Why Has Dating Collapsed? The Real Reason No One Talks About

[Joseph Maynor]

This is a good video that shows how to be playful in conversation IMO.  Nice balance between information and humor.

 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

My rejection line is 'Hey, I am really flattered. Chops for asking and putting it out there - don't ask, don't get, right? But I am not interested in romantic or sexual relationships at the moment' Or end with 'I have a partner, so to be clear, I am not interested in any sort of sexual relationship' or a variant of the above (if it comes up, I do not just insert it in there randomly). If I pick up on someone's intentions I ask them if I am reading them correctly - then I make my stance clear, if needed.

I leave it at that. If they ask me why I give them honest feedback. 

I dunno I think I am unusual for a woman. I am more candid. I have always approached men and been explicit re my interest and intentions.

[Ramasta9]

17 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

My rejection line is 'Hey, I am really flattered. Chops for asking and putting it out there - don't ask, don't get, right? But I am not interested in romantic or sexual relationships at the moment' Or end with 'I have a partner, so to be clear, I am not interested in any sort of sexual relationship' or a variant of the above (if it comes up, I do not just insert it in there randomly). If I pick up on someone's intentions I ask them if I am reading them correctly - then I make my stance clear, if needed.

I leave it at that. If they ask me why I give them honest feedback. 

I dunno I think I am unusual for a woman. I am more candid. I have always approached men and been explicit re my interest and intentions.

My rejection line without making them feel rejected, is something like: Darling your beautiful, but I'm currently married to myself.

Luckily i am rarely asked such things, nor I have asked, it just sort of plays out naturally and intuitively, when it feels aligned.

It always felt very odd to me to ask someone out or be asked out, school was hella weird for me. 

[Lila9]

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

My rejection line is 'Hey, I am really flattered. Chops for asking and putting it out there - don't ask, don't get, right? But I am not interested in romantic or sexual relationships at the moment' Or end with 'I have a partner, so to be clear, I am not interested in any sort of sexual relationship' or a variant of the above (if it comes up, I do not just insert it in there randomly). If I pick up on someone's intentions I ask them if I am reading them correctly - then I make my stance clear, if needed.

I leave it at that. If they ask me why I give them honest feedback. 

I dunno I think I am unusual for a woman. I am more candid. I have always approached men and been explicit re my interest and intentions.

That’s really kind of you. I wish I had the patience to be so kind. Due to so much trauma from men, I don’t have the emotional energy to explain myself to a stranger. I just say that I’m a lesbian to brush them off. Funnily enough, they believe me. This is not very honest, but it’s amusing.

Sometimes I say that I’m married, but it doesn’t always work. They judge me for being too prudish and for not cheating on my fictional husband with them lol.