Psyche_92

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  5. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    46 minutes ago, assx95 said:

    It's a tragedy that all the girls in my life I developed feelings for (4 in number) have treated me like trash and in the end disrespected me by ignoring me and being flaky. And each time, I did cry a lot. I didn't want to, but it hurt.

    Do you think this is a problem on the girl side or your side? Do you think that you contribute to the possibility of girls treating you like trash, as in allowing them to do so?

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    7 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

    It's the biological purpose of girls to be selective and picky about who they breed with.

    You are not gonna have sex with every single girl you meet either.  You will always have a preference. You don't eat chocolate when you like vanilla.

    7 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

    It's also downscalable: the egg is the girl, and the sperm is the guy.

    Millions of sperms fight about one egg. The task of the sperm is to fight in a cruel war against many other, and the odds are against him.

    The task of the egg is to sit there and be picky and selective, be the gatekeeper, let only one in. Millions of guys wants to get inside the girl, literally.

    Well, seems like you won that fight as a sperm as you are here now. Why not win another time by getting yourself a girlfriend.

     

  7. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    22 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

    Because girls are impossible.

    It's best to forget girls altogether. Reality is as it is, just accept it and move on, and hope that you become a girl in next life so you can have romantic love.

    You are not gonna lose your desire for romance and a girlfriend by ignoring it, or putting girls into a bad daylight.

    Stop being a victim to your own fears and inadequacies and conquer them one by one.

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    1 minute ago, Rilles said:

    I can distract myself away from the feeling by thinking up excuses, instead of going into and feeling it. 

    How? You can't choose whether you are going to distract yourself away, or go into it and feel it whenever a situation like that occurs. If that would be a possibility, we would all just simply choose to go into every feeling everytime and empty our bucket on free will.

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    4 hours ago, LoveandPurpose said:

    I'm currently trying to find my Life Purpose. I think I like Psychology very much, but recently I can't bother studying it. 

    Is that a hint that I don't really like it that much or is it natural that sometimes you stop craving the things you like doing?

    I have the same problem at the moment.

    I can see myself being a Psychologist/psychotherapist in the future, but as soon as i open any book about Psychology, and it starts getting into deep scientific concepts and stuff i tend to get bored very quickly and feel meh towards it.

  13. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    43 minutes ago, zenjen said:

    I made it a point this year to work on my career and health, but my boyfriend, the person I spend the most time with, isn’t focused on bettering himself at all. He did have a job in that paid almost 6 figures (though he has no college degree), but he quit because he didn’t like it. He’s been unemployed for several months now and living with his brother who now pays the rent for him. The only thing he wants to do career-wise is start a blog, which may or may not pay off. I also try to get him to eat healthy and exersize with me, but he has absolutely no interest in doing that. It’s been hard lately feeling like I have no support from him. I just want him to want himself to be better. I love him and he’s still my best friend, I’m just not sure what to do about his motivation problem, so I’m just trying to lead by example and hope he gets inspired to do something.

    Anyone else facing this problem in their relationship? Is it worth trying to stick it out? Let me know your thoughts.

    You can try to do whatever you want. If he's not interested in your healthy stuff than he's not interested. You don't push someone to do the things that you like, just because you think it will help them.

    You love someone because you love him for who he or she is. You don't go and change someone like a piece of clay into a mould until you like what you see. That's not love.

    It's very easy. You either accept him and all his flaws and how he is, or you don't.

    If anything, he could even try and change for you just because you want him to, but that would be fake and that's going to bring tons of misery.

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    When you care about self-actualization and being healthy there are sacrifices to be made.

    Get a steady sleep schedule, and plan accordingly. Sleep at the same time and wake up at the same time everyday, weekends included.

    Yes you are going to miss parties, and you are going to need and learn to say "no" to your friends and family.

    But, if you even have the slightest vision about what this can bring you long term you will know this is worth it.

     

     

  15. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    Hi,

     

    So i've been thinking about implementing a short morning exercise routine right after waking up. Something like pushups, squats and crunches.

    Would this actually be worth doing, or is it not enough for it to be beneficial?

    My main goal with this would be to start the day fresh and awake, and maybe build some discipline over time.

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    No, this is not good at all. Don't do that. I've been there.

    Change things up very quickly, and take full responsibility for everything that's going on in your life right now.

    Take radical action towards change and a better life.

    Your ego is using the free will/no free will concept as an escape from doing the things you should do, in order to get your life sorted out and on track.
    I've been there, it won't work. It's very dangerous to play this game, cause the ego likes it a lot, cause now it has a solid good sounding reason to be lazy and do nothing, because: " hey i don't have free will look!" It won't do you any good. You will end up totally fucked up this way.

  21. Posted

    5 minutes ago, Shin said:

    getting out of the addiction to fap and watching porn, not even thinking about it anymore, is way too freeing to give up on it.

    Well, i left it behind me for 120 days before and i could tell the difference in freedom for sure. The question however, is this sustainable long term? Can't keep counting days forever, and sooner or later masturbation will happen anyways, at least that's how i feel about it. In the end i will always go from being very rich to very poor in 5 seconds of pleasure.

    7 minutes ago, Shin said:

    You really can't have genuine relationships/friendship with women if you're not free of this, and you can't ignore 50% of the population.

    Ya i know. I'm not even looking for those at the moment. Ofcourse they may come if they want, but i'm not pursuing it atm.

     

  24. Posted

    Guys, i'm really starting to think total abstaining from masturbation is impossible. The idea of not watching porn forever sounds do-able. Not masturbating forever? Not so sure. Maybe when i have a girlfriend in the future this will work.

    I feel like i'm making my life a fuckton harder than it should be by focusing so much on Nofap, failing again and again, losing my "benefits" again and again.

    I'm basing my actions and motivation in life on NoFap atm. If i'm on a good streak i feel good about myself and than i do whatever i need to improve my life and sort myself out. If i relapse however, i feel like shit for at least 2 weeks and do at lot less of stuff, and feel very lethargic. Maybe i brainwashed myself by relying too much on NoFap benefits... 9_9