Insecure about my d size

[Jannes]

Its interesting, I wasnt ever that insecure about it before until recently when I read that penis size actually does play more of a role then I thought in bed and women like a penis a bit above average in one night stands. 

I am on the lower end of average so its not catastrophic.

But this insecurity has somehow really settled in my mind like a virus. 

Some friends wanted to go to the sauna and I didnt go with them because I was afraid .. well at least I still shower in the shower in the gym. 

I had sexual success before, a f+ who really wanted me so that validation kept things in check I think but I wasnt that sexually the last year so doubts creep in. 

I am kind of ashamed that this insecurity even exists, I feel like I should be over this kind of shit but I am not. 

How to shake off the insecurity?

[Raze]

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Edited 18 hours ago by Raze

[Elliott]

I think women tend to like foreplay and oral as much or more than anything, I can't see it being any real problem. Just date a cool girl and have open and playful communication with sex, she'll tell you what she likes and wants. It's not a problem. Some girls can't even handle much.

Edited 18 hours ago by Elliott

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Dick size is a non-issue for me, provided we aren't talking anything less than 3 inches. And even then, I would not give a crap as long as he knows how to use the ten dicks attached to his hands + mouth.

It's what you can do that matters

I am more interested in the dude if he can take honest feedback in bed and not shrivel into mincey balls baby ego mode.

Most women will use dick size as a weapon against men as they know it will stab them in the ego, not because they really care about size.

 

[Ramasta9]

@Natasha Tori Maru I am more interested in the dude if he can take honest feedback in bed and not shrivel into mincey balls baby ego mode.

^^^ why can't people be brutally honesty anymore, I find almost nothing more attractive. Its the highest intimacy !
 

[Ramasta9]

@Jannes Trust me if she really likes you its going to be very hard to get rid of her. Dick size is one of the least important things.

Of course there are those immature girls who don't know what they say, want or need half of the time and just running an old programmed instilled in their minds by society, but you don't want that anyway, or do you  

 

[Schizophonia]

That's just fantasy, a vulva is like 10/12 cm and sensitivity is in the first few cm + clitoris.

 

[Recursoinominado]

Not gonna lie, size does matter to a point.

Women brag about having sex with guys who have big dicks all the time, and they tell all their friends about their partner's size.

Big dicks have a visual impact; it's exciting, it's masculine/alpha/dominant, and it hits their vaginas differently.

BUT, most guys think good sex is what is shown in porn, and even most women like that.

They are wrong. Most people, including women, don't know what mind-blowing sex is.

This is an opportunity for guys with average/small dicks to explore other aspects of sex that guys who are above average don't.

You can be dominant without a big dick; you can make her have incredible orgasms without a big dick. 

You just have to work more to do it. Watch many videos, read books about it, master massage, tantra, learn to dance, to kiss, to make women squirt.

[Jannes]

Yeah there is a lot one can do, I creatively express myself in sex, there is always something new to do, there are positions in which you can penetrate deeper like leg over shoulder missionary which is my fav anyway, foreplay can play a bigger role etc. 

But if I just want a dirty hookup some of these options become less prevelant. I need to actually be emotionally connected to the girl to do all of the things around penetration well. 

[Hojo]

I think the clitoris is the better part. Think of the clitoris like the head of the penis and inside like the shaft of the penis. You can make them cum with the clitoris and they will be happy.

[Sugarcoat]

2 minutes ago, Hojo said:

I think the clitoris is the better part. Think of the clitoris like the head of the penis and inside like the shaft of the penis. You can make them cum with the clitoris and they will be happy.

Does it help you come to imagine her pussy as a penis?

[Hojo]

@SugarcoatNo its just a fact. Its like an inverted penis. It dosent help it grosses me out. When i figured out a womans vagina is a penis I got mind fucked. I wish it wasnt. I had to question that having sex with a woman was gay cause we are just rubbing eachothers penis'. I had an existential crisis when I figured it out. Even being heterosexual is gay. We are like gay clones pretending not to be via God inverting the penis.

Edited 5 hours ago by Hojo

[Leo Gura]

Find yourself an Asian girl and she will be happy with your small dick. Asian girls got the smallest pussies.

[Someone here]

5 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Find yourself an Asian girl and she will be happy with your small dick. Asian girls got the smallest pussies.

Is that also why Asian guys' dicks are censored? 🤔

[Elliott]

18 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@SugarcoatNo its just a fact. Its like an inverted penis. It dosent help it grosses me out. When i figured out a womans vagina is a penis I got mind fucked. I wish it wasnt. I had to question that having sex with a woman was gay cause we are just rubbing eachothers penis'. I had an existential crisis when I figured it out. Even being heterosexual is gay. We are like gay clones pretending not to be via God inverting the penis.

There should be a psychological term for it, but I tend to notice how women look like men. It really disturbs me.

I don't mean two eyes and arms. Obviously. Women just look too similar too men to me.... it's like some super-homophobia or something but I have no problem with gay guys. I just think " man, this attraction doesn't seem much different than being gay".

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Hojo said:

@SugarcoatNo its just a fact. Its like an inverted penis. It dosent help it grosses me out.

I kidded but yea I’ve heard too that penis and vagina have similar origin when they develop in pregnancy 

[Jannes]

17 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Find yourself an Asian girl and she will be happy with your small dick. Asian girls got the smallest pussies.

Asians are like the race I am least interested in. 

[Hojo]

@SugarcoatIts just easier for him to understand that the size of your penis is like asking if it feels better when a woman is rubbing your shaft or the head of the penis. The head of the penis/clitoris feels better than rubbing the shaft of the penis. If you have sex and rub her clitoris at the same time then the size dosent matter.

Edited 4 hours ago by Hojo

[Sugarcoat]

23 minutes ago, Hojo said:

When i figured out a womans vagina is a penis I got mind fucked. I wish it wasnt. I had to question that having sex with a woman was gay cause we are just rubbing eachothers penis'. I had an existential crisis when I figured it out. Even being heterosexual is gay. We are like gay clones pretending not to be via God inverting the penis.

That to me sound like some subtle homophobia hahaha . It’s like saying “well both man and woman are Homo sapiens so fucking a woman is like fucking a guy ahah”

[Someone here]

@Elliott they have a word for it. Called Asexual.