Life is designed to be disappointing

[TheGod]

The following things are designed to disappoint you and never truly fulfill you:

- Family, friends & relationships

- Career growth and life purpose 

- Money, status & fame

- Luxury, brands, fast cars, possessions 

I'm 28 and I realized all of it based on my direct experience and for you to be able to truly grasp this you need to have experienced it too.

The happiest I ever been in my life was when I was a child and when in God-states (on psychedelics). 

When I was a child, I remember this feeling of freedom and joy when I was walking barefoot on the grass on a sunny day in a small Ukrainian village. I was walking in my underwear with 0 identity. It was pure state of being & joy.

God states were different, because they were filled with infinite love, being infinite love is like nothing in life.'

Life is designed to show you that there is only one path - the path of becoming what you truly are. It's just the question of pain and suffering for you to understand it.

My reference experience was this:

I remember lying in bed at 3 am, hugging my ex-girlfriend after having a lot of sex prior. 

Still, I was able to feel the void inside me, the void that only God can fulfill. 

[LastThursday]

@TheGod this is interesting. I do feel kind of jaded and it's got worse with age. But I know in my case it's not age that's the problem exactly. I'm fit and healthy and probably at the peak of my powers, so it's not that.

What I do think it is is survival. I'm constantly on the lookout for negativity and ways to avoid it, or rehearsing ways to confront it, or looking at minor problems microscopically. With that also comes looking for disappointment. I've learnt to build things up in my mind and then when they don't work out as I wanted, there's disappointment. My youthful idealism has given way to unsatisfying pragmatism and compromise.

Kids also do this though. They need to avoid dangerous situations and cry if they're hurt to get help, so they are also always on the alert for negativity. They also get disappointed if they're excited about something and it doesn't happen, and they can be very vocal about it!

The BIG difference between adults and children is that children generally forget negativity very quickly and move on - something that adults should re-learn I think - they have shorter memories. But adults are generally fully responsible for themselves and also others, so they can't get off the hook so easily as kids, who generally just think about themselves. Kids' lives are also generally a lot simpler than adults', there is less negativity to avoid and less disappointment to be had.

But, adults are hugely better at emotional regulation and they have greater control over their lives. Nevertheless I find there is an underlying feeling of disappointment in everything that's hard to shake, people and circumstances just don't match up to expectation. Kids care far less about people and circumstances, stuff just "happens" to them and they have the luxury of not having to cogitate over it.

Saying that, we were all kids once, and I believe that that inner kid is always there, and you can temporarily return to that state with practice. Play games, put yourself in new situations, take yourself to new places.

 

Edited 11 hours ago by LastThursday

[UnbornTao]

Oh hi, nice to meet you.

Disappointment is based on one's expectations. How were you holding the future prior to feeling that way?

A rhetorical question meant to be looked into.