HELP! I really want to get a girlfriend !

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

11 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Ofc no you could have AIDS just as you could be cheated on.

The difference is that you identify with one situation for some reason and you don't with the other.

The projection of emotions is not a matter of probabilities.

Yeah, I identify with the one that can actually happen to me or is happening to me. Still not a good comparison. Also, who cares. Don't do onto the others what you don't want them to do to you is still a valid rule regardless of all this pointless analysing. It's yet another example of degeneracy and that's it for me, ofc if you wish to behave in degenerate ways you should have the right of freedom to do so to a certain extent. But I'm not joining

[Eskilon]

15 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

You're selfish all the time; you don't care about how your phone was made, the conditions under which the meat you eat was raised, your family, the insects you squash because they bother you, etc.

You suddenly become altruistic when it comes to these things because you recognize yourself for some reasons; it's your karma.

Yes, we are selfish creatures. But that doesnt mean anything goes, that's why we have rules, moral standards, and so on.

15 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I've already explained why I advised OP to do this.
Also, no one mentioned cheating on someone; a girl can politely leave her boyfriend before getting together with you.

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Also, just because the girls in your class have boyfriends doesn't mean you can't flirt with them; you might be better for her than he is.

yeah bro, you are not providing ground for the cheating to happen, sure lol. 

She will politely leave her boyfriend after the guy knows that she has a boyfriend and still flirts with her regardless. She totally left her boyfriend by herself lmao

Edited 5 hours ago by Eskilon

[Bando]

22 hours ago, Tudo said:

I live in Brazil, I'm average looking, 29 years old, a little skinny (70 kg), 186 cm tall, and I work out a little at home (I do pull-ups). I'm shy, so cold approach would be pretty tough if I choose that route. I'm a white latino.

Over 6 feet tall, white passing, med student & lives in brazil and your having trouble finding a girl? Further more your having don't have a social circle? That is very odd. Ive travled to Brazil before and the social culture there is insane, both the men and women are very open to conversation.

Try to ease your way into dating by doing online game, based on your description of yourself you should do fine. Choose the 3 biggest apps in your country and get 4-6 high quality photos of yourself and see what you can get.

Also try to ask the students in your university what they do after class and if you can join, having a social circle of both men and women can really open up opportunities for you, especially in a place where there is such a strong social culture.

Don't get too caught up in courses or theory people with the low social skill, introverted, analytical archetype need to cautions with consuming theory, they usually end up spending more time crafting elaborate frameworks for dating than actually going out to talk to women. 

 

[Spiral]

21 hours ago, Tudo said:

I have no friends and don't interact with women outside med school.

I’d focus on friends first. Doesn’t need to be deep and amazing friendships but something. 
 

The lone wolf is weak, a man with a tribe is strong.

[Tudo]

1 hour ago, Bando said:

Over 6 feet tall, white passing, med student & lives in brazil and your having trouble finding a girl? Further more your having don't have a social circle? That is very odd. Ive travled to Brazil before and the social culture there is insane, both the men and women are very open to conversation.

 

I have multiple women interested in me, the problem is they are not attractive to me. The ones I really want, usually young, white with german descent, for example, are tough to get. And I almost don't have any social circle. This will sound very low development, but being honest: I want my kids to be white looking and tall, so I won't settle to any girl. Maybe I will be  better off traveling to Russia, I think I could be considered pretty handsome over there but idk I'm just waiting to get my degree and have some money.

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[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Bando said:

white passing,

This is not an added bonus when trying to get dates. 

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, Tudo said:

I have multiple women interested in me, the problem is they are not attractive to me. The ones I really want, usually young, white with german descent, for example, are tough to get. And I almost don't have any social circle. This will sound very low development, but being honest: I want my kids to be white looking and tall, so I won't settle to any girl. Maybe I will be  better off traveling to Russia, I think I could be considered pretty handsome over there but idk I'm just waiting to get my degree and have some money.

You should change the title of the thread to 'help, I can't get the type of female I want'. So misleading and a waste of people's time and energy. You're not looking for a girlfriend you seek someone to carry on your off-spring with your preferred looks and status. 

[Leo Gura]

10 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

This is not an added bonus when trying to get dates. 

