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  4. Posted

    On 10/12/2020 at 8:29 PM, EmptyVase said:

    I had similar issues, maybe this could help: My social anxiety stemmed from the fact of me being afraid of being myself. People pleasing^10. This made me afraid, because every word, every action I took, was calculated, completely overthought and came not from myself. Many filters, standing between my authentic personality and a fake, externally adjusted personality. I'd put on a mask, which I confused for myself. As I realized, how much suffering this has created, all of my social anxiety flew out the window. I said "enough of this people pleasing shit". I let it go.

    Focusing on being myself and being comfortable with it, regardless of what others think, was extremely helpful for this issue. Comes with a few extra benefits:

    People love you for your mistakes, not for you being a perfect, "error free" construct (pick up has made that even worse for me). 

    Realize, that being yourself comfortably is your natural state. Being yourself is actually effortless! But it feels like an effort, because you have created so many boundaries, adapted so many filters, to please the people around you, in order to maintain your social status (which paradoxically may sink). Always keep in mind, that to be yourself, you don't have to do ANYTHING! It is already within you. The moment you ask yourself, what you should say, it's already not coming from within. Just blurt it out.

    The book of pook and Leo's How to Be Funny video (and maybe a mushroom trip) helped me out of that hole.

    Well said! I still catch myself falling into people pleasing at times, then ask myself : what would I do if I were the only one watching? That brings me back to effortlessness everytime. Ive also noticed effortlessness enhances everything I do including things like basketball, making music and working out. There's no formula that can out think flow.

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    typo on dance

    51 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

    Does anyone here like Techno? I can enter flow states and wonderful trances when listening to techno in a dim/dark room.

    What kind of techno? Ive been more into midtempo, bass house, some dubstep when i listen to dance music but techno trance sets are pretty cool. Totally depends on mood for me. Sometimes ill play bass to some old soul funk jams, sometimes lots of different reggae, hip hop, r&b, even guzheng music lol. Always looking for new genres. Depends on the mood fasho

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    14 hours ago, shamaanitar said:

    I understand that this is what you wished women would be. Just as, from a female perspective, we would wish men to be looking for love, something deeper etc. You are asking us, women, to try to see this from a male perspective. Yet you are trying to push your experience as a male into the experience of a woman by comments like this.

    Please note that comments like this devalue your teaching which I find highly valuable. Reading comments like this show you in a rather unattractive, unintelligent, misogynistic light. This comment said to a woman in real life, could be considered sexual harassment. You are adding to the problem. Please be more aware.

    Women are not sluts even though you would wish us to be. We, like you, are human beings first, female second.

    Please, you must take resposibility as your word has a lot of meaning to a lot of men. I'm sure you don't intend for men to see women as mere objects.

    You have a tendency to view women to be either hot or intelligent. This is a simplification and from my experience: simply not true. Intelligent and beautiful women tend to hang out with other intelligent and beautiful women. But as our intrests are to do something bigger than just play the social game, we tend not to go clubbing. I understand that your perspective is different as you most likely have hung out with Vegas girls, who, due to their cultural background, are socialized in a different way. Please keep in mind that your experiences only give a tiny glimpse into this complex group called women.

    I mean no offence, but this really made me see you in a different light.

    This is true in my experience as well. Most women want love and someone they can build their life with. That type of person is whats rare and valueable. Its hard to trust a lot of men because so many have manipulative intentions. There needs to be genuine connection, passion, trust building, and willingness to change for mutual benefit. A great way for women to get to mans heart is through humor and friendship. A ton of relationships today start from something more casual with very loose, fun friendship bonds that become irresistable. Most men do not want to be guilt tripped or controlled early on so take things lightly and see if there is potential to build. 

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    2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    This is not true.

    And stop framing this as "tricks" to get in a girls panties. Proper game is about becoming a legitimately more attractive and higher value guy. It is not fake. It is real. The confidence and humor developed through pickup is REAL. And it will be respected and appreciated.

    Today I am genuinely much more attractive than I used to be. Because of the development work I did. And any woman who sleeps with me will benefit from that. It's not some trick I'm running on her.

    Im not disagreeing entirely, but isnt confidence just a matter of not hesitating and doubting due to competence? A lot of people try to lebron james style phych themselves into being more confident and "alpha" which is a front and not authentic.

  11. Posted

    2 hours ago, Jayson G said:

    @Leo Gura Hey Leo, when is the video on Pickup coming out? I'd like to further add that I've been reading everything you have to say about it, and I'd love to request you to make it sooner. Just like me, I think a lot of guys have this as a high priority on their list. It's weird but much of my lens of reality is colored from an intense desire to have a lot of success with women. Even the money we want to earn in business, has a core underlying motivation of wanting success with women. 

