I easily get into fights with people who trigger me

[Someone here]

I’m running out of temper lately and my tolerance for human bullshit is starving thin. What I mean by human bullshit is this mentality that ordinary people have believing their personality is something fixed.. they have a self image ..they engage in drama to protect their character. Nothing wrong with that since that’s the majority of people . Let’s not assume that everyone are high conscious people or aware of some egoic behavior.

I have anger issues and I am losing tolerance for dealing with people especially toxic people with toxic traits..I immediately scream and insult and get into fights.

unfortunately I went back to smoking and drinking caffeine because the stress is just disgusting. 
 It seems to me that that’s how people are and how life is..people can’t love each others and respect each others. People like to protect their overutilized  self image. I don’t know how to put up with people anymore.. if I leave them go to hell with their toxicity they step on me and if I beat the living hell out of them I feel regret . 

 

Edited 4 hours ago by Someone here

[Leo Gura]

24 minutes ago, Someone here said:

if I beat the living hell out of them

Dude. This is very wrong. Stop touching your sister.

We cannot have this kind of behavior on this forum. You are committing a serious crime.

Edited 4 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Someone here]

2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Dude. This is very wrong. Stop touching your sister.

We cannot have this kind of behavior on this forum.

Of course very bad behavior. I regret it. I don’t beat her regularly. It was one incident. I’m looking forward to hear healthy ways of dealing with anger and toxicity .
 

[Leo Gura]

@Someone here Why have I heard complaints about you being abusive before?

1 minute ago, Someone here said:

I don’t beat her regularly.

I find this very suspicious.

I am serious. If you want to remain on this forum I need you to stop abusing your sister physically, verbally, and emotionally.

[Someone here]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

@Someone here Why have I heard complaints about you being abusive before?

I find this very suspicious.

I am serious. If you want to remain on this forum I need you to stop abusing your sister physically, verbally, and emotionally.

I’m going to . That’s what I’m trying to get help with . You are just telling me stop and that’s it . Ok fine but Let’s liken it to a bully messing with you on the local street ..like he leaves you choiceless but to engage in a fight . I don’t want to beat anyone ..but some situations force you .

There’s no way to undo what  I did. But I promise that that’s not a regular thing  and not gonna happen again.

the general question is how to deal with toxic people of behavior in a non toxic way?

We all do things we aren’t proud . I bullied a classmate too in the 5th grade for a while. I can’t change the past. But I can make sure that I never create that pain in another person for the rest of my life. But I really don’t know HOW?

[Someone here]

@Leo Gura edited the title and OP. Please check. I understand your concern.

[Leo Gura]

What country are you in?

Why do you feel a need to touch her?

Why does she anger you?

You need to take some kind of anger management class or therapy. This is deeper than some trick we can give you on a forum.

[Someone here]

9 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

What country are you in?

Why do you feel a need to touch her?

Why does she anger you?

You need to take some kind of anger management class or therapy. This is deeper than some trick we can give you on a forum.

India .

I answered you in PM.

[Shermaningeorgia]

52 minutes ago, Someone here said:

I’m running out of temper lately and my tolerance for human bullshit is starving thin. What I mean by human bullshit is this mentality that ordinary people have believing their personality is something fixed.. they have a self image ..they engage in drama to protect their character. Nothing wrong with that since that’s the majority of people . Let’s not assume that everyone are high conscious people or aware of some egoic behavior.

I have anger issues and I am losing tolerance for dealing with people especially toxic people with toxic traits..I immediately scream and insult and get into fights.

unfortunately I went back to smoking and drinking caffeine because the stress is just disgusting. 
 It seems to me that that’s how people are and how life is..people can’t love each others and respect each others. People like to protect their overutilized  self image. I don’t know how to put up with people anymore.. if I leave them go to hell with their toxicity they step on me and if I beat the living hell out of them I feel regret . 

 

tolerance. everbody is unique. we dont have to like others, but then others don't have to ever act in ways we like or approve of. especially if such behaviours aren't toxic or harmful to us. You don't seem very tolerant of others, or cannot differentiate between harmful behaviours and subjecive dislikes.

[AION]

Her sis is in your imagination.

[Someone here]

10 minutes ago, Shermaningeorgia said:

You don't seem very tolerant of others, or cannot differentiate between harmful behaviours and subjecive dislikes.

I don’t hate people. I’m not angry and grumpy all the time nor is it my default. I’m actually a very nice guy . I never started a fight with anyone. 
I always wish to live in peace but The world is not peaceful. most people are not peaceful..at least in my life . That’s the issue . 

[Someone here]

question: if some toxic person causes rage and anger in you ..what is the correct way of reacting instead of fighting them? 

thanks .

[Raze]

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[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

question: if some toxic person causes rage and anger in you ..what is the correct way of reacting instead of fighting them? 

thanks .

They didn't cause the rage. You did.

[Basman]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

question: if some toxic person causes rage and anger in you ..what is the correct way of reacting instead of fighting them? 

thanks .

Not beating them is a good start.

[Lyubov]

You need to take accountability. You aren't a bad person, but what you are doing is very wrong. You need to vow to yourself you will never hit your sister again and never use violence unless it's in self defense. You need to also seek out therapy.

[Something Funny]

3 hours ago, Someone here said:

question: if some toxic person causes rage and anger in you ..what is the correct way of reacting instead of fighting them? 

thanks .

Let it go. What special technique do you want to hear?

Your issue is not that you din't know how to react it's that you lack development and emotional mastery.

[Basman]

Walk away and remove yourself from the situation if someone is being belligerent. It's very effective at ending a conversation non-violently.

[MarkKol]

You might have high cortisol, anger issues are a common side effect.