egoeimai

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  1. Posted

    54 minutes ago, loub said:

    I'm like that too. I'm horrible over text, basically if I don't have you in front of me in some form I barely think about you. Don't take that personally.

    In terms of what you should do now: why do anything? She lives in a different city, you can't meet regularly. If you feel like it text her about that cool new Pink Floyd song you just discovered. Other than that you will meet her when you are both home for Christmas. There's really no point in an active long distance friendship. Doesn't mean you're not friends anymore.

    I disagree. That happened to me. 

    As I see it, it's nice to communicate and don't lose contact with the person that interests u. 

  4. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

    @egoeimai omg this is just brilliant. 

    I really love the hand. It's so intricate and real. Did you join a professional art course/class or simply kept practicing over years? 

     

    49 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

     

     

    I'm self taught. I searched this whole thread 10 minutes ago and realized I wasn't practicing enough.. Lol this year though with the covd situation I've been back at it. I'm watching drawing videos and they help me much that's what I'm doing. But I also don't dedicate much time for drawing because I'm practicing to be a nail technician and both need time ?

  9. Posted

    Dear preety, I'm sorry, those ppl were not nice, so try to not think twice when that happens. I don't think there's anything you can do, only speak to yourself with nice words reminding yourself that you are beautiful and don't let it affect you in a way that doesn't serve u. When you practice that everything's gonna feel nicer in your heart and nobody could hurt u. Your opinion is the most important for yourself and most needed. No one's else. 

  11. Posted

    @Preety_India in fact I don't know anything about him. He claims he lives in my city but I can't prove anything. He only sends me d pics and when he opens the camera he shows only his d. I've made my account private but he saved my nudes from last summer. He is crazy and i don't know anything about him. Every account has a different name and he said he lives in my city but every time different area. He is creepy. I've blocked all his accounts and he makes more. He says he loves me and wants to f me and meet me irl and maybe get in a relationship with me if I like him irl. Lol 

    He annoys the f out of me but it was fun to chat at the beginning. I kept asking him to reveal himself but he always asks for nudes in favor. Anyways. I don't think he can harm me. I always block him. I just think he's crazy. I hope he isn't someone I know at least, because this would freak me out the most. 

  12. Posted

    @Don Wei omg I'm so sorry that you've been through this. Currently there is a guy that is stalking me, he made a dozen os accounts since last summer and still stalking me and says he's gonna send the nudes to everyone and he's lunatic. 

    Just don't date when it is online, try to schedule dates with people u meet in real life. Internet can be very dangerous sometimes. 

  19. Posted

    @Barbara thank u for your opinion. I absolutely agree there's a problem in me but too many on her side. I'm definitely out of her life! 

    7 hours ago, Someone here said:

    Not a big deal. Either cut your interactions with her or reduce them. And either way accept that that's the way she is and move on. 

    I've accepted she is how she is. But I don't want her in my life. 

     

    27 minutes ago, Keyhole said:

    If she's 18 years old, then she's still just a child and teenagers by nature are narcissists, they haven't developed into adults yet.

    I can't sit and wait for her to change. I'm almost 27  and I'm going to work on myself and her being in my life only triggers negative emotions and cycles. I'm not gonna be happy around her and evolve. There's no time to waste on her. I don't care what she is as she didn't even care about me ever and my triggers. Everytime it is about her and her life, she doesn't care about others. That's negative on its own. She doesn't have people to love and care for. 

    27 minutes ago, Keyhole said:

    Dealing with that can be really frustrating, though - and can be trying on your patience, for sure

    Yes not only trying my patience. Trying my emotional response

    27 minutes ago, Keyhole said:

    I don't know what the solution is.  The ideal spiritual solution would be to accept her without judgment and love her, but if this is not something you're capable of doing then you don't have to stay around someone who is stressing you out.

    I'm far from that. This would be ideal but I'm too far. 

