Can a Man Be Respected Without Financial Success?

[jacknine119]

I met a girl today who friendzoned me because she just broke up with his rich boyfriend. But my friend is convincing me that if I had money she would interest in me. (She knows I'm broke) And I feel shit about myself because of this.  

Edited Saturday at 03:09 PM by jacknine119

[manuel bon]

I understand that there can be attraction toward someone financially rich, but in my opinion is not an important thing. It should not be a deal breaker. You should not feel shit about yourself, because a person that chooses someone for their financial situation is shallow. 

[manuel bon]

Feeling like shit because you want to be rich and you're not, is another thing. That would mean that it's for yourself, and not for impressing or attracting others.

[CARDOZZO]

Dude, you already have your answer. 

She broke up with a rich guy. It means it is not ONLY about money. 

You can have money and be a serious jerk with no sense of humor, intelligence, swag, frame, abundance, experience, communication skills.

Trying to seduce a woman with money is not a healthy strategy.

Edited Saturday at 03:45 PM by CARDOZZO

[Cireeric]

She may value money and strategically search out men with money, but such calculations can never create the real thing. Like Zizek said, that if you can name the exact attributes why you love someone its not true love. 

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, jacknine119 said:

I met a girl today who friendzoned me because she just broke up with his rich boyfriend. But my friend is convincing me that if I had money she would interest in me. (She knows I'm broke) And I feel shit about myself because of this.  

Sure. Respected by who though? There's plenty of communities in society that don't particularly value money. 

Some homeless people are well respected in their community.

If you want to be attractive to a lot of attractive women and be able to align them to your life money will be one of your biggest assets though. Why don't you just make more money instead of trying feeling shit about not having a lot of it? Shaming yourself is a useless activity, go watch some business videos on youtube and figure out a service/product to sell and reach out to people and get your friends to help you with it. 

[Hojo]

Just because a woman isn't interested in you dosent mean she's a golddigger. Your friend is a retard and is fking with your mind.

Get smarter dude.

What the hell does friendzoning me because she just broke up with her rich boyfriend mean?

Edited Sunday at 03:45 AM by Hojo

[Leo Gura]

The solution is to not care what anyone thinks of you.

Respect yourself and that is all you need.

Edited Saturday at 09:46 PM by Leo Gura

[Ramasta9]

15 hours ago, jacknine119 said:

I met a girl today who friendzoned me because she just broke up with his rich boyfriend. But my friend is convincing me that if I had money she would interest in me. (She knows I'm broke) And I feel shit about myself because of this.  

She's probably using you as an emotional pillow.

[Spiritual Warrior]

Just move on brother, you don't need her

Work on your finances, but not for her, do it for yourself

You're a king 🤴

[HopefulMan]

You can be respected while being broke by someone who puts other values higher than monetary success 

Today we are at the most abundant time, so you could become rich (probably). Or at the very least, have enough money to not have no worry

I find people that value money to that extend are quite shallow or are incredibly negative about the future and feel very insecure. I would bet most people are in the first camp

I think working from this assumption does better: there are many women out there for you, so don't hang onto this one for the reason that "you like her".

Also, work on yourself TOWARDS WHAT YOU WANT, not what women or other people want. Screw them. 

[Elliott]

It's not respect if it's about money, that's objectification.

[LordFall]

5 hours ago, Elliott said:

It's not respect if it's about money, that's objectification.

It takes a lot of competence to make money, what's not respectable about a competent person?

You women that just care about you buying them consumer goods or some that appreciate your mind and competence. Most men are barely getting by, not thriving. 

[Valach]

5 minutes ago, LordFall said:

It takes a lot of competence to make money, what's not respectable about a competent person?

You women that just care about you buying them consumer goods or some that appreciate your mind and competence. Most men are barely getting by, not thriving. 

There are many ways to showcase competence though. Money is not really the smartest way to go about dating. If you want to have a stable long-term relationship, that is.