Dan Arnautu

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  1. Posted

    @Haloman Bro, I love AMS too. But he is the epitome of Red Pill, and he pushes it to the extreme. That's why I use his advice WITH CAUTION. I don't delegate my reasoning to him. 

    He explicitly says that by applying what he says you won't get a good relationship. Only a fuckbuddy rotation. He gives good advice on how to keep women that you are dating attracted but he is still very underdeveloped on certain lines of development. That's the trap with this work guys.

    Any idea can be transformed into a dogma. And a smooth talker can make you genuinely believe any idea, EVEN IF YOU ARE HIGHLY INTELLIGENT. If the guy pushes your emotional buttons in the right way, you will take what he says as the truth. 

    You can watch AMS's discussion with Tripp Advice. That's what an unhealthy vs healthy pickup guy sounds like. More than that, AMS is two times the size of Tripp and claims to be Alpha all the time. Tripp never claims to be alpha, yet in the interview you can see that AMS shrinks to the size of a peanut around Tripp and is dominated by Tripp in every aspect (without Tripp even trying). That should tell you something about AMS.

  3. Posted

    6 hours ago, Haloman said:

    @Shin Yes, exactly. My mom and your mom both are sluts.  So our grandmas. 

    It's evolution. Women are sex objects, men - success objects. Men perform and get validated by the pussy. It that wouldn't be the case, we would still live in caves.

    Not sure if you're a troll or not. If you are, you're doing a good job. If you're not, may God have mercy on your soul.

  6. Posted

    2 hours ago, Eric Tarpall said:

    Only looks matter in the dating game. If she cares about how "interesting" your life is she's probably a gold digger. This is the black Truth with a capital T. 

    When I say looks that includes your body language, facial expressions, fashion, items that you carry with you etc.

     

    Have you dated even once in your entire life? Lmao. 

    @Leo Gura I think somebody needs to moderate these types of comments. They will stunt the growth of newbies here.

     

  7. Posted

    8 hours ago, ExodiaGearCEO said:

    I've been dealing with this problem for awhile. But, how do you attract and date girls while your life is boring? To get a better picture of my life I work almost everyday 5 days week. And I normally, work an afternoon shift. so, I don't really have a social life outside of work. And when I'm not working. I sit at home all day and do stuff like meditating, reading books, personal development, watching Actualized.org.

    Also, I know I'm an attractive person and  I normally can always get the girl to like me in the beginning but once they really start to know me. I feel like they will lose interest in me eventually, because they might think I have a boring life. It's not easy telling them things about like personal development and stuff because most people don't really understand these things.  So, when I'm talking to a girl. The conversation would get stale and dry. Because I don't have anything interest to share about my life. The Real truth is, I just want to get laid and then just start focusing on my purpose. I just need a quick rebounds since, I haven't got laid since my last break up 2 years ago. Any tips? Thanks!

     

    Bro, you've got it backwards.

    A few key points you should understand:

    • The content of the conversation is irrelevant. It's not what you say, but how you say it. You could talk about firefighters raping polar bears and if you make it funny, the convo will be interesting. You make a topic interesting by the way you talk about it. Every subject is interesting if it's talked about in the right way.
    • You assume that girls lose attraction because you have a boring life. That's not the reason. You're just fucking up somewhere in the attraction phase. Either you're too needy, too available, give the girls too much validation etc. There can be a million reasons, but a boring life most likely isn't one.
      • Things like meditating, reading books, doing personal development, are actually very attractive. Women are wired evolutionarily to be attracted to guys that are conscientious because that indicates a good chance of survival and reproduction.
    • She should do 80% of the talking. Your job is to be like a detective that wants to find out her secrets. If you have that frame, you will ask high-quality questions. That will also increase her attraction because first, it makes you look mysterious and second, it makes her invest in the conversation. And if she's invested a lot, she most likely won't leave it at that. Just like when you invest years in a degree, you don't usually drop out in the last year because you've already invested so much time and effort into it. 

    So, your underlying issue is actually self-sabotage and not understanding what girls are wired evolutionarily to be attracted to. The issue is not having a boring life.

    Heck, I just got out of college and I moved back in with my parents. I do the same things you do every day, except I am looking for a job in the 8h you are working at yours. With all of that, girls are still dying to fuck me, and they do. Because they see and feel that I'm on my purpose. They almost beg me for 1h of my time throughout the week because I'm not available. I work. And you do too. They see the drive and the passion and that makes them attracted because they see 'potential': "Maybe he's not there yet, but look at how powerful his ambition and vision is. I want to be along for the ride."

    Even if you work at McDonald's, girls will still fuck you hard if they see how powerful your ambition is to get out of that situation.

  8. Posted

    12 hours ago, Cocolove said:

    This is what I've observed with me & with others. It seems very different from adults. is it true? and why?

    You can do that for the sake of having experience with different girls, but honestly I don't think it's the right time for it. I think this phase is more properly suited just when you get your first job or have a stable income of sorts and don't have much else to worry about.