    27 minutes ago, Keyhole said:

    However my advice is to look into yourself and see if there are some aspects of her within you because nearly every judgment has a piece of a part of you that you have disowned in yourself. 

    I already know this. And thought about solutions before. But this is going to be temporary only and bring up the problem later. 

    27 minutes ago, Keyhole said:

     

    I don't know why that is and it's really annoying that it's that way, but it seems to almost be a golden rule.

    Good luck and hopefully your cousin grows out of it and can let go of her arrogance and accept herself for who she is. 

     

  20. Posted

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    @egoeimai  I just found an extremely helpful video on how to deal with toxic people. It explains how to deal with narcissistic personalities like your cousin and my ex boyfriend who go around bragging and hurting people to feel better. 

    Thank you very much! I'm so glad I let her go 

    We talked on the phone, I was speaking normally without shouting without trying to insult her and she did the exact opposite to me. I was... Wtfff and then I told her who are you to talk to me like this? And she ended the call. Haha what a total b*tch omg.

    Couldn't believe in what happened. She then texted my sister and said what's up with her? (me) "what's the problem with your sister? (me) and my sister said" your attitude " and she said" if she doesn't like my attitude then she shall not talk to me ever again " looool what a b*tch omgggg haha what a childish brat! She's trying to justify her attitude to my sister and be okay with what she does, she tries to find someone (my sis) to comfort her with her b*tchy actions. But guess what! My sis believes exactly the same as I do! 

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    She lays down a lot of wonderful points. 

     

    Summary of her points

    ? They know exactly what to say to prey on your emotions

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    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ? You might feel emotionally charged or upset while dealing with them but this is nothing but stooping down to their level.

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    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

     

    There is no point in telling them that they are wrong because they won't listen. You just shouldn't take on their negative energy on you. Instantly rub them away. 

    Exactly what I did! I let her go. I saw there was nothing to do to be at peace with her / be at the same level and understand each other. We are very different and there's no way we will vibe. 

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ? When you feel hurt, they feel victorious because they feel a sense of power in knowing that they hurt you. 

    I can see that every time I communicate with her. The situation was hopeless. There was nothing I could do, nothing to say to her. Glad I let her go. 

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ? You need to focus on yourself and understand whatever that toxic person is saying is a lie and nothing to do with it. It shows more who they are and not you..

     

    I was always hurt by her attitude. All this hurt my heart handled, so many years of hurt, for no reason!!!!just to have a shit*y person in your life just because she is your cousin!!! For what? I've put an end on this and I'm gonna live my life to the fullest now!

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

     

    ? Even if it hurts you, try not to take what they say personally because it will keep hurting you more if you repeat it in your mind. 

    I tried for so many years and failed miserably. 

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ?They have negative energy inside of them that they unload on others.. 

    She will live with her demons now. She just lost a person to whom she can project her insecurities lol 

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ?IT'S easy to get emotional. But don't do that. Walk away from such people. 

    Yaaas

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ? If you have an interaction with such a person, just hang up on them and tell them that you gotta go, they can say that you can't handle things but what they say does not matter. Get away from them instantly. 

    She does say a lot of shit. Me leaving is going to help me and only me. Lol she will continue living her way and projecting on to other victims. 

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ? Such people are button pushers. 

    ? You just have to tell them that you are not going to be  around someone who speaks to you in that way. 

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    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ? When someone who is a button pusher they know exactly what to say that will make you feel vulnerable or sad or upset. They know where your wounds are. 

    Exactly. All that she does. A total b*tch

    8 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    ?You need to know your wounds and triggers. Because that way you will able to filter such people much quicker because you are aware what hurts you and if they say exactly that then you can immediately walk away. 

    ?You have to be able to love yourself through your wounds. 

    ?Instead of reacting, respond by being straightforward and laying down your boundaries. 

    ?Have an inner dialogue with yourself. 

    ?This is not just emotional mastery. But learning to Armour yourself against abusive behavior and disengage with someone who is hurting you. 

