I want to change my life but feel trapped and powerless

[Something Funny]

I cant do it anymore.

[Yimpa]

What is it that you want to change?

[Something Funny]

@Yimpa everything. My dating life, my relationships, my career, how much money I make, how I behave around people, what I do in my free time, how I feel about myself, my personality, how other people see me and what they think about me.

[Yimpa]

You gotta get to a point where you wouldn’t change a damn thin.

Radical Acceptance

[Something Funny]

@Yimpano, fuck me

[Yimpa]

@Something Funny

 

[UnbornTao]

You could start by changing how you spend your free time, for example. Do something different - that'll show you that you can. It doesn't have to be huge.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxQ7VHaWh_4

Sometimes, the best way to get unstuck is to realize you were never stuck to begin with.

 

Edited Saturday at 10:29 PM by UnbornTao

[Ramasta9]

Take a break from life my friend, go on a holiday, do something new, disconnect from all the shit thats making you feel stressed, trapped and powerless, even temporarily can make a big difference, because it allows the ((space)) we need to see, feel, release and see clearly again.

Sometimes I go camping for a while to clear my head, no phone, no online, no people, just me and the woods, a fire, music, or no music, sometimes I take a little mushroom or cactus, it helps a lot.

One step at a time, take care of yourself.

[Rishabh R]

@Something Funny I agree with what @Yimpa said. These items in your list are the things which you cannot change so, it will be much better if you stop caring about these things and just focus on putting effort/taking action in your life as well keep reframing your failures. For example - My failures are the path towards my success which would be possible if I push through them.

[Luke W]

@Rishabh R eh i don't know, shouldn't he burn through some of his karma? And you can actually change most of these through practice or just by changing your behaviour/mindset. @Something Funny I think you need to look for help man, something like a life coach or psychologist or something. If you can't afford that you'll have to figure it out yourself. Sadly it'll take a few years to get real results and you gotta start small. But at least start somewhere and don't try to rush things. There's not really an all-in-one advice for this kind of situation sadly. Case by case thing yk? Your problems aren't the same as mine, and maybe you have some trauma you have to work through. I would recommend you to try and get some help tho by getting a coach of some sorts.

[Rishabh R]

@Luke W Yeah he must burn through his Karma and I think that behaviour follows mindset which has a huge impact but taking action is also important as mindset without action is useless.

[Wilhelm44]

On 10/25/2025 at 8:41 PM, Something Funny said:

I cant do it anymore.

Have you experimented with identity shifting ?