The Purpose Of A Girlfriend Is To Dream Deeper Into The Matrix

[Alexop]

@Emerald God got so bored that it fools itself it is not God. God created entities limited in understanding and capabilities that try to outsmart other entities through all sorts of specializations. It is like me getting so bored that I create drama between imaginary friends in my head.

[Emerald]

1 hour ago, aurum said:

But that also doesn't mean men and women have the same orientation towards truth.

Survival has created various incentives and tradeoffs around truth. 

When it comes to relative truth (lowercase t), I see no such evidence that men as a whole group are more perceptive of relative truth than women as a whole group.

Though there are angles of relative truth that men and women are more aware of, on average. And this can impact how we communicate truth and the level of nuance with which we experience reality.

But one perspective is not more truth-oriented than the other, in the relative sense.

For example... and to give a caveat... as Leo said in his post, there is evidence that women tend to be more aware of the emotional lay-lines of social situations and will tend to prioritize delivering things tactfully and maintaining harmony over sharing truth bluntly.

And that's because we're (on average) more aware of the social/emotional realities of experience than men are... picking up on vibes, facial expressions, and small gestures that communicate the nuances of a complex social/emotional matrix.

So, it's a dimension of relative truth that we tend to pick up on more easily than men do, generally speaking.

And it's usually much wiser to share truth tactfully and with awareness of these social-emotional lay-lines... unless you're literally in danger or simply have to do something SUPER fast.

And the level of emotional awareness is such, that it's difficult to deliberately go unconscious to the realities of these emotional lay-lines when you're sensitive enough to be aware of the realities of the emotional web that you're stepping on.

It's like trying to ignore a really obvious elephant in the middle of the room.

So, even though women pick up on truths... we're often navigating the least discordant way to communicate these truths because we're aware of the elephant.

And women can develop the ability for blunt truth-speaking by becoming more okay with being seen as cruel and inflicting emotional pain (and the social fall-out that comes with it, from men and women)... while men are usually semi-unconscious to these emotional lay-lines to where the emotional pains/discomforts of others is more of a distant whisper and just doesn't register as much on their radar if they say something bluntly and it creates social discord.

It's the same reason why it's easier for men to inflict acts of violence more dispassionately as there is a bluntedness regarding the perception of the emotional truths of a situation. 

But men don't need to develop the skill of cruelty for kindness-sake to communicate blunt truths, as many men may not even be sensitive enough to perceive that emotional layer of reality all together. So, it's easier to communicate truths in a brutal way, as they don't feel the subtle social fall-out as much.

But in this way, the tendency towards greater levels of tact doesn't mean that women are less perceptive of what's true. 

In fact, it makes us more perceptive of the entire matrix of emotional truths... and the intuitive wisdom needed to traverse such a web, like a spider that knows all the sticky spots so as to not get caught in its web.

But men tend to naturally be a little bit more blunted in their awareness of this web of emotional realities. So, they are less aware of these relative truths from this perspective... which has its plusses and minuses, including the ability to communicate truth expediently in a blunted and harsh way (which can be both positive and negative depending on the situation).

To give an analogy to describe this general difference between men and women, think of these emotional lay-lines like the scenes in a movie where the characters are trying to escape from some maximum security captivity place.

And in these movies, there's often a really complex security system with a bunch of laser beams that shine throughout the room in all directions. And if the characters walk through the laser beams or even so much as touch one, it sets off the security system and they get caught by their captors.

And the characters usually have to duck around them skillfully to avoid setting them off.

If these laser beams are analogous to the emotional realities of a situation, women tend to be able to see the laser beams better and get lots of practice since childhood of skillfully ducking around them to avoid setting them off.

With men (generally speaking) they don't perceive these laser beams quite as easily because they aren't as sensitive to them. So, they tend to just walk right through them without even realizing that they set off an alarm. And it's more expedient... but can sometimes come with unintended consequences that can lead to chaos and social discord.

And women usually cut men slack when they traverse social boundaries (aka bump into the laser beams) because we know that men usually aren't aware of where they're stepping on the web and aren't deliberately trying to create social discord on purpose. We recognize that (usually) men are just tuned out form the emotional lay-lines... and not being deliberately cruel.

It's similar to how a man might cut a woman some slack if she struggles to carry something heavy.

But women don't tolerate it as much if another woman creates social discord because it's more likely that she knows full-well that she's stepping on the wrong part of the web and is doing it on purpose to be subtly cruel (with plausible deniability) and create social discord deliberately.

So, women have to be quite careful in how we communicate things because both men and women are very sensitive (for different reasons) to perceptions of female cruelty, which makes social bluntness a very unwise decision as you will attract lots of drama to you as you will be perceived as a bitch (unless you learn how to slow and lower the tone of your voice and communicate like a man, which is a useful code-switching skill for being perceived as more likable even if you are blunt).

