How long will it take to get good at game

[Ramanujan]

i am a retard in social skills. how long will it take to get good at game

 

i have mastered "how to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie". its is muscle memmory. but that doesnt help me much. i am still lonely. it doesnt even work on my male friends

fucking hell

how long will it take to get good at game

 

Edited 6 hours ago by Ramanujan

[Someone here]

@Ramanujan Brother..you are not a retard at all . Unless there is something clinical you suffer from autism or perfectionist symptoms or abnormal self consciousness. I notice you have a thing for books. You are addicted to theory . I’m introverted too and I think most people who are active on this forum are also more likely introverted. However socializing with people is REALLY not that such a nightmare . Literally just dress nice and put on some perfume or something and go to a mall or Any place in your country where there is  mixed genders having fun in a secular chill flirty way and just strike up a conversation with a person . How to do that ? Just do it . Talking is an action step ..you do the action by doing the action . It’s like asking how to drink water . You can sit there theorizing about how to drink water until you die or you can just drink . Go to a social gathering or a party or a mall and find the most attractive girl there and literally just walk straight towards her and tell her that you like her dress …guess what will happen? She will smile. She is not gonna kill you. What if any person (male or female or anything in between ) told you randomly that they find you attractive? Isn’t that gonna Make you smile? . The rest is case by case . The point isn’t to make her your girlfriend..the point is you talked to her. Even if eventually she rejected you . It’s not the end of the world . You don’t expect to get that much lucky anyways. you have set proper expectations..low ones. But you talked to her. That means you improved . Baby steps and you will gain much more experience in short time and eventually you will have a girlfriend. It is not impossible. It’s your right as a man to have a girlfriend just as it’s women’s right to have husbands or Boyfriends. There is nothing wrong or weird or cringe or anything about that. Do not say I’m a retard again .

Edited 3 hours ago by Someone here

[Spiral]

It’s like a muscle, you can study how to workout and that certainly helps. But getting good at it requires at lot of practice. Be really social, spend hours a day socializing and in the end you’ll be good at it. However you lose it if you don’t keep it up

[Rishabh R]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

@Ramanujan Brother..you are not a retard at all . Unless there is something clinical you suffer from autism or perfectionist symptoms or abnormal self consciousness. I notice you have a thing for books. You are addicted to theory . I’m introverted too and I think most people who are active on this forum are also more likely introverted. However socializing with people is REALLY not that such a nightmare . Literally just dress nice and put on some perfume or something and go to a mall or Any place in your country where there is  mixed genders having fun in a secular chill flirty way and just strike up a conversation with a person . How to do that ? Just do it . Talking is an action step ..you do the action by doing the action . It’s like asking how to drink water . You can sit there theorizing about how to drink water until you die or you can just drink . Go to a social gathering or a party or a mall and find the most attractive girl there and literally just walk straight towards her and tell her that you like her dress …guess what will happen? She will smile. She is not gonna kill you. What if any person (male or female or anything in between ) told you randomly that they find you attractive? Isn’t that gonna Make you smile? . The rest is case by case . The point isn’t to make her your girlfriend..the point is you talked to her. Even if eventually she rejected you . It’s not the end of the world . You don’t expect to get that much lucky anyways. you have set proper expectations..low ones. But you talked to her. That means you improved . Baby steps and you will gain much more experience in short time and eventually you will have a girlfriend. It is not impossible. It’s your right as a man to have a girlfriend just as it’s women’s right to have husbands or Boyfriends. There is nothing wrong or weird or cringe or anything about that. Do not say I’m a retard again .

I liked this advice @Someone here. But the part that as a make I have a right to have a girlfriend gave me emotional pain since, in the past people snatched my right. Even though I socialized a little bit. In fact I was bullied by both boys due to the fact that I hot on girls . Girls also bullied me because I hit on them. However , I have cold approached 58 girls in the past and combining it with warm approach it is more than 100. Maybe my pain has to do with the fact that I didn't eat my antidepressants yesterday night 😂.

Edited 2 hours ago by Rishabh R

[Ramanujan]

@Someone here thanks bro

Appreciate it

[Ramanujan]

@Rishabh R does cold approach work in india

[Rishabh R]

@Ramanujan Mostly not but remember that a woman who is receptive to you will not only treat you decently but also initiate a conversation with you in fact she will approach you. It happened to me a lot. Plenty of hot women gave me signals by not only having prolonged eye contact with me but approaching me ,talking to me by initiating conversations,treating me with decency. The key is to pick on those signals and capitalise on them.

Edited 1 hour ago by Rishabh R

[Ulax]

@Ramanujan Keep going bro .

Game and social skills are a skillset. So apply what helps with developing skillsets.

One thing to do is to focus on process goal rather than outcome goals. Process goals are goals that are totally within your control to achieve. For example, approach 3 people today. No one can stop you from approaching people.

Outcome goals are not within your sole control to achieve. For example, get 3 phone numbers. This is not totally within your control to achieve. It requires her to act in a certain way.

Setting process goals is much more beneficial to making progress. As it puts meeting your goals in your control. 

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Otherwise, its useful to reflect on what works, what didn't work, and what you could have done differently. Then keep experimenting with different things and reflecting, and your skills will improve.

Edited 12 minutes ago by Ulax

[Ulax]

When you say you mastered 'How to win friends and influence people', what do you mean by that?