It certainly is, depending on region.

[Princess Arabia]

11 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

It certainly is, depending on region.

Well, everything depends on region. It's like me saying to someone looking for a natty dread and emphasizing how important that is on a dating resume, that's not a criteria for dating; it's not, but for that person it is and so will a lot of other features. Are we going to point out them all. So, him just saying it generally doesn't count without OP saying that's what the girls in that region like. Just saying it off the bat suggests it's a Universal trait that's preferred and it's not.

Edited 1 hour ago by Princess Arabia

[Yimpa]

Hot Witch Girlfriend 4 All!

I’m fresh off the grill —— and juicy, like a steak

 

[Tudo]

32 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

 You're not looking for a girlfriend you seek someone to carry on your off-spring with your preferred looks and status. 

I know, I'm not proud of my preferences, it feels almost dirty, I feel ashamed of it, but I can’t simply ignore the truth.

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, Tudo said:

I know, I'm not proud of my preferences, it feels almost dirty, I feel ashamed of it, but I can’t simply ignore the truth.

No, it's nothing to be ashamed of; i was pointing out how misleading the title seems to be after reading some of your added comments and responses. Doesn't seem like you have a woman problem but a 'getting my preference met' problem. We all have different preferences, wants and desires in this category, just be upfront and recognize where the root of the problem we think we have lies instead of going around in circles with useless advice from people that doesn't even understand what lies beneath.  

[Leo Gura]

51 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

You should change the title of the thread to 'help, I can't get the type of female I want'.

Obviously that is the crux of all dating: getting someone you want vs not just anyone.

If your standards are zero, dating is no challenge. All dating is about getting someone above average. Everyone tries to get more than they deserve.

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You're not looking for a girlfriend you seek someone to carry on your off-spring with your preferred looks and status. 

That's what a girlfriend is.

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[Princess Arabia]

9 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

That's what a girlfriend is.

Were you looking for that from any of your past gfs. Offsprings and to have kids tall, white, handsome and bald who called their daddy,  Daddy Deo Lura. 😜

Edited 35 minutes ago by Princess Arabia

[Schizophonia]

23 minutes ago, Tudo said:

I know, I'm not proud of my preferences, it feels almost dirty, I feel ashamed of it, but I can’t simply ignore the truth.

If you're white it's normal to want to be with someone white, it's normal to want to be with someone of your own ethnicity, I assume.

But if you're not white then it's ethnomasochism.

And besides a white person can be stupid and ugly, and there are plenty of good non-white girls; It's strange to focus on such a criterion and even talk about going to Russia.

Always the same ego-driven deliriums; and the clock is ticking. 

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[Leo Gura]

6 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Were you looking for that from any of your past gfs.

I was looking for green with 3 tits

[Princess Arabia]

7 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I was looking for green with 3 tits

Look no further!!💃💃

[Tudo]

29 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

If you're white it's normal to want to be with someone white, it's normal to want to be with someone of your own ethnicity, I assume.

But if you're not white then it's ethnomasochism.

And besides a white person can be stupid and ugly, and there are plenty of good non-white girls; It's strange to focus on such a criterion and even talk about going to Russia.

Always the same ego-driven deliriums; and the clock is ticking. 

Even though race is a complicated matter in my country, I consider myself white, my parents and grandparents are all white. And I'm not talking about olive-skin Italian type or southern european type.

I want my son to be like me, tall and white. In the end of the day it’s just survival, I think.

I mentioned Russia because usually tall, beautiful white women in Brazil are more difficult to get than in Russia, I think mixed-race and black men in Brazil are obsessed over blonde white women.

Edited 3 minutes ago by Tudo

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Maybe it's just a personal thing, but to me, flirting is harmless. I don't mind my partners flirting with others. I love the display of wit and banter. Takes some nice skill.

I'm not insecure about it. I am not territorial or possessive. 

For me this isn't theoretical as I have lived it. And I don't confine flirting to gender either. Man, woman and anything in between - you won't escape 😈

[Schizophonia]

10 minutes ago, Tudo said:

I consider myself white, my parents and grandparents are all white. And I'm not talking

Ok it makes sense so