But mean girls tend to use their keen awareness of the realities of the social/emotional lay-lines to create as much emotional discord as possible with as much plausible deniability as possible. And if you're perceived as a mean girl, you will attract all sorts of other rivalries with other mean girls.

So, tactful communication of truth is very important for a variety of reasons. 

This is what I mean by there being angles of relative truth that men and women are better at.

Because women are more aware of the complex matrix of social and emotional truths, it gives us both a strength and a weakness with regard to communicating tactfully.

Because men are less aware of the complex matrix of social and emotional truths, it gives you guys a strength and a weakness to communicate truth quickly and bluntly without tact.

That's why it's not accurate to say that men are generally more geared towards truth than women. As it is only because of men's lack of awareness of certain types of truths that enable them to communicate other truths more bluntly.

[Emerald]

2 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

@Natasha Tori Maru You are are cut off from infinity precisely by the degree to which you are not willing to give up finitude. 

And I couldn't do it. When I came face to face with the TRUTH, I ran away in terror... and here I am.

I made the trade of Everythingness for human life. Arguably foolish - I basically traded a trillion dollars for a pubic hair. But it's my favorite pubic hair. I couldn't let it go.

One of the realizations that I had was that it was wiser to choose the Emerald path than to choose the God path, BECAUSE of the limitation factor.

Limitation is the necessary birthplace of meaning and beauty.... and it is also a conduit for mercy from the burdens of infinity. 

And one needs illusion to sink into the perspective of limitation.

Truth removes all meaningful illusions of limitation and wakes you back up to the meaninglessness of the infinite.

And in the experience of Truth, it's when "I" realized that "I" truly preferred to live the illusion of limitation for this lifetime... and chose to live the Emerald story because it was wiser for "me" to do so.

[Emerald]

3 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

@Emerald You're so wise for this

People have no idea what they're asking for

And your words will fly right over our heads

100%

I thought I wanted Truth as well.

And when I found it, I realized that I actually just wanted my ordinary life... plain and simple.

[Emerald]

1 hour ago, Alexop said:

@Emerald God got so bored that it fools itself it is not God. God created entities limited in understanding and capabilities that try to outsmart other entities through all sorts of specializations. It is like me getting so bored that I create drama between imaginary friends in my head.

Not necessarily boredom as the primary motivator, per se. That didn't seem evident to me.

But in my plant medicine experiences, it did show me that its nature is infinite omniscience... like an infinite mind and infinite heart in combination.

So, its nature is to experience and know and be all things at every single level an infinite amount of times over... and to delight in all joys at the deepest level and suffer all sufferings at the deepest level.

So, it must be every barnacle in the ocean... just as it must be every human... and must be every lifeform that exists... and every non-lifeform that exists.... just as an extension of its nature.

That's at least what seemed evident to me in these experiences.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

22 minutes ago, Emerald said:

Not necessarily boredom as the primary motivator, per se. That didn't seem evident to me.

But in my plant medicine experiences, it did show me that its nature is infinite omniscience... like an infinite mind and infinite heart in combination.

So, its nature is to experience and know and be all things at every single level an infinite amount of times over... and to delight in all joys at the deepest level and suffer all sufferings at the deepest level.

So, it must be every barnacle in the ocean... just as it must be every human... and must be every lifeform that exists... and every non-lifeform that exists.... just as an extension of its nature.

That's at least what seemed evident to me in these experiences.

This is my understanding. 

And having carried existential dread my whole life? Endless pursuit of meaning? To the point I was distracted from the living?

There is peace in knowing this is the choice. There is surprise here. Wonder. 

I am resolved in the best way

[Alexop]

3 hours ago, Emerald said:

Not necessarily boredom as the primary motivator, per se. That didn't seem evident to me.

But in my plant medicine experiences, it did show me that its nature is infinite omniscience... like an infinite mind and infinite heart in combination.

So, its nature is to experience and know and be all things at every single level an infinite amount of times over... and to delight in all joys at the deepest level and suffer all sufferings at the deepest level.

So, it must be every barnacle in the ocean... just as it must be every human... and must be every lifeform that exists... and every non-lifeform that exists.... just as an extension of its nature.

That's at least what seemed evident to me in these experiences.

Interesting.

Idk if it is boredom, it is more like a joke guessing 😆 

Edited June 23 by Alexop

[RendHeaven]

1 hour ago, Emerald said:

mercy from the burdens of infinity.

this resonates

2 hours ago, Emerald said:

And in the experience of Truth, it's when "I" realized that "I" truly preferred to live the illusion of limitation for this lifetime... and chose to live the Emerald story because it was wiser for "me" to do so.

I spent all this time dismantling the play only to come face to face with myself on the other side:

me: "why'd you ruin my cosplay man? i was having fun "

me: "fuck. my bad"

me: "let's go back"

me: "yeah, let's go back."