    I know you have a lot of experience from your late 20's in this, RSD forums are all dead across the board, and Covid doesn't make things any easier. You might not realize how hard that makes it to come up with a responsible strategy (during Covid) for actualizing this goal. 

    Just as recommendations, I'd like to add some things you could possibly touch on: 1) the most efficient and effective 80/20 strategies for success in this area 2) high conscious techniques 3) the best resources, not just PUA, but overall for becoming the highest quality man in terms of confidence, etc. 4) Big picture view of what results we could expect, etc. 

    I also understand the value of your really deep teachings, but as you know many of us are struggling to get our basic needs met haha .. Every week I really look forward to your videos and they have been super life changing, but every week I'm hoping there is something super practical, survival need based video that is at the first 3 to 4 stages on Maslow's Hierarchy. So in general I'd request a shift towards a balance towards more survival needs videos. I think I speak for many others, just through reading much of the responses here on actualized.org over the years. 

    Then again, you do you. Your videos are pushing us towards the deepest levels of consciousness. I wouldn't know what is possible if it weren't for you and your book list. 

    Id really prefer if he didnt spend his time on this tbh. Its much easier to figure out on your own naturally than the deeper abstract topics are. Really comes down to throwing yourself out there, seeing what works and what doesnt, and learning while being as authentic as you can be. When I was in that pickup phase the largest obstacle was being to in my head too much and not aware of the unique perspective of the people I was interacting with. Focus on the process of connecting like any friend instead of thinking about the end goal of wanting to sleep with women. Also think about why you want to. Is it for self or peer validation? Is that still gonna be important to you in 5-10 years? My best tip would be to stop looking for strategies and formulas because that just leads to disconnect and anxiety in my experience. Be you, throw yourself out there and learn lol you dont wanna be in your head bro.

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    2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    The guys on this forum are starving wolves who would fuck a hole in a wooden log :P

    lmfao hey man only when theres no difference between self and log ? .. in all seriousness I actually have had an awesome gf that has been willing and able to grow with me the past 5 years, so just keep being your authentic self and let reality play its cards. I definitely would have taken her for granted and ended up finding people in the wrong, places going out all the time if it werent for the actualized channel. Come surfing and do some yoga and hiking in hawaii post covid lockdown if you don't believe me

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    5 hours ago, Girzo said:

    @josh jones There's a video on this topic called "What is the Devil" or something like that on the Leo's channel.

    In my understanding, it's a technical term meaning people who act accordingly to their selfish desires and needs instead of catering to the will of higher-self, usually resulting in doing evil in the name of good. They pose as saints while acting utterly selfishly

    Adding to this, he points out that god is everything including the devil, but watch it for yourself and then discover it for yourself instead of taking it by word or belief

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    Harry Mack is an incredible freestyle rapper who seems to exude a ton of high conscious qualities. It reminds me of the way leo can discuss topics freely in an entertaining manner. Is this a combination of high consciousness and dedicated work ethic? Or does it only seem high conscious due to comparison of materialistic rap? 

    He is worth checking out, and does live streams on twitch and YouTube where you can type words for him to go off of in the live chat. 

    Thanks for your time and thoughts ?

  17. Posted

    6 hours ago, Anderz said:

    When it comes to what I experience in consciousness I agree that even the experience of the world cannot be proven to be consistent. That I am conscious on the other hand, that is certain. And from a practical perspective the world is amazingly consistent! Everything, all the past, it all fits together with mindblowing accuracy, so that's real enough for me.

    @Anderz

    Video games are consistent, more consistent than what we experience. Does that make it more real than human experience?

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    There were a few times where I've gone beyond the mind into instinctual nature on lsd. I was playing basketball with friends on a light dose and was aware of what moves they were making before it happened. I also house sat for a friend and had a weirdly awesome connection and understanding with his dog while tapping back into that. 

  22. Posted

    24 minutes ago, Girzo said:

    I prefer it solo. It's deeper. With others, there's always some functional shred of ego left and you need to worry about their comfort and safety.

    I have noticed that introverts like it solo and extroverts like it together. Who could have expected that? xD

    As an introvert I like both. Alone you definitely have the capacity to go deeper into yourself, but theres a really cool dynamic synergy that I've learned so much about from doing trips with friends and my significant other. Plus you get to be like a tour guide that exposes more people to this work. For self fulfilling endeavors go solo, to help more people wake up go with a few people. Just my 2 cents