Leo on sexual satisfaction

[Leo Gura]

@bazera Yes, you must crawl and walk before you fly.

I am not telling you to magically bypass those phases to be an enlightened monk.

[Alexop]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

The Fappening is happening in 2049.

2069

[CARDOZZO]

7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

@CARDOZZO The point is not that you will deny you sex. But women will.

Women will deny you sex. And the more you need it the worse you will feel.

I don't care how great you are at pickup, you are not so great that women will not deny you sex.

Yeah, they are not sexual slaves. 

Learning how to deal with high libido is a skill. I do not think masturbation solves the problem but if this is your way, that's it  

[Leo Gura]

7 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

Yeah, they are not sexual slaves. 

Learning how to deal with high libido is a skill. I do not think masturbation solves the problem but if this is your way, that's it  

Maybe having a pet goat is your way 

[CARDOZZO]

31 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Maybe having a pet goat is your way 

mehhhh 

[LordFall]

3 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

Yeah, they are not sexual slaves. 

Learning how to deal with high libido is a skill. I do not think masturbation solves the problem but if this is your way, that's it  

You can literally go on bdsm forums where women will talk about wanting to find a dominant to be in a sex slave to(consentual). The most extreme version is called 24/7 total power exchange. Women are generally kinkier than men, they've found this in many surveys.

You could definitely date women for many years that will never deny you sex and help you build your dream life. 

Ultimate and infinite sexual satisfaction is of course possible it would be a pretty big flaw of the universe if it wasn't. 

I haven't even pitched you AI/VR girlfriends yet those will change the world in the next 5 years wait til they're connected to an AI agent that work for you 24/7 as well. The future is a wild place. 

[Leo Gura]

8 minutes ago, LordFall said:

AI/VR girlfriends

[LordFall]

No Leo she's real the hot witch girlfriend, she does have real magic it comes from a supercomputer though. 

 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Just let em have their AI girls, will make it easier on the rest of us 😁

I think if you don't see the value in a real life person you simply aren't mature. 

[Peo]

41 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Just let em have their AI girls, will make it easier on the rest of us

Maybe it will even lower the competition in the dating market for us men who keep talking to real life women in a few years. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

18 minutes ago, Peo said:

Maybe it will even lower the competition in the dating market for us men who keep talking to real life women in a few years. 

A real possibility. Naturally self selecting out of the gene pool.

[Psychonaut]

@Leo Gura

I had a different experience.

For 6 months I didn't masturbate. Interactions with women at ecstatic dance were effortless—no neediness, just natural flow. Then I entered a relationship and everything changed.

Here's what I learned: the same brain structures for mother-child bonding activate in romantic relationships. When you're single, those circuits stay quiet. In relationship, childhood attachment wounds flood back.

For me: compulsive masturbation returned not as sexuality, but as self-soothing for attachment trauma the relationship triggered.

The real issue isn't "women won't satisfy you." It's unhealed attachment wounds making intimacy overwhelming.

Being single and not masturbating was easy because I wasn't activating the wound. But that's avoidance, not healing.

The solution isn't managing frustration through masturbation. It's healing attachment wounds so you can be in relationship without compulsive coping.

Sexual energy conservation works when you're not using it to self-soothe trauma.

[bazera]

@Psychonaut

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compulsive masturbation returned not as sexuality, but as self-soothing for attachment trauma the relationship triggered.

Are you sure about this? How does attachment trauma translate into compulsive masturbation habit?

I'm asking because addiction can have many other reasons.