The more I read here, The more lost I feel

[jacknine119]

When I come to this forum, I often feel like I’m very far from reality.

In my everyday life, I sometimes imagine scenarios where I’m confident, classy, attractive to women, and generally doing well socially. But then I read the discussions here and realize how little real experience I actually have.

I start thinking that I’m very different from what women want, that I have no social status, and that I’m lacking a lot of the things other people seem to have.

What feels strange—and honestly a bit scary—is realizing how different my self-image can be from my actual situation. Sometimes it makes me wonder whether I’ve been living more in my imagination than in reality.

Has anyone else experienced this feeling?

 

[jacknine119]

I am very serious with woman and trying to impress them

[LordFall]

Take action. Don't worry about theory before you take action. I like maximizing status and coming up with complicated plans but that comes after you have a baseline of action and results with women so you can see if you need to calibrate or not.

Have you cold approached before? If not start with this. Do you know friends that are into cold approach or would be down to try with you?

Second best step is to get on dating apps and optimize your profile. You will not get many matches at first but with an optimized profile and tinder platinum + boosts, it's very realistic to go on 1-2 dates a week from that.

When you can go on dates continuously from either cold approach and dating apps you have a great question to ask yourself which is am I satisfied with the women I can meet or do I need to significantly raise my status to attract hotter/more niche women? If so we can talk about that then. 

Your baseline is cold approach because it's the most straightforward see hot girl -> talk to hot girl. Try it and report back.

You got this champ

I have a video on how I think you should see your overall dating strategy as a man. If you're overwhelmed it will help streamline what self-development has to do with dating but what I said in this post is as simple as I can make it

 

> What feels strange—and honestly a bit scary—is realizing how different my self-image can be from my actual situation. Sometimes it makes me wonder whether I’ve been living more in my imagination than in reality.

100% bro everyone has this. Most men think they can attract women they're attracted to. Then they try and it doesn't work and they get traumatized and start coping in various ways or even WORST they never try.

> I am very serious with woman and trying to impress them 

Awesome if you're very serious you will surely try cold approaching tomorrow or in the next few days and report back your results. Approach at least 10 women. If you can’t make yourself do it tell us about that as well and what came up in your mind.

Excited to hear about your journey! 

Edited June 24 by LordFall

[Jirh]

5 hours ago, jacknine119 said:

I am very serious with woman and trying to impress them

Maybe just stop being this way.

[Leo Gura]

@jacknine119 You just lack experience with women. The solution is to socialize more.

When you are talking to women, you need to throw all theory out the window. Socialize without thinking about any theory.

You should not care what women want. Just be yourself.

Impressing women is the biggest waste of time in the world. It will not get you laid.

Edited June 25 by Leo Gura

[Hojo]

I was at my buddies wedding and there was a really hot girl there and everyone was trying to get with her. They were buying her drinks and talking to her. My friend was trying to get with her too and was talking to her alot like the others. I was not talking to her and was just fking around. When the night was ending she come with me and my friend to our cabin and we did it. And my friend was so mad at me even tho I didnt do anything.

You cant trick a woman into getting with you. Game is shit if you gunna fuck she will already know.

My friend thought he could woo her with words and thats rarely the case. They know who they are attracted too and its better to just shut up cause you will only ruin it with your words lol. The more you try to impress with words the more douchey and weird you sound. If you are quite the woman will talk to you if they are attracted to you.

 

When you do pick up you just fk yourself. You keep putting yourself down everytime they reject and then even when you get one you are too in your head to enjoy it. If it just happens Gods light shine upon you.

Literally all you have to do in life is be happy and smile. When you constantly thinking about banging woman you cant do that.

Suddenly you are banging woman cause they thought you were cute when you were really enjoying yourself. You were only enjoying yourself cause you werent thinking about woman.

A man is at his best when not thinking about woman. Dont you remeber before puberty you were having a blast and still look back on it today before you mind got taken over.

Edited June 25 by Hojo

[Jirh]

@Hojo 💯

[WonderSeeker]

 

On 6/25/2026 at 0:39 PM, Hojo said:

I was at my buddies wedding and there was a really hot girl there and everyone was trying to get with her. They were buying her drinks and talking to her. My friend was trying to get with her too and was talking to her alot like the others. I was not talking to her and was just fking around. When the night was ending she come with me and my friend to our cabin and we did it. And my friend was so mad at me even tho I didnt do anything.

You cant trick a woman into getting with you. Game is shit if you gunna fuck she will already know.

My friend thought he could woo her with words and thats rarely the case. They know who they are attracted too and its better to just shut up cause you will only ruin it with your words lol. The more you try to impress with words the more douchey and weird you sound. If you are quite the woman will talk to you if they are attracted to you.

 

When you do pick up you just fk yourself. You keep putting yourself down everytime they reject and then even when you get one you are too in your head to enjoy it. If it just happens Gods light shine upon you.

Literally all you have to do in life is be happy and smile. When you constantly thinking about banging woman you cant do that.

Suddenly you are banging woman cause they thought you were cute when you were really enjoying yourself. You were only enjoying yourself cause you werent thinking about woman.

A man is at his best when not thinking about woman. Dont you remeber before puberty you were having a blast and still look back on it today before you mind got taken over.

This is it.

When I think back to my best seductions, all I did was act like a retard and drop off-hand compliments like sprinkles on a cake. Things escalated so naturally...

If it's a date or a social circle meetup, you just do things that you're passionate about and share them with everyone there. I believe @integral posted about this the other day. From there you go on little quests. Man with a plan type shit

But @jacknine119 you got this! Start small. Step 1 is make a solid female friend. Don't assess hotness, just make a friend.

...And don't try to fuck her (like my stupid ass has done before). Sometimes you can, but the goal is momentum, not the first one that validates you. As you go you'll buld that social proof and get with one you truly like.

I'm moving to a new country soon. I've been studying the language and I plan to meet women and show them what I've been up to. Playfully, of course! Having fun with it. Will probably post about it after a year or so

[Elliott]

This place is not going to translate well to Georgia. I'm the biggest atheist and if I lived in Georgia, I would go to church to meet a woman.... just go there and you'll have 10 ladies setting you up with their daughter, grandaughter, niece, or friend.

[Schizophonia]

57 minutes ago, Elliott said:

This place is not going to translate well to Georgia. I'm the biggest atheist and if I lived in Georgia, I would go to church to meet a woman.... just go there and you'll have 10 ladies setting you up with their daughter, grandaughter, niece, or friend.

I get ads for Mormon missionaries on YouTube, and they’re always women; they know what they’re doing.

[Rishabh R]

@jacknine119 Just take action since it is simpler than you think. As per impressing women -it doesn't matter.

[Elliott]

2 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

I get ads for Mormon missionaries on YouTube, and they’re always women; they know what they’re doing.

I get them from Mormons too, hot girls. Mormons are the ones with six wives and always in the news for their cults raping underage girls.

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