Why is Authenticity so magnetic?

[caspex]

What do you guys think on Authenticity? Why does someone who is authentic attract so many people, good or bad? Are there any costs to authenticity? 

I know that being inauthentic comes with inner conflict and suffering. Your average person does not see that the benefits of authenticity outweigh the benefits of inauthenticity, why is that? What can cause that shift in clarity? 

[Butters]

Because almost everyone is conforming to the same shit, but at the same time our primal brain seeks leaders. 

[Leo Gura]

Because you are Truth.

[theleelajoker]

4 hours ago, caspex said:

What do you guys think on Authenticity? Why does someone who is authentic attract so many people, good or bad? Are there any costs to authenticity? 

I know that being inauthentic comes with inner conflict and suffering. Your average person does not see that the benefits of authenticity outweigh the benefits of inauthenticity, why is that? What can cause that shift in clarity? 

It serves as an example and enables others to be more authentic as well.

[Breakingthewall]

The most magnetic and popular ones are usually fake, like Judas, more or less. The thing is, they look authentic. The other thing is: everybody genuinely think they are authentic. 

Edited 17 hours ago by Breakingthewall

[Joseph Maynor]

I feel like it takes maturity to develop authenticity on some level.  

[BlessedLion]

9 hours ago, caspex said:

What do you guys think on Authenticity? Why does someone who is authentic attract so many people, good or bad? Are there any costs to authenticity? 

I know that being inauthentic comes with inner conflict and suffering. Your average person does not see that the benefits of authenticity outweigh the benefits of inauthenticity, why is that? What can cause that shift in clarity? 

I think it's because

 

1) You are showing that you have the balls not to conform, you aren't afraid of social conditioning and being seen as an outsider, this immediately shows that you are okay on your own and not needy. Needy people are not authentic, they twist themselves into a pretzel to be liked and get their "needs" met.

2) When you are authentic there is a certain "aliveness" to your being and energy. And that is captivating, have you ever heard someone explain something they didn't care about and could just feel the dissociation and numbness in their voice? Now, have you ever heard someone lit up talking about a topic they love? This is the difference but it's like that 24/7, authentic people are moving from alive energy so it's more captivating and interesting. 

3) It shows confidence and uniqueness, i truly believe we are all unique fingerprints of God and when you find your authentic self you are expressing that fingerprint and there is a certain beauty to that and it's much more interesting that just being some copy/paste (Insert personality here based on where they are from)

 

Peter Ralston is a great example of authenticity, there is something about him that is so engaging and interesting even when he's just being himself.

[BlessedLion]

there is a cost to authenticity, but the cost of being inauthentic is much higher

[Ramasta9]

Because each and everyone of us is an absolutely unique expression of The Creator.

So when one is totally himself, authentic, raw, real, its like a beacon of light to others to 'signal' them and let them know that this is something absolutely unique that you can benefit from because its unique unto itself, and you can never be "that" because you are "this" in its own absolutely unique way.

Its like a nail and a hammer, they perfectly compliment each other, yet two hammers or two nails become useless among each other.

Many people fail in life because they try to copy others, yet never reaching their full potential. And you will attract two types of people, those who absolutely are drawn to you, and those who are absolutely threatened and repelled.

Osho was a great example of a wise man who was absolutely himself, he broke all the rules of the religions and spiritual dogmas, and in my eyes was closer to Buddha and Christ than most Buddhist and most Christians, why? because he was absolutely himself.

That's why Buddha and Christ and the great masters excelled in life far beyond most, because they were naturally so themselves.

In a nutshell  

Edited 15 hours ago by Ramasta9

[Yimpa]

13 hours ago, caspex said:

Are there any costs to authenticity? 

The cost is severing connections that were never serving you. Old ones died, and new ones sprung up, even with peeps I thought I wanted to cut off completely. Turns out authenticity doesn’t just end parts of you,,, it transforms them.

Edited 12 hours ago by Yimpa

[Leo Gura]

4 hours ago, BlessedLion said:

there is a cost to authenticity

Death

[Yimpa]

 

[Opulence]

Because authenticity goes against the grain. Polarity of vibes is magnetic to people as it appeals to their deeper selves that are hard to express. Authentic people seem to act like channelers or messengers. So people tune in.

[Leo Gura]

You can't be authentic in a herd. The herd requires you to serve its survival.

[Opulence]

4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You can't be authentic in a herd. The herd requires you to serve its survival.

When you're authentic and you look at everyone around you,

 

[UnbornTao]

What does it take to be authentic, though? What does being oneself even mean, specifically in a social context? It seems to show up in how we present ourselves to others and in the impressions we leave on them - through what we say and do.

Edited 4 hours ago by UnbornTao

[theleelajoker]

6 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

You can't be authentic in a herd. The herd requires you to serve its survival.

I seriously question this narrative. 

You can make the exact opposite point. Being authentic allows the herd (=others) to enable change and reach full potential. 

The more authentic I became, the better my interactions - with friends, at work, but also with strangers I met for the first time. 

50 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

What does it take to be authentic, though? What does "being oneself" even mean? It seems to show up in how we present ourselves to others and in the impressions we leave on them - in what we say and do. 

For me it means: I think A, I say A. I feel B, I express B. I feel like doing C, I do C. Etc etc

Not being authentic means for me: What I feel like and/ or what I am aware of is NOT what I am expressing. I suppress my self expression. Typically because I fear a reaction, want to control my environment, want to create a narrative etc 

[Ramasta9]

Be the you that you were before the world laid its hands on you and told you who or how to be. Can you remember that you? 

That's who you truly are, beyond all the layers of the onion, behind all the masks, pure infinite potential. 

[UnbornTao]

4 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

For me it means: I think A, I say A. I feel B, I express B. I feel like doing C, I do C. Etc etc

Even though that sounds like a reasonable take in principle, it is also precisely that which I'm challenging as authentic. There seem to be layers to authenticity.

For example, are you aware of what a reaction you might be having is actually based on? 

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Not being authentic means for me: What I feel like and/ or what I am aware of is NOT what I am expressing. I suppress my self expression. Typically because I fear a reaction, want to control my environment, want to create a narrative etc 

Except for the "feeling like" part, I agree.

Edited 11 minutes ago by UnbornTao

[Carl-Richard]

On 24.12.2025 at 3:52 PM, caspex said:

What do you guys think on Authenticity? Why does someone who is authentic attract so many people, good or bad?

Because being yourself means being in tune with your capacities. Being in conflict with your capacities leads to lower functioning and inner turmoil and a non-attractive state.

 

On 24.12.2025 at 3:52 PM, caspex said:

 Are there any costs to authenticity?

Effort to unfold it in a world that is different from the self.

 

On 24.12.2025 at 3:52 PM, caspex said:

I know that being inauthentic comes with inner conflict and suffering. Your average person does not see that the benefits of authenticity outweigh the benefits of inauthenticity, why is that? What can cause that shift in clarity? 

It can be simpler in some ways to cower to the outside world. But that simplicity again has to face the complexity of the world, and you need functionality to face that. And people may underestimate inauthenticity in the long-term, so when they have experienced it for long, they might realize that it doesn't work, while in the short term it's often easier. But some may manage to bury it so deep (especially men) that they forget even the concept, through blindness of emotional state (alexithymia) or general dissociation. And they end up cold, stunted, blunt, surface layer.

Edited 13 minutes ago by Carl-Richard