Struggles with Game as an INFP

[Miguel1]

12 hours ago, ROOBIO said:

But when I did connect with someone? It was intense. Intense connection, real intimacy, something that felt almost beyond just dating. Like I was actually seeing the person and they could feel it.

This is why I’ve learned to value and try to focus more on finding introverted girls to date.

Extroverts are wild monkeys.

[YIDIRYIDIR]

13 hours ago, ROOBIO said:

But when I did connect with someone? It was intense. Intense connection, real intimacy, something that felt almost beyond just dating. Like I was actually seeing the person and they could feel it.

oh boy, i might have some bad news for you. your next break up will be as intense.

[Oppositionless]

13 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Extroverts go socialize to recharge. And they can't stop yapping verbal diahrea.

 

2 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Story of my life. Like.. everything here, how do you describe me so well

When I hang out with my friends, I literally have to tell them:

”Don’t let me talk or I will go on forever!”

You're an ENFJ Miguel, correct?

Different types of extroverts are quite different, some are more or less extroverted than others .

ENTP's are not as extroverted as ENFJ's. I love seeing my friends as much as possible but I shut down hard in the club .

Edited 2 hours ago by Oppositionless

[CARDOZZO]

Also, let these strings go away - INFP, INTP, ABCD, FFHI, Stage This, Stage That.

Stop creating bullshit to limit yourself. 

[bazera]

2 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Story of my life. Like.. everything here, how do you describe me so well

So you really recharge when you socialize? That's so foreign to me. 

If you identify as extrovert, can you tell me what exactly is the appeal of socialization for you as an extrovert?

For me, it's fun and exciting to do that from time to time like maybe once every other week. I just get loose, be humorous and enjoy myself, but then I need to come home and sit in silence for 3 hours to recharge, lol.

[bazera]

[Ulax]

@ROOBIO I struggled/ struggle with game too. I am ENTP. Which is sort of an ambivert.

I find it hard to work out what I actually disagree with in pick up and how much is just me wanting attraction to work in a way differently than it does.

But i dont know, i haven't done pickup properly for more than 4/5 months at a time. I made some significant progress, but not that much so i can't really speak that well on the subject.

I did notice that I stopped seeing women as so special the more i did pick up last time. There would be women who stood out to me, but women as a whole became less mythical lol.

I'm sort of back to that mythicalising now again cos i haven't been gaming. I'm thinking of giving it another serious go again soon.

Edited 1 hour ago by Ulax

[Miguel1]

57 minutes ago, Oppositionless said:

You're an ENFJ Miguel, correct?

Different types of extroverts are quite different, some are more or less extroverted than others .

ENTP's are not as extroverted as ENFJ's. I love seeing my friends as much as possible but I shut down hard in the club .

Yes, I am ENFJ. 8w3 Ennegram.

I’ll answer you and @bazera in my next comment as I cant quote both of you on phone.

Edited 1 hour ago by Miguel1

[Miguel1]

32 minutes ago, bazera said:

So you really recharge when you socialize? That's so foreign to me. 

If you identify as extrovert, can you tell me what exactly is the appeal of socialization for you as an extrovert?

For me, it's fun and exciting to do that from time to time like maybe once every other week. I just get loose, be humorous and enjoy myself, but then I need to come home and sit in silence for 3 hours to recharge, lol.

I do recharge when I socialize but the caveat is that the more I mature, the less I need it for recharging.

ENFJ’s dominant function is extraverted feeling and second introverted intuition.

The more I mature, the more introverted intuition becomes dominant. Getting in touch with that side of me has always felt like ’going back home’. It is the side of me where my depth arises.

Otherwise I am just a shallow, charismatic, witty guy.

Now to answer your question:

I get energy from coming into a room and brightening the whole environment. Probably my looks (but also presence, the way I carry myself) affects a lot how others’ energy changes when I enter their presence, and their shift in energy affects my behaviour, which then further affects  their energy and then my behaviour.. so basically me lifting everyone’s mood makes me energized..

Top that with my wittyness, ability to tease and flirt (or not) and it’s a lot of fun.

But I do notice that after the initial stage of superficial level socializing (all fun and games), my introverted intuition does come out and then I crave to connect with the person deeper.

If it only stays at the superficial level, I quickly lose the recharging.

The issue is, most people are not capable of, nor interested in deeper connection. At least in typical places I meet people.

Logistics are everything.

I’ve come to notice that I am much more in social mood in the beginning of the day when I’m fresh and well rested. During evenings and especially nights, I really crave depth and intimacy.. and feel much more into melancholicness.

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Don’t have time to read through and fix the text now.

Edited 49 minutes ago by Miguel1

[bazera]

@Miguel1 Okay, got it. You seem like a guy who’d be fun to be around 

36 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

I’ve come to notice that I am much more in social mood in the beginning of the day when I’m fresh and well rested. During evenings and especially nights, I really crave depth and intimacy.. and feel much more into melancholicness.

Same for me actually, when it's warm outside, a warm spring weather, I like to drive around in the evening or at night when there is no traffic, or just sit at my balcony during sunset trying to do what you described but with myself. Those moments are one of my best memories.

It's funny, my best memories doesn't involve other people much. 

One question, when you mention deeper connection with another, what do you mean exactly? How do you express that with another? Do you have specific topics that you like to talk about, you mean just deep presense and listening to others in that way, or what?

Edited 18 minutes ago by bazera