Peter Ralston worldview

[Breakingthewall]

2 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

He is so deep in his own reality tunnel that he either forgot or even never experienced the challenges you mention. 

16 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

 

He sends a seductive message: reality is simple, you're the one complicating it. Focus on the sensory and abandon the mental, which is false.

Well, this message is completely wrong; it's what's called spiritual bypassing.  But this is what sells, because people don't want to, or can't, go deeper. They want to be told that everything is easy and that everything will be alright. Do you want to be a successful spiritual teacher? Tell the people that their suffering is an illusion and absolute happiness is easy, just stop suffering. It's you who's creating suffering, then you can stop it. Tell it a lot of times, then they will buy, because they need it. And then they will tell others that now they are happy, because they know that suffering is false.  the reality could be the opposite, but they will make up everything to pretend that they are happy, with addictions, rumination, depression, repression, hate, etc. That's just narcissism. 

The mind is not a mistake to transcend but a structural phase of reality. Attempting to bypass it creates dissociation, not freedom. If you want freedom you have to align your system, not denying it. There is the real work. 

Edited 8 hours ago by Breakingthewall

[UnbornTao]

@Breakingthewall Can you learn to listen? Your foolishness smells from a mile away. Pay some attention first.

Edited 4 hours ago by UnbornTao

[Terell Kirby]

9 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

@Breakingthewall Can you just shut up and learn to listen? Your foolishness stinks a mile away. How about paying some attention first? 

I would expect more restraint in such a response from a moderator on the forum.

I don’t think anyone is in business of silencing others while insulting them at the same time. 

[Breakingthewall]

16 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

@Breakingthewall Can you just shut up and learn to listen? Your foolishness stinks a mile away. How about paying some attention first? 

 Well, tell me exactly what I can say to don't offended you and what is allowed here. It's easy, I didn't know, then I gave a free opinion, but thanks to correct me so wisely 

 

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[Breakingthewall]

8 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

I would expect more restraint in such a response from a moderator on the forum.

I don’t think anyone is in business of silencing others while insulting them at the same time. 

Be careful or he's going to block you. He insult endorsed with his power to block you here a week or two

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[UnbornTao]

@Terell Kirby @Breakingthewall It's okay, it was a bit harsh but I stand by it. It's stupid. I know we're expected to play the social game of infinite charity, but not today.

[Breakingthewall]

2 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

@Terell Kirby @Breakingthewall It's okay, it was a bit harsh but I stand by it. It's stupid. I know we're expected to play the social game of infinite charity, but not today.

No no , its ok, you are too charitable. I greatly appreciate your patience and charity . I'm very sorry if I bothered you by expressing opinions that, in your wisdom, you've deemed stupid, and it's perfectly legitimate for someone as charitable as you to, at times, driven by righteous indignation, insult or even block people who hold different opinions.

[Joseph Maynor]

Truth is odd because it's supposed to make you less sensitive because you have Truth, but then because you think you have Truth, you also think others are wrong more easily.  This isn't really a bug, it's a feature.  It's why a Love integration is needed after a Truth integration IMO.

[Breakingthewall]

Anyway, I know this might be below some people's level, but maybe anyone will find it interesting.

Ruminative mental suffering occurs because your circumstance plus your innate system have created a certain structure. Challenges and emotional burdens have arisen in your life that you haven't been able to manage and have been covered up by emotional mechanisms aimed at preserving your stability. For example, your need for belonging in childhood and adolescence was non-negotiable; if it couldn't be satisfied, you would cover up a part of your system in order to function.

These accumulated scars create an underlying dissonance that can manifest as hysterical rumination because your partner isn't calling you. You can't stop this rumination at will, you are not "doing " it, it's happening due the energetic structure that you are now. but you can understand your mechanisms, look at them directly without falsehood, open yourself to your suffering, become one with it, align yourself with it, see it as an energetic burden, a circumstance that occurs, and not run away from it.

If you think that the suffering is a mistake that you are doing, you are trapped 

Edited 6 hours ago by Breakingthewall

[UnbornTao]

@Breakingthewall It wasn't personal, to be clear. First, I was pointing out the stupidity in thinking you understand what's being conveyed. Second, confusing musings and intellectualization with what’s being discussed. But I've realized that exercises are far more useful than… well, just jerking off.

And don't worry, you haven't been blocked.

[MutedMiles]

8 hours ago, gettoefl said:

This is what every ego says. I am not good enough. I can't do this. I am feeble and slow. No. I am God playing a game of imagining that I am limited. All that I lack is making the choice to see things differently. I can change my mind right this moment and see the world anew.

This rings truer, idea of competence should only be entertained once, one has exhausted all his competence.  And putting a real long-term focused effort into something is as rare as genetic freaks.

There are freaks for sure, but we don't know if someone who believes himself to be ordinary is actually as ordinary as he concluded without putting in work.

Try and see how far you can reach, if your intelligence is genetic and you accepted it only thing you can do is to put in work.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 hour ago, Breakingthewall said:

Anyway, I know this might be below some people's level, but maybe anyone will find it interesting.

Ruminative mental suffering occurs because your circumstance plus your innate system have created a certain structure. Challenges and emotional burdens have arisen in your life that you haven't been able to manage and have been covered up by emotional mechanisms aimed at preserving your stability. For example, your need for belonging in childhood and adolescence was non-negotiable; if it couldn't be satisfied, you would cover up a part of your system in order to function.

