Kindness is the #1 global partner preference

[enchanted]

Kindness ranks #1 in global long-term partner preferences: 117,293 people from 175 countries allocate a fixed 30 "importance points" across traits (2025 study) | PeakD https://share.google/aeY2BecUxei3EoNyq

Looks like nice guys finish first. 

Edited Wednesday at 06:03 PM by enchanted

[Shermaningeorgia]

kindness is nebulous.

[Basman]

Kindness is more about being trustworthy I think. Treating the other person's interests as your own.

And nice guys aren't kind. They act conditionally with the expectation that being nice will get them pussy. They can be very entitled and lash out if you don't give them what they want. They are low energy and low self-esteem.

Edited yesterday at 09:14 AM by Basman

[Basman]

A nice guy is someone who can't express what they want directly, so they try to get things indirectly through manipulation. They see themselves as fundamentally unlovable (and thus tend to act like such).

Boogie is a very severe case of being a nice guy. This guy pretends he's Mr. Rogers while being a total cu** in private.

 

[Jirh]

On 4/1/2026 at 9:01 PM, enchanted said:

Long-term partnership and attraction are two different things, almost opposites.

[Miguel1]

After they are attracted to you.

Kindness without attraction is called the friendzone.

[Raze]

The problem with self reported data is sometimes what people think they like isn’t what they actually respond to.

[Tenebroso]

There are also studies that show that a vast gap between what women say and who they choose. They select for looks just as much as men if not more. I think OP is a sad attempt at changing a narrative that doesn't stand up to much scrutiny. I don't know why it is uncomfortable for people to admit that women care about looks and status and will overlook red flags, character flaws to become involved with their type. It says more about you OP.

[enchanted]

42 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

There are also studies that show that a vast gap between what women say and who they choose. They select for looks just as much as men if not more. I think OP is a sad attempt at changing a narrative that doesn't stand up to much scrutiny. I don't know why it is uncomfortable for people to admit that women care about looks and status and will overlook red flags, character flaws to become involved with their type. It says more about you OP.

This sounds like manosphere Tristan Tate stuff.