What are you proud of?

[Spiritual Warrior]

What are you proud of?

As self help junkies, we tend to look for things to improve upon, but it is just as important to be proud of the things that you have accomplished. Please share some things that you are proud of about yourself.

Here is my list: 

I am proud of...

• The fact that my socializing skills has significantly improved. I am much more likely to talk to strangers at the gym or in a grocery store. I used to feel so quiet and reserved, now I say what's on my mind.
• The fact that I am competing and placing in these dance competitions, it was difficult to imagine getting to this point a couple of years ago but here I am. 
• My emotional mastery progress, I am much more in tuned with my emotions and allowing them to pass through me is much easier.
• I am proud of myself for attracting a good looking woman into my life.

[AION]

Probably my intellect, but at the same time I know it doesn´t belong to me.

[Raphael]

• I'm proud that I never smoked a cigarette.
• I'm proud that I don't drink alcohol.
• I'm proud that I'm able to maintain a clean diet.
• I'm proud that I haven't watch porn for more than a year.
• I'm proud that I have almost no addictions (except the internet).
• I'm proud of all the work that I did to heal my childhood traumas and young adult traumas.
• I'm proud of the maturity that I gained over the last five years.

[Carl-Richard]

Pride is a low emotion just above anger. It's mostly not worth focusing your time and attention on (unless you're working with the emotion). It's something you release when it happens (if appropriate) and get on with it. Try something like gratitude instead.

Edited 1 hour ago by Carl-Richard

[UnbornTao]

Just now, Carl-Richard said:

Pride is a low emotion just above anger. It's mostly a waste of time. It's something you release when it happens (if appropriate) and get on with it. Try something like gratitude instead.

I'd agree with the last two sentences. 

What do you mean by 'low', though?

[Ulax]

Niceeee. Time for some humble brags

Proud that I:

- Read war and Peace,

- Went to one of best universities in the world

- Was my university boxing captain.

- Took full notes on two Yale online courses (France since 1871 and Intro to Political Philosophy)

- Reached Gold V in Siege 6 (video game)

[Ulax]

5 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

Pride is a low emotion just above anger. It's mostly a waste of time. It's something you release when it happens (if appropriate) and get on with it. Try something like gratitude instead.

We are doing humble brags here. That is okay.

[Carl-Richard]

33 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

I'd agree with the last two sentences. 

What do you mean by 'low', though?

The more primal in a survival sense (and placement in the triune brain, e.g. reptile brain), and the more self-referential, the lower.

Anger is when you run into an obstacle inhibiting your movement. Pride is when you overcome the obstacle or simply move very successfully. Thinking about yourself in the past overcoming obstacles or moving successfully is self-referential.

Gratitude may involve thinking about yourself in the past or simply appreciating something in the present, e.g. the food you're eating. It's essentially reminding yourself of the love you have for a thing and cultivating that love. It's not about you, as much as the thing you're grateful for. 

Notice me saying essentially "fuck your achievements" and how if you feel pride, the pride turns to anger, as I've become yet another obstacle to maintain that pride. While if your "achievements" are just a continual expression of joy, it doesn't matter what you think of them.

Edited 2 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[Sincerity]

4 hours ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

As self help junkies, we tend to look for things to improve upon, but it is just as important to be proud of the things that you have accomplished. Please share some things that you are proud of about yourself.

Here is my list: 

I am proud of...

• The fact that my socializing skills has significantly improved. I am much more likely to talk to strangers at the gym or in a grocery store. I used to feel so quiet and reserved, now I say what's on my mind.
• The fact that I am competing and placing in these dance competitions, it was difficult to imagine getting to this point a couple of years ago but here I am. 
• My emotional mastery progress, I am much more in tuned with my emotions and allowing them to pass through me is much easier.
• I am proud of myself for attracting a good looking woman into my life.

Very nice.  Great work!

Looking forward to hearing more from you.

I don't think much about pride but I'm very content with life overall, so I could say I'm proud of the journey that's been taking place and of myself.  Grateful too.

Edited 3 hours ago by Sincerity

[Carl-Richard]

18 minutes ago, Ulax said:

We are doing humble brags here. That is okay.

Meh.

[YIDIRYIDIR]

@Spiritual Warrior I'm proud of my 6-inch penis

[UnbornTao]

22 minutes ago, YIDIRYIDIR said:

@Spiritual Warrior I'm proud of my 6-inch penis

Finally, something coming from the heart.

[Ulax]

1 hour ago, YIDIRYIDIR said:

@Spiritual Warrior I'm proud of my 6-inch penis

Lmao

 

[Oppositionless]

Proud I stopped smoking grass

Proud I'm moving to a bigger city 

Proud I meditated (kriya) every day for 3 months even if I fell off recently 

[UnbornTao]

2 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

The more primal in a survival sense (and placement in the triune brain, e.g. reptile brain), and the more self-referential, the lower.

Anger is when you run into an obstacle inhibiting your movement. Pride is when you overcome the obstacle or simply move very successfully. Thinking about yourself in the past overcoming obstacles or moving successfully is self-referential.

Gratitude may involve thinking about yourself in the past or simply appreciating something in the present, e.g. the food you're eating. It's essentially reminding yourself of the love you have for a thing and cultivating that love. It's not about you, as much as the thing you're grateful for. 

Notice me saying essentially "fuck your achievements" and how if you feel pride, the pride turns to anger, as I've become yet another obstacle to maintain that pride. While if your "achievements" are just a continual expression of joy, it doesn't matter what you think of them.

But anger is quite fundamental to the human experience - it's a form of pain, rooted in the sense of feeling hurt.

I've never understood the need to fit emotions into a model or hierarchies. Anger is whatever it is. That's my gripe with it. Most of what you said I'd agree with and find reasonable.

Give pain some love.