I am 23 & Quitting my job

[Madhur]

It’s been a little over two months since I started my first job(i am from India), a proper 9-to-5 role in HR with a decent pay. But the truth is, I feel miserable. I feel miserable when I go to work & when I’m at work. I’ve always been ambitious, with bigger things in mind, wanting to contribute meaningfully and live happily.

After my post-graduation, peer pressure pushed me into taking a job right away. But now, I realize it was the wrong choice. I don’t feel like I belong there. I spoke to my parents about it, it was a very difficult conversation, they asked me for a backup plan, I told them I wanted to build something of my own.

To be honest, I don’t yet have a crystal-clear picture of what that “something” will look like but i am planning to build my personal brand, I like content creation. I’ve done it before(not consistently hence didn't get results) and it makes me genuinely happy. Recording, posting, and knowing that somewhere, someone feels inspired by my work, that’s something I can do all day long without feeling exhausted.

So, I told my parents that I want to build my personal brand. I asked for a six-month window, promising that if they don’t see results, I’ll return to a job. I know six months is short, but one thing I’m certain about is that I don’t want to spend my life in a 9-to-5.

Today My manager already confronted me about not being mentally present at work, and I plan to have an open conversation with her tomorrow. Because I first want to talk to my father again. Even though both my parents agreed, it was difficult for them, when I told them my mother cried, asking why I couldn’t just be happy with the stability I already have. My father, too, was very hesitant, though eventually he half-heartedly said yes.

I know this decision is not easy for them, I just want their full support.

I want your input on this, I truly hope I am making the right decision.

[Realms of Wonder]

I totally understand chafing under management at a job.

Do you think it is wise to quit your source of income without any other option?

If you parents can support you for that 6 months that is something, but why not build while you work?

 

[Madhur]

@Realms of Wonder I’ve asked myself the same question people have done it, you can do it too, why not build while working? But after getting a taste of this environment for over 2months, I’ve realized that my mind and body have very little tolerance for it. I don’t perform well, I feel disconnected, and I find it hard to push myself through the day the way others around me do, sacrificing sleep, hunger, or wellbeing just to get the work done. Honestly, I sometimes wonder, how can someone work so diligently for someone else? That mindset just doesn’t resonate with me

I do have some savings to fall back on, and yes, my parents are also capable of supporting me.

I feel like I am young & if not now then idk when, that's why I am inspired to do this.

[bazera]

@Madhur Yes you are very young and I'd do it absolutely, considering that if it doesn't go as planned you can always find another job while your parents are supporting you.

You just have to use and direct those feelings towards something creative, every day, and track your progress as well weekly maybe. 6 months is not as long as you think, it will go really fast, and make sure you have something to show for it, even if it doesn't get you any money. 

At the moment you don't have that many responsibilities (your own family I assume, kids, rent, loan, etc), which gives you the freedom to do it, as long as your parent are okay with it. The reason I mention responsibilities is that you won't be like that forever, things will add up as years go by and it will be more and more difficult to live without a monthly paycheck. So do it while it's easier.

Share with us what you create after those months 

[Sincerity]

Good for you! Your parents are cool for letting you do your thing for 6 months.

Now, go get 'em!

[Hojo]

Corporations destroy the soul.

[Staples]

I would strongly suggest you secure another job or try content creation as a side thing for 3-6 months before quitting. From personal experience, I can tell you quitting a job without a proper plan was a big mistake.

Edited 17 hours ago by Staples

[Jowblob]

I was in India, indians are hardened people. Very terrible country to work in if you seek a balance between comfort and a working life, so even though you grow up there i can see where you're coming from. My advice for you would be to save up money and get a trucking license, because when you work as a truck driver you don't feel like you're working. In my case i was truck driving for a long time, we had modern trucks with adaptive cruise control so it automatically braked and kept distance on the highway, so it was comfortable and i was like half asleep behind steering wheel all the time. Because of this job i have also listened to 100+ audiobooks using audible and bluetooth. Trucking is literally made for people like you that don't want to work, in trucking you're your own boss and depends what you do in trucking you can be driving all day for like 9 hours and go home. You also see a lot of things, and because of the radio you can listened to hundreds of books from audible to gain knowledge in specific topics you're interested in. Bought my first house with mortgage at like 27 and sold it at 31, then moved to bulgaria from the netherlands and bought a nice apartment without mortage near the sea. So at 31 i am retired for now and  have savings + my own apartment and freedom.

Edited 8 hours ago by Jowblob

[Ramanujan]

i am from india. i have been into leo and self improvment for 11 years now. i dont have a job or a college degree.  my 2 cents

 

passion and life purpose work only in USA and rich western countries. In india there is not much opertunity exist. only IT industry or government job and some few industries. fuck passion and life purpose. aim for a 9-5 job . that is what is available in india

 

 

i have been into finding passion and life purpose for a long time. that shit wont work in india. if Leo was born in India , he would beg for a goverment job or an IT job. 

 

look into cal newport. he has the most realistic content on self improvment. instead of delusions

[waheed]

@Madhur
If you are serious about your own work, i mean truly serious and want to make it happen you should do it with the job.

You are in your early 20s, this is the time to grind not to look for easy stuff. who is stopping you from starting your thing while doing the job?

Okay you may take 18 months instead of the 6 but, first this is practical, second your finances are covered which ensures your needs and you have money to spend on yourself and your business, third you'll be sure that you are not kidding yourself and you will have time to gauge your risk apetite. 

And most importantly you have a huge incentive to keep working hard, because once you make it happen you can allow yourself the luxury of quitting job. Infact you can quit job at any level you feel comfortable, right now you don't have clear idea, so get clear idea and quit. Or maybe take it to 30% of your job earning and quit or any other comfortable level.

Usually it's easier to tolerate office nonsense once you have your own thing going, at whatever level it is.

Also I like to point out that, Job is a completely viable option. Usually people who complain about jobs have other issues, around discipline, following routine or mostly social or emotional issues. These issues will emerge in your own work too, you need to improve on those emotional, social and communication skills. 

By the way, no advise is an alternative to an actual experience of establishing your thing and quitting job. And also don't read too much into some of wage slavery nonsense that Leo has spread, there is no slavery it's living. Don't destroy a very viable form of living option based on someone Ideas. I like most of what Leo posted but some of the stuff regarding wage slavery is not useful, it's something that people like to read and listen too, since it speaks to their complaining and nagging self, but it's not correct. 

Few pointers:
1. Majority rely of jobs to make a living.
2. Not everyone can have a business of there own, why? It's numerically impossible. Can you imagine a world where everyone is working for himself? Just think about it, it's a stupid idea. It will require a new kind of world, at the moment it's just a concept in someone's head.
3. Value is inversely proportional to abundance, whatever that becomes common place looses value. This shows that only few would have access to true value or we may have to create a new world.

Edited 3 hours ago by waheed