Life is designed to be disappointing

[TheGod]

The following things are designed to disappoint you and never truly fulfill you:

- Family, friends & relationships

- Career growth and life purpose 

- Money, status & fame

- Luxury, brands, fast cars, possessions 

I'm 28 and I realized all of it based on my direct experience and for you to be able to truly grasp this you need to have experienced it too.

The happiest I ever been in my life was when I was a child and when in God-states (on psychedelics). 

When I was a child, I remember this feeling of freedom and joy when I was walking barefoot on the grass on a sunny day in a small Ukrainian village. I was walking in my underwear with 0 identity. It was pure state of being & joy.

God states were different, because they were filled with infinite love, being infinite love is like nothing in life.'

Life is designed to show you that there is only one path - the path of becoming what you truly are. It's just the question of pain and suffering for you to understand it.

My reference experience was this:

I remember lying in bed at 3 am, hugging my ex-girlfriend after having a lot of sex prior. 

Still, I was able to feel the void inside me, the void that only God can fulfill. 

[LastThursday]

@TheGod this is interesting. I do feel kind of jaded and it's got worse with age. But I know in my case it's not age that's the problem exactly. I'm fit and healthy and probably at the peak of my powers, so it's not that.

What I do think it is is survival. I'm constantly on the lookout for negativity and ways to avoid it, or rehearsing ways to confront it, or looking at minor problems microscopically. With that also comes looking for disappointment. I've learnt to build things up in my mind and then when they don't work out as I wanted, there's disappointment. My youthful idealism has given way to unsatisfying pragmatism and compromise.

Kids also do this though. They need to avoid dangerous situations and cry if they're hurt to get help, so they are also always on the alert for negativity. They also get disappointed if they're excited about something and it doesn't happen, and they can be very vocal about it!

The BIG difference between adults and children is that children generally forget negativity very quickly and move on - something that adults should re-learn I think - they have shorter memories. But adults are generally fully responsible for themselves and also others, so they can't get off the hook so easily as kids, who generally just think about themselves. Kids' lives are also generally a lot simpler than adults', there is less negativity to avoid and less disappointment to be had.

But, adults are hugely better at emotional regulation and they have greater control over their lives. Nevertheless I find there is an underlying feeling of disappointment in everything that's hard to shake, people and circumstances just don't match up to expectation. Kids care far less about people and circumstances, stuff just "happens" to them and they have the luxury of not having to cogitate over it.

Saying that, we were all kids once, and I believe that that inner kid is always there, and you can temporarily return to that state with practice. Play games, put yourself in new situations, take yourself to new places.

 

Edited Saturday at 10:36 PM by LastThursday

[UnbornTao]

Oh hi, nice to meet you.

Disappointment is based on one's expectations. How were you holding the future prior to feeling that way?

A rhetorical question meant to be looked into.

[LastThursday]

11 hours ago, LastThursday said:

I've learnt to build things up in my mind and then when they don't work out as I wanted, there's disappointment.

Giving myself advice here I would say:

It's ok to have expectations, but you should also engender having a flexible attitude, shit happens. Inflexibility takes the joy out of life. The world is messy, don't force it into your mould, mould yourself to it, exactly as kids do.

Edited Sunday at 10:30 AM by LastThursday

[Oeaohoo]

Yes… And spirituality is the final disappointment!

 

[CARDOZZO]

 

[Ziran]

On 2/13/2026 at 7:10 PM, TheGod said:

I'm 28 and I realized all of it based on my direct experience and for you to be able to truly grasp this you need to have experienced it too.

 

Yes.   Lacking your direct experiences it's impossible to truly grasp it.  Empathy and compassion are a medium through which caring thoughtful individuals can relate to what you've written.  The "relating" in the heart and mind is a layer of abstraction bridging the gap between knowing and understanding.