[Alexop]

It is amazing how we can so easily talk about advanced spiritual shit but we get so emotional and debaty about silly subjects like our basic biology that can be easily proven by good studies.

Spirituality can be a subject so disconnected from survival and day to day that people's ego do not get affected badly by it. The rubber meets the road in the cases when your identity gets threatened by the topics.

[LordFall]

@Alexop I think it’s a feature not a bug. What a lot of people have missed in this conversation is we already come from infinite spiritual perfection. Meaning the purpose of life is to experience imperfect dualistic life. 
 

Experiencing life as two genders that dance with eachother is one of the core features of our existence, characterizing it as a silly distraction is a silly mindset in my books.  

[Alexop]

@LordFall ignoring biology is the the biggest problem in woke politics. You tell me biology is not a huge factor(not you actually of course)? Dude, check out the porn traffic on the internet, no amount of super High quality entertainment can compete with it. That is biology at play.

 

Edited June 23 by Alexop

[Puer Aeternus]

9 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

lotta guys probably just need a hug and a kiss lmfao

@RendHeaven Are you by chance offering any of these services? 

[RendHeaven]

12 minutes ago, Puer Aeternus said:

@RendHeaven Are you by chance offering any of these services? 

not for men 

[Schizophonia]

7 minutes ago, RendHeaven said:

not for men 

lol

[Puer Aeternus]

8 minutes ago, RendHeaven said:

not for men 

And so, the trend continues 

 

[aurum]

28 minutes ago, RendHeaven said:

not for men 

Folded quick as hell on that one 

[RendHeaven]

5 minutes ago, aurum said:

Folded quick as hell on that one 

my refusal to kiss the boys is actually a rejection of infinity if you think about it

If I REALLY cared about truth, I would just suck cocks (no biases!)

[Schizophonia]

27 minutes ago, Puer Aeternus said:

And so, the trend continues 

 

No, because it's not true. Most men don't need a "hug or a kiss," unless they're homosexual.

What lies behind these kinds of allegations is the desire to victimize oneself, and what lies more subconsciously behind the victim position is its opposite polarity, which is the "hero"; it's a fixation on infantile narcissism.

The goal of military service in some countries is to break this fixation in men.
If you allow yourself to whine and victimize yourself because it's hard, a nasty corporal will come and humiliate you, or at least attack you in front of everyone, and punish you.
Because you don't want to be "castrated," you will therefore agree to abandon the idea of victimizing yourself, your infantile fixation, and adopt a more rational and proactive phallic position. Unfortunately, military service has been abolished in most Western countries.

Typically, without going into detail, subconscious reconfiguration techniques, typically within the framework of the Law of Attraction if you're into that, are basically a process of masculinization.
You can't have a better life by assuming victimization; it's fundamentally contradictory; to be more powerful, you will therefore have to concentrate on the narcissistic rage you may feel by preventing yourself from emitting the idea of victimization; whether to yourself or others (which is the same thing, mirror effect all that).

In fine it's all again about detachment. 

Edited June 23 by Schizophonia

[RendHeaven]

1 minute ago, Schizophonia said:

Most men don't need a "hug or a kiss,"

men want the sense of anchored rest that comes as a result of them asserting their will out into the world.

i.e. if the "kiss" (metaphorical or literal) feels earned and drops the breath deep into the gut, that makes it all worth it.

if the "kiss" is a participation trophy or free handout and the shallow breathing continues, then the man will keep searching

[Puer Aeternus]

2 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

No, because it's not true. Most men don't need a "hug or a kiss," unless they're homosexual.

Lol, here we go with this shit.

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

What lies behind these kinds of allegations is the desire to victimize oneself, and what lies more subconsciously behind the victim position is its opposite polarity, which is the "hero"; it's a fixation on infantile narcissism.

The goal of military service in some countries is to break this fixation in men.
If you allow yourself to whine and victimize yourself because it's hard, a nasty corporal will come and humiliate you, or at least attack you in front of everyone, and punish you.
Because you don't want to be "castrated," you will therefore agree to abandon the idea of victimizing yourself, your infantile fixation, and adopt a more rational and proactive phallic position. Unfortunately, military service has been abolished in most Western countries.

Typically, without going into detail, subconscious reconfiguration techniques, typically within the framework of the Law of Attraction if you're into that, are basically a process of masculinization.
You can't have a better life by assuming victimization; it's fundamentally contradictory; to be more powerful, you will therefore have to concentrate on the narcissistic rage you may feel by preventing yourself from emitting the idea of victimization; whether to yourself or others (which is the same thing, mirror effect all that).

That was a lot of words to come up with in reaction to a single sentence. You don't really have an idea of what I'm saying. You're talking to yourself in the mirror.