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@Natasha Tori Maru My bad Natasha! Only the first sentence was for you as you commented on the post I made about the sexual abused I suffered. The rest was for the author of the post. Sorry about the mixup, didn't write a proper comment

@Natasha Tori Maru sadly I can attest to this (so can others here). It does incredible damage (maybe irreparable in many cases as I feel it is in mine) The way you phrased the post is weird because you feel empathy for the pedophile but not for the one judging the pedophile. Weird in the least I get your point though because they didn't choose their brain nor their life circumstances that led them there

I love this idea and I want to do it myself. I did psychedelics last year and talked here about it. I did truffles and Leo told me it's around 10 times less potent. I took 25gr of truffles and it seemed crazy to me because I had heard 5gr was a high dosage. Turns out mushrooms are x10 the potency, so I probably had like 2.5gr of mushrooms. So, learn about that, or ask here about it. I just take Leo word for it as my trip was nice, but I have only had that experience so I cannot really say with certainty

@caspex thank you for the detailed answer. I'm feeling quite lazy right now, but I will read it a couple more times and think about it. Great stuff. Do you have social media or just create content here?

@caspex I really liked it and I agree human behavior it works this way External things are easier to remove (if you are willing to be extreme by today's standards), but internal/abstract influences are on another level. For example "Remove influences that push you to procrastinate" --> You mention comfort as one of the environmental factors that can cause you to do that. How do you remove acting to look for comfort in you don't want to procrastinate?

@Majed You wish to learn, but you didn't give us the reason so I can't say anything haha. I used to enjoy language learning so I studied French, German, Japanese and Russian, but only the first two reached a "decent" level I stopped when I realized language learning is useless --> Mind you, I have no special love for learning them, I don't make enough money to be learning useless stuff when there is more useful and interesting stuff for me, etc So, why do you want to learn? If it the love for it, just pick the one that looks most interesting to you If it's due to its use, pick the one useful for whatever you need it

@ted73104 I'm so glad you got out of that way of life, probably lots of regrets down the road. What you explained sounds more like you discovered things that were inherently fun for you + you got healthier It doesn't sound to me like change. Your behavior did change, not you though. You didn't find a way to enjoy reading instead of scrolling (like an example I gave), you found a way of consumption that was enjoyable. DOes it make sense? --- @Lyubov I like that angle about shading. It seems that if we are "clean", we tend not to enjoy "bad behavior" like endless scrolling or Netflix. Let's see how it goes --- @Ulax Thank you man! --- @Hayato definitely don't agree with you at all

@Ulax I love Dr K content, it is a great mix between experience, science and eastenr knowledge My struggle is not that kind of though, but I will watch it again, I remember I loved that video I'm glad you have turned your life for the better! --- @Lyubov thanks for the answer! What have you been able to change?

@Jirh read it when it came out. For me, this part of the method is straight up bullshit. "After a while, momentum gets created, things get easier, and it becomes hard to fall back to older patterns. After about two months, the desired habits become your default identity." Something becoming part of your identity in 2 months is laughable (im not talking about you btw, just the book) Thanks for taking your time! --- @caspex I'll wait for your article! That is a lot more in line with what reality seems to be

@Hasson_Miah true, but non-practical @Realms of Wonder sadly I didn't get the reference. Good show tho @Basman very complete view and it is my opinion on this topic. I don't feel bad when doing "bad" behaviors. They just don't get me to where I want to be in life. I didn't see your comment so I didn't tag you but I said this to another person here (I made a post about how I am "unable" to feel because of sexual abuse. So let's see how it goes) I think my focus should be on healing all of the emotional disconnection and then identity change will be a lot more natural. Thanks for your answer, it was great

@YIDIRYIDIR Yep. The building of the identity to have proof is the hard thing. I love DR K. This is what I expected, I am screwed haha (I made a post about how I am "unable" to feel because of sexual abuse. So let's see how it goes) @Elliott it is definitely a a strong thing, but there must be something else Thanks!

Same, I was gonna check it out and it doesn't work Thanks!

@YIDIRYIDIR Hey! Sorry it took me a while to reply to you I don't have problems with the clarity with who I wanna be, and I fully agree with your point than negativity is a stronger thing, but How do I "try surviving against it"? How do I pick consistently the "right" behavior and not the comfortable behavior?

Hi everyone! Let me start by defining what I mean by "identity": Identity = automatic and effortless behavior, and resistance to a different behavior (normally harder or less comfortable) Right now there are a few traits I don't like about myself: doomscrolling, not enough contemplation, lots of TV shows, too many sweets, etc. I'd like to become someone who naturally prefers slower living, who has goals and actually follows through on them. How do you go from being one kind of person to another? From what I can observe, when people say "be disciplined", they don't really follow that advice. It's usually people who take action not because they want to, or because they can force themselves, but because they're running from something in their minds: looking lazy, not looking smart, status, etc. Is it gonna be a constant struggle against passions/instincts, or can we really change and just struggle from time to time with "bad" behavior because we're human? Thanks!

I love this idea. Last year I found Leo has a "start here" section on his blog. I'll paste the link here so anyone can go and check what Leo considers fundamental: https://www.actualized.org/start