    ?You have to know and be aware of your audience that is the people that you interact with. 

    ?If you feel anger, mask that anger and not let them know that you're angry. Don't give them their victories. Be strict and walk away and hold yourself high. 

    ?Don't let them get a rise out of you. 

    ?You can keep a boundary like "hey, when you speak to me this way, I leave. I'm not dealing with this " 

    ? You have to treat these people like children because these people are being a child. 

    ?Learning to love yourself while someone is hurting you rather than getting reactive and emotional. 

    ?You're basically telling that person that they can say whatever they want but you're not tolerating this kind of behavior. 

    ?Either set a boundary and tell them to follow or just leave and drop them from your life. 

     

    Hope this helps. 

     

  22. Posted

    9 hours ago, mandyjw said:

    Also the next time you are like "I need to leave this relationship" why don't you figure out what's really going on? You will probably discover that you feel unfulfilled and that leaving the relationship will not erase this lack of fulfillment.

    If u feel unfulfilled is probably a better choice to leave a relationship or to not even start engaging in one. 

    The lack is in you so you and only you can find what you can do. 

    Being single gives you the opportunity to discover the lack, work on yourself and not project your insecurities to others. 

  23. Posted · Edited by egoeimai

    9 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    This is the most absurd shit I've ever heard so far. 

    Maybe you chose all the wrong kinds of women. 

    If I chose a bad guy as a husband and if I ended a battered woman, it doesn't mean all men are bad. It's my poor choice.

    Learn to take personal responsibility for your choices with women. 

     

    Absolutely agree. I see some guys are having such bad experience with women. They need to know that women are not like that. 

  24. Posted

    12 hours ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

    I just think it is funny that we’re here because we are self actualizing and getting away from ideological thinking yet I see so many guys here either desperately wanting one or under the impression that it something truly special and a key to actualization.

    Look, if you want a relationship because you have dated a long time, are tired of all the b.s that comes with dating and have met a woman who you genuinely like and are highly attracted too and she is feminine, is highly sexual, does not give you shit and cooperates, that’s great.  The thing is, most of y’all just want a relationship due to a scarcity mindset because you are not getting laid, you are lonely and you are bored.  You believe that a relationship will fulfill you.  

    It will not.

    Relationships (this goes for women too) will not make you happy.  In fact it will probably do the opposite.  You guys have parents who have been married for years.  When was the last time you saw them act lovey dovey?  But you see them arguing all the time.

    You know why guys like Drake and Leonardo DiCaprio don’t settle down?  It is not because they are lower conscious people.  It is because they have such a high abundance mindset that  they do not need a relationship.  And when they do have one of the woman gives them too much shit, they leave.

    If you guys could go out and get the women you truly desire and date three to five women at once I guarantee you that you would not even think about a relationship.  Why?  Because you would automatically have an abundance mindset.  But instead you settle for decent looking women and mediocre relationships that drive you crazy.  

    But forget about women.  Let’s be honest, women (people in general) are not that special.  The majority of people are just out for themselves and a woman will drop you in cold blood if it suits her.  Women are just a cover for how you feel about yourself.  How you feel a sense of lack.  How you feel like you are not enough.  Your lack of confidence.  Your lack of self worth.  How you cannot even enjoy your own company.  

    So the next time you are like “I need a relationship” why don’t you try to figure out what is really going on?  You will probably discover that you feel empty and that a relationship will not fill up this emptiness.

    1000% agree

  25. Posted

    I can't express how I hate when people believe such huge things about themselves! First and foremost they are putting all of us down just by believing this. Get it? That's ridiculous omg. But ofc if I had healthy self esteem I wouldn't even care for this sabotaging game! Anyway let's not focus on that. Thing is she is out of my life and I'm doing good. I will absolutely grow emotionally taking steps to my happiness achieving my goals and she can lick my a**. Lol