[Breakingthewall]

If you are aligned with the flow you enjoy every second of life, everything is magic, same than where you were a kid but better

[Dazgwny]

No. It is not designed to be disappointing. It just so happens that anything other than being fully God will not fully satisfy. It’s not a case of being designed set up some sort of disappointment or make you feel that way. If God is upto anything other than just being it’s full infinite self, then there will always seems something is missing. It’s just a logical trade off

[Oeaohoo]

17 hours ago, Dazgwny said:

No. It is not designed to be disappointing. It just so happens that anything other than being fully God will not fully satisfy. It’s not a case of being designed set up some sort of disappointment or make you feel that way.

But that disappointment is one thing that drives people towards spirituality. So in that sense, it is designed to be disappointing — to inspire and encourage you to wake up from the dream.

[gettoefl]

The finite is going to disappoint. It ends. Clock is ticking. Soon have to say bye-bye. But I want more.

[James123]

On 2/14/2026 at 6:10 AM, TheGod said:

The following things are designed to disappoint you and never truly fulfill you:

- Family, friends & relationships

- Career growth and life purpose 

- Money, status & fame

- Luxury, brands, fast cars, possessions 

I'm 28 and I realized all of it based on my direct experience and for you to be able to truly grasp this you need to have experienced it too.

The happiest I ever been in my life was when I was a child and when in God-states (on psychedelics). 

When I was a child, I remember this feeling of freedom and joy when I was walking barefoot on the grass on a sunny day in a small Ukrainian village. I was walking in my underwear with 0 identity. It was pure state of being & joy.

God states were different, because they were filled with infinite love, being infinite love is like nothing in life.'

Life is designed to show you that there is only one path - the path of becoming what you truly are. It's just the question of pain and suffering for you to understand it.

My reference experience was this:

I remember lying in bed at 3 am, hugging my ex-girlfriend after having a lot of sex prior. 

Still, I was able to feel the void inside me, the void that only God can fulfill. 

Expectations never bring freedom. Including trying to be happy, fullfil or in God state.

[Mellowmarsh]

As the sands of time slowly slip through my mind. I’m fully aware that nothing is mine.

Like smoke in my hand. There is nowhere to land. And homelessness is my only home. 

My entire roam is from home to home. A dead end that never began.

And so as I wait for my final fate. To take that final breath.

To close the eyes one last time. To realise I’m going to be absolutely fine.

Goodnight Light. 

 

 

[Someone here]

You are right in that telling it to people is pointless and it can only be grasped with experience.  

It's not a matter of logic or facts..because it's a fact that this life is limited and we will die someday ..and we will not take anything with us to the grave. No matter how much you love "it" or "him" or"her"..you have to let them go . So presumably we all get that logically..but what helps us not going insane over it is we forget about it .we are not constantly (like 24/7) thinking about mortality and how everything is temporary and fleeting ...otherwise we will be depressed and under medication. 

I say it needs not be a problem ..you can relate to the fact that life is just a blink of an eye in the universe's lifetime positively..because it also means your suffering and problems are temporary..not just your happy moments.

Also man thank goodness that Someone here will die one day..I wouldn't wish eternal life to my worst enemies.(I'm talking about the human self not the absolute eternal self).

[Mellowmarsh]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

Also man thank goodness that Someone here will die one day..I wouldn't wish eternal life to my worst enemies.(I'm talking about the human self not the absolute eternal self).

Exactly.

Thats why nothingness or oblivion is the most intelligent gift. Probably by design.

[Hojo]

@gettoeflAlot of nde i see say they regret making the decision to come back.

[gettoefl]

1 hour ago, Hojo said:

@gettoeflAlot of nde i see say they regret making the decision to come back.

Regret is the signature of every ego. I should have done things differently! No you shouldn't. You can delay realization yes but you can't stop it. Delay is to party here a bit longer with the hot chicks. God is fine. As the good book says: Nothing real can be threatened and nothing unreal exists.

[Hojo]

@gettoefl Its gaslighting of a false God to keep you reincarnation. You will die and God will say dont you want to come back? They say yes and are like fuck I was tricked.