These accumulated scars create an underlying dissonance that can manifest as hysterical rumination because your partner isn't calling you. You can't stop this rumination at will, you are not "doing " it, it's happening due the energetic structure that you are now. but you can understand your mechanisms, look at them directly without falsehood, open yourself to your suffering, become one with it, align yourself with it, see it as an energetic burden, a circumstance that occurs, and not run away from it.

If you think that the suffering is a mistake that you are doing, you are trapped 

You describe the Sanskrit 'samskara' concept here. 

It is useful to know, the brain does not like 'new' problems. It wants what is familiar, certain. What is already experienced. 

Any new problem, conundrum, challenge forces the brain out of its survival 'comfort' mode. Whether that be the comfort of certain thoughts, fantasies, feelings etc. For this reason the human mind often moves toward the familiar, regardless of if it is good for us or not. This explains why we can be attracted to toxic people; it might be a pattern we previously experienced. 

And often the 'familiar' patterns are deep things learned from patterns of behaviour in childhood. With loves ones, friends, society. We return to these like a default. Working to change the reaction is work many cannot face. And in some cases, such as personality disorders, certain ways of being cannot be 'cured' (so to speak). I would like Ralston to comment on this. Because he projects his capabilities often.

[Leo Gura]

8 hours ago, Breakingthewall said:

It's like an autistic person who doesn't feel emotions or fear danger becoming a coach

Ralston is autistic. Lol

[Hafiz]

I’ve been doing the weekly sessions with Brendan Lea, ralstons protege.

Their main thing is that I am creating me own suffering just by having/believing/creating negative thoughts.

The solution as far as i understand it is to just realize somehow the it’s all false/untrue.

I wish we delved in the metaphysical nature of of realty more because it’s all just psychology stuff.

[Michal__]

41 minutes ago, Hafiz said:

I’ve been doing the weekly sessions with Brendan Lea, ralstons protege.

Their main thing is that I am creating me own suffering just by having/believing/creating negative thoughts.

The solution as far as i understand it is to just realize somehow the it’s all false/untrue.

I wish we delved in the metaphysical nature of of realty more because it’s all just psychology stuff.

Just do lots of meditation and psychedelics, all these transmissions etc are just a fun little suplement. 

[Breakingthewall]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Ralston is autistic. Lol

He really has some kind of autism? I see in him a vibe similar to the guy from Free Solo, Alex Honnold; it's like the problematic emotional hardware we all have is very subdued. That has great advantages, you can climb 900m walls without a rope or be a perfect martial artist, always totally focused, but like everything in life, it has its downside: maybe less connection or understanding of certain human facets that are real

[Yimpa]

5 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

He really has some kind of autism?

Autism speaks.

What does autism speak?

[theleelajoker]

39 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

He really has some kind of autism? I see in him a vibe similar to the guy from Free Solo, Alex Honnold; it's like the problematic emotional hardware we all have is very subdued. That has great advantages, you can climb 900m walls without a rope or be a perfect martial artist, always totally focused, but like everything in life, it has its downside: maybe less connection or understanding of certain human facets that are real

Reading this reminds me of two experiences I had last year.

Some months ago, I took a medium to large dosis mushrooms and went for a walk. After a while, I entered a state that felt completely new for me. My nervous system relaxed, tension I normally feel in everyday life disappeared completely, and my thoughts were very clear.

I noticed this state, was vey much aware of it and began to wonder about this new experience. I thought about things I want to do in my life and all felt easy, clean, sharp and totally doable. Suddenly a thought occurred and I felt I 100% understood what was going on: "This is how I feel without fear in my body!"  

There was another time I took shrooms at around noon. I went through some emotions and experiences during the day and in the early evening I was coming down. Some friends asked if I go out with them. I felt only some afterglow and was in adventure mood to interact and to explore outer reality after my trip.

We went to a restaurant and there was a girl at the table in front of us with some friends of her own. We had some eye contact and as she was about to leave, I approached her directly. There was some interaction and I got her number. Some months later, after being too scared to approach some women, my friend reminded me of this past interaction. He said: "Strange, back then you had zero problems approaching here! You were hyper confident, determined and mega calm. Half joking, half serious he added: You acted like a psychopath!"

I forgot about those situations, but reading this thread reminded me. I don't know if it's a trade off like @Breakingthewall says, but there might be something to it.

Some evidence is the situation with the girl back then: she actually texted me later but I never met her. I realized that I had zero interest in her. Don't remember many other occasions, if at all, where I was the one approaching but never followed up, it's very untypical behavior for me.

Which indicates that I must have been vey much out of touch with my true feelings back then. Which is aligned with the idea above re less understanding and less connection...

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[Natasha Tori Maru]

If anyone thinks Ralston teaches bypassing I suspect they have not read his books or understood what he is saying.

[Breakingthewall]

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

If anyone thinks Ralston teaches bypassing I suspect they have not read his books or understood what he is saying.

I didn't read his books. Maybe I will try but I'm too ADHD for reading books, or maybe I just find them boring. What I understand of his idiosyncrasy is that, according to him, the mental is illusion and the real is direct experience: tastes, smells, what you can see and touch.

But the mental is also your direct experience, even if it's not sensory; it's a real perception. You're not imagining it; your system creates the mental from perceived models just as it creates the sensory. It's not ontologically different. It's just another level of perception, less rigid but as real as the senses. 

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