worse. 

On one hand, decisions can be made more quickly and unnecessary boundaries can be discarded more easily. And red-laser lines world in HD is A LOT of information to constantly process... so, it's easier to emotionally regulate when the laser lines are a bit fainter, as there isn't so much information that it's overpowering.

But it can be easier to disassociate from red-laser lines world altogether, since the lines are a fainter and easier to ignore. And when that happens there can be a "bull in a china shop" dynamic with those red laser lines... and real social consequences can happen but not be felt. This is especially true for men who see red laser lines world as unimportant or lame.

Edited 5 hours ago by Emerald

[Zenterus]

@Emerald Oh shit! Welcome back!