What do you expect? Of course it's rare. Most girls want to be fucked by a strong man. You want a rare thing.
Embrace the rareness and look for the rare.

Of course. Just like guys reward hot tits more than human decency.
Human decency is not rewarded much. Which is why it's rare.
If you want decency, look for it in the monastery, not the sexual marketplace.

Of course, because it is part of what a man needs in a woman for his children.
Your attraction to sweet girls is no different than your attraction to tits and her attraction to a cold-blooded killer.
It's all survival value.

There are no shoulds.
Because ruthless strong-men have been the cause of nearly all war and violence in human history.
Yes, when you are told not to be a devil it hurts your survival because your survival comes at a cost to others.

@Lyubov Yeah, but girls do love themselves a proper asshole. Because it is a dominant quality.
An asshole will protect her children from getting raped. But at the cost of him raping others.

@Lyubov Women will always be attracted to strong men, regardless of their age.
Do women mature in their selection of men with age? Sure. They get wiser. So do men. But a big pair of tits will still be attractive.

Women's survival is already threatened in many ways that you are too naive and self-biased to comprehend.
Sweet and nice women are used and abused all the time, and have been for thousands of years. But you wouln't care anything about that, would you?
Of course survival is always hypocritical.
Survival for me but not for thee. I gain value, you lose value. That's the game of survival.
You definitely have to ignore certain narratives and build yourself into a strong man.
There is a narrative that makes men meek if they adhere to it too closely. It is a fine balancing act. Don't treat women too nicely. But also don't abuse, control, or oppress them.
Be masculine without being toxicly masculine.

That's an arbitrary distinction you make for your convenience.
Survival does not make such silly distinctions.
Society massively rewards aggressive, dickish, and downright sociopathic behavior in men. The world's richest and most powerful men are basically sociopaths and narcissists and they get the most and best vagina. And it has always been this way.
But of course such men disregard all social norms and SJW narratives. They often disregard laws too.
The reason why women are attracted to dickish behavior is because it's ruthlessly effective for survival. The woman needs a dick on her side precisely so she can be kind and sweet and innocent. She is like a king controlling an army of pawns to fight on his behalf while keeping his hands clean.
No it isn't. This is a conversation about survival value.

If you acted from this dimension you would be highly attractive

Counter-intuitively yes. Lot of pickup actually teaches you how to be more expressive like a girl. To flow more with your feelings. Most guys are so stuck in their heads they are disconnected from their feelings. Feelings are not just feminine, they are also masculine.
You will attract way more girls by being emotionally expressive than you will by being stoic.
It's similar to how you talk to children or dogs. You adopt an over-emotionalized, playful attitude. You don't treat the interaction seriously. Likewise when attracting women. Treat women like children when trying to flirt with them.
Watch videos of men flirting with women.

In practice the only thing you need to be successful with women is to go out and approach.
The rest is niggly details.

Do not be sexual.
If the girl truly likes you, you don't need to game her much. The problem is they don't really like you to begin with, otherwise they would be receptive to a simple "Hey there".
Keep in mind there is a lot of fake profiles and girls just looking for validation and ego-boosts on apps like Tinder.
Girls are not above using guys purely for validation with no intention of fucking them.
Your best opener is gonna be a short unique funny line.

To be alpha is not to desperately triangulate how to be alpha. It's simply to not give a fuck and do what you want to do without even thinking that you are alpha.
If you are worried about whether you are alpha enough, you're actually beta.
There's a difference between acting secure and actually being secure.
The point of doing lots of approaches is not to hone your act, but to make you experienced enough to not give a fuck. Those approaches help you discover your authentic masculinity -- if you do it right. Or you can just turn into a used dick salesmen.

And if you could draw a square circle, that would be nice too.
There is a huge link.
It's much easier to be masculine when you are a narcissist and sociopath. Confidence and assertiveness are harder when you have high empathy for people.
Being an asshole actually makes a guy more attractive to women. Women reward sociopathic behavior in men because they need to for survival.
Not second-guessing yourself and considering others is precisely what women reward. You may logically deny it, but in practice you will reward it by opening your legs for it.
Being attracted to the masculine is like being attracted to a very sharp knife. The sharper you want it, the more likely it is to cut you. And the reason you're attracted to it in the first place is because a sharp knife is good at slitting throats. Just don't he surprised when it turns on you. What comes around goes around.
Bad example since it conflates political positions you disagree with, with assholishness.
I''d bet Ben is a nice guy in nonpolitical situtations.
And Dwayne was a freaking wrestler, punching dudes in the face.
What women really want is a sharp knife that will cut others but not her. And mathematicians want square circles. And men want big tits that will never sag.

