I want to change my life but feel trapped and powerless

[Something Funny]

I cant do it anymore.

[Yimpa]

What is it that you want to change?

[Something Funny]

@Yimpa everything. My dating life, my relationships, my career, how much money I make, how I behave around people, what I do in my free time, how I feel about myself, my personality, how other people see me and what they think about me.

[Yimpa]

You gotta get to a point where you wouldn’t change a damn thin.

Radical Acceptance

[Something Funny]

@Yimpano, fuck me

[Yimpa]

@Something Funny

 

[UnbornTao]

You could start by changing how you spend your free time, for example. Do something different - that'll show you that you can. It doesn't have to be huge.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxQ7VHaWh_4

Sometimes, the best way to get unstuck is to realize you were never stuck to begin with.

 

Edited October 25 by UnbornTao

[Ramasta9]

Take a break from life my friend, go on a holiday, do something new, disconnect from all the shit thats making you feel stressed, trapped and powerless, even temporarily can make a big difference, because it allows the ((space)) we need to see, feel, release and see clearly again.

Sometimes I go camping for a while to clear my head, no phone, no online, no people, just me and the woods, a fire, music, or no music, sometimes I take a little mushroom or cactus, it helps a lot.

One step at a time, take care of yourself.

[Rishabh R]

@Something Funny I agree with what @Yimpa said. These items in your list are the things which you cannot change so, it will be much better if you stop caring about these things and just focus on putting effort/taking action in your life as well keep reframing your failures. For example - My failures are the path towards my success which would be possible if I push through them.

[Luke W]

@Rishabh R eh i don't know, shouldn't he burn through some of his karma? And you can actually change most of these through practice or just by changing your behaviour/mindset. @Something Funny I think you need to look for help man, something like a life coach or psychologist or something. If you can't afford that you'll have to figure it out yourself. Sadly it'll take a few years to get real results and you gotta start small. But at least start somewhere and don't try to rush things. There's not really an all-in-one advice for this kind of situation sadly. Case by case thing yk? Your problems aren't the same as mine, and maybe you have some trauma you have to work through. I would recommend you to try and get some help tho by getting a coach of some sorts.

[Rishabh R]

@Luke W Yeah he must burn through his Karma and I think that behaviour follows mindset which has a huge impact but taking action is also important as mindset without action is useless.

[Wilhelm44]

On 10/25/2025 at 8:41 PM, Something Funny said:

I cant do it anymore.

Have you experimented with identity shifting ?

[cetus]

On 10/25/2025 at 2:41 PM, Something Funny said:

I cant do it anymore.

Well there you go.

[Something Funny]

6 hours ago, cetus said:

Well there you go.

Where do I go?

[ted73104]

On 2025/10/26 at 3:22 AM, Yimpa said:

You gotta get to a point where you wouldn’t change a damn thin.

Radical Acceptance

The trap to implementing radical acceptance is where you think you don't need to do anything if you've accepted youself. No, that is not it. If you fully accept yourself and your situation, you'll also fully accept that you have a huge ambition to change into something else. This true acceptance of yourself removes all the obstacles between you and massive fucking action!

[Ishanga]

On 10/25/2025 at 3:03 PM, Something Funny said:

@Yimpa everything. My dating life, my relationships, my career, how much money I make, how I behave around people, what I do in my free time, how I feel about myself, my personality, how other people see me and what they think about me.

You want all of this for one simple reason, the feel Happy and Fulfilled, but if You try to get this via outside sources and process, then for sure You will fail and suffer it as You are..

You have to take the process and make it an internal thing, so that You alone bring about an Experience/Feeling of Happiness and Fulfillment, and then Life will change and transform for You..  Its hard to do today because we are so conditioned to believe that life is outside of Us, that is why we look to find it in other things like dating, relationships, career choices and money, but it can be done, work on little things step by step.

As someone mentioned first try Acceptance, the process of Accepting more and more things as they are, this will lower or stop all together the Stress Fight/Flight that is going on in all of Us, if this stops then for sure Your ability to be a Peace no matter what is going on around You will come forth much easier, this is a starting point, from that life will open up more and you can explore more that life has to offer!

Edited Friday at 12:51 PM by Ishanga

[TheCloud]

On 10/25/2025 at 2:03 PM, Something Funny said:

...how other people see me and what they think about me.

How do people see you?  What are people thinking when they see you?  Who are these people?