Agreed
Yes
Disagree. The lion run amok is still highly attractive. Although dangerous. And creepiness cuts across both categories. Weak and submissive men are some of the biggest creepers.
This puts too much blame on the asshole. The deeper truth which women do not want to admit is that they are turned on by assholes.
Assholes aren't hiding that they're assholes. They are openly assholes and that's what turns you on.
Women are attracted to strong men. Strong men tend to be assholes, which is what helps them be strong. The end.
If I was willing to be more of an asshole, I would get laid 3x as much. That is the reality of how this works. The rest is fluffy words that make you feel good about yourself.

Attraction is a short-term thing. It's not about long-term sustainability.
What you are attracted to has nothing to do with what is best for you in the long-term.

No, but people do respect strength and follow it.
If you assemble a group of 10 random people and you are the strongest in the group, they will follow you.
What we really mean by "asshole" is someone who asserts his agenda on the world and doesn't compromise.

You need to distinguish between assertiveness and being rude.
Being rude is not what attracts women. Being assertive is. You can be assertive without being rude. Although assertiveness often comes with collateral damage to others and the woman will get damaged by it too.
By definition, highly assertive people will step on everyone, including you. So don't act surprised when he steps on your heart a bit.

Oh, easily. I can think of 5 women off the top of my head who I could have slept with (but didn't) if all I cared about was sleeping with them and didn't care about hurting them through pump and dump.
In pickup situations, being highly assertive to the point of obnoxiousness and sociopathy will increase your results by 5-10x.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WuC3DE_RHI
There is a direct inverse correlation between how much you care about a girls feelings and how many girls you bang. I've met guys who have slept with 100, 200, 300 girls. What's their secret? They give zero shits about the girls feelings. Zero.

I never said anything about insulting women.
To have sex with lots of women it certainly helps to be really good a lying and manipulating them emotionally.
I'm an NOT saying you should do that. I'm simply telling you how sex works and what I personally avoided and sacrificed sex for.
If I wanted to emotionally manipulate women, I would have way more sex. That's just a fact. And there should not be anything surprising about this. If I was more selfish, more assertive, I would get more sex and women would find me more attractive, at least in the short-term.
The entire point of manipulation -- whether it be of women or customers or politicians -- is that it gets you way more material results than you would otherwise get. Of course there will be karma that goes along with it in the long-term.
I am not telling anyone how to behave. I am just describing trade-offs that exist.
One of my ex-girlfriends was handcuffed to a door for a month and fucked at gunpoint every night until she escaped. Extreme, yeah. But that's assertiveness for ya.
So be careful what you wish for when you want an assertive man. A really assertive man will not mind fucking you at gunpoint.
Assertiveness is like spicy food. How hot can you handle? Bite a Habanero and you'll get burned.
If I manipulated my customers more, I would earn way more money too! Surprise, surprise! Looky how the world works. If manipulation did not have massive material rewards, it would not exist.

@lmfao But the whole appeal of a woman (from a guy's POV) is that she's sweet and motherly, not a logic nerd. You are attracted to her precisely because she's not a mathematics professor. You're not looking to fuck Sam Harris.
It's important as a guy to realize that you want your woman to be feminine and to embrace the trade-offs that come with that. Don't use a woman to get to truth. Arrive at truth on your own and enjoy the woman for other things.

@Preety_India Girls can use logic, but when forced to choose between brutal truth and saving feelings, you will tend to choose to save feelings. It's a fundamental feminine bias. Not good or bad, just is.

If you want to marry a girl who's more like a man/nerd, go for it.
I am speaking from the perspective of masculine guys who like feminine girls. The degree of your polarity determines what you want/need.
There are traps on both ends.
There is a trap in dating too feminine, then she's too dramatic and irrational.
There is a trap in dating too masculine, then she's too much like you.
Find your sweet spot.
Personally I don't need a girl who's a philosopher because I already got that handled.

Dualities of all kinds interplay with each other in the Universe, of course.
But your selection of sexual partners is survival. Even the desire to be next to another human is survival and it's a biased activity.

It goes way deeper than lying. When you say "lying" in this context it implies something like lying about how much money you make or how big your dick is. That kind of lying is of course silly and isn't very helpful in getting laid more.
But where it helps to get laid is when you're pushing hard on the logistics to close. Handling those logistics successfully often involves a lot of subtle manipulation. And just not caring how she feels will get you a long way.
You can pump and dumb a girl without lying to her per se. But if you were conscious you'd be aware of how much it hurts her and you wouldn't do it. Removing the concern from your mind will increase your lay count significantly.
It's not lying that gets you results, it's not giving a fuck about her feelings or agenda.