    When you are in highschool you are still setting your life foundation up, setting the proper life infrastructure for having success later in your 20's. The thing is that if you want to play with a lot of different partners they will suck almost your entire time. First dates, making them comfortable with you etc.

    If you have a fuckbuddy or a girlfriend on the other hand, your sexual needs are satisfied, the sex is even better and you don't waste that much time (because once they are comfortable with you and they trust you, it's easy sailing). Usually the first time you have sex with someone is the worst and it gets only better as you get more comfortable with each other, you both learn what the other likes and doesn't like etc.

    Hell, even two fuckbuddy's is much less time consuming (and more enjoyable imo) than hooking up or having one night stands with 10's of different girls.

    In the end, do whatever the hell you want. Just by you being on this forum I assume you are interested in personal development. Your highschool and college days are the best times to do that. After that, responsibilities are gonna come up and you may regret pissing away your precious time with one time hookups. Again, you don't have to act like an ascetic, but balance is the key word.

    I think it's best that you get either one fuckbuddy, multiple fuckbuddies or a girlfriend. Anything else will suck all of your time dry, thus making you suffer in the future imo.

    Good luck.

  10. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    On 2/5/2019 at 4:49 PM, Belay kelemework said:

    I spent around 4 hours a day watching Leo videos. Is that too much? Does it have an effect, could my personality be dominated by watching videos? One of the things books are awesome is that is there is no influence on your personality than video. What do you suggest? 

    You're watching waaaay too much. Watch a few videos, take notes, then create a list of actions steps on each vid. Don't watch more videos unless you completed those actions steps, otherwise all that you're doing is just mental masturbation.

    Your ratio of action taking vs. reading/watching/listening to info should be 10:1.

  11. Posted

    @Paul92 You're way too much in your head. 

    Firstly, you are saying no for her already. You don't know if it's gonna work out, but out of fear of rejection, you are assuming the worst and thus preventing any type of positive outcome. 

    Secondly, by not having sex with her you are preventing a great experience for both of you, a good memory and not doing what you were put in this earth to do - that is, to penetrate the world with masculine energy and to give your gifts. 

    Life force always wants to move, morph, penetrate and engulf. By keeping it static, you are slowly rotting away and doing the universe a diservice. 

    Go close that deal. If not, she is gonna find an asshole to fill in that role. If the girl wants to be filled up, why should an asshole do it instead of you? 

    Wake up! 

  12. Posted

    4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    Self/other is a duality, which means it must ultimately collapse.

    Those people you call "other" are really just facets of yourself in the same way that all actors in a movie are all one movie.

    There exists nothing but YOU. But not the personal ego you, the Cosmic You. You as the entire universe.

    Look at another human being in the eyes and realize they are you. Don't think about it. Actually try it.

    This is best realized on a psychedelic. Your ordinary mode of consciousness is too weak to see it in most cases without massive concentration work.

    How is one able to function in day to day life with that paradigm in the forefront? 

    Going to the gym, focusing on 'your' goals, doing affirmations, visualizations, working on a business, leading a team, developing products etc. 

    I've heard in the 65 principles video that we shouldn't confuse our existential nature with the personality. As in, there is still value in finding info about it. 

    It's hard to hold both ideas at the same time. I'm kinda confused. 

    Do you have an answer for this? 

  13. Posted

    17 hours ago, Pernani said:

    how long did it take u to come up with that vision ? did you get it through the lp course?

    for three years you've been struggling with your lack of direction, that's what I've been feeling ever since I was a kid, and even more so this past year since I chose to face this problem once and for all, what made you get out of that rut ?

    Taking the life purpose course.

    Honestly, it's the best investment you can make in this lifetime. Legit, for me it's worth more than 10.000 dollars, yet Leo gives it dirt cheap. 

    But it won't work unless you do the work. There are hundreds of exercises and it can sometimes take more than a day to finish only one. It's a grueling process, but it's totally worth it. 

  14. Posted

    @Pernani Figure out you Life Purpose and then create a vision for that purpose.

    At this point, I can see my vision so clearly if almost feels like physical thing. I break down crying of joy and inspiration every time I think about it for a few minutes. It has become the guiding star of my life. The vision is primary. Any development that is involved towards a vision is secondary.

    Even if you make the best vehicle in the world, it's of no use if it just makes you go around in circles. You need a destination.

    Not to mention that having crippling daily self-doubts about what you should do with your life will get you depressed, confused, scatter-brained, unable to focus on one task, uninspired and unmotivated eventually. I know because I was personally there for more than three years.

    Once your LP and vision lock in, you can start to live a passionate life and be of service to the world. It doesn't pay to be depressed and full of doubts.

  15. Posted

    @Paan Read the book Spent by Geoffrey Miller. He tells you all you need to know and what to do about this.

    You can also send him a thank you e-mail after. He responded to mine and also helped me with a specific problem I had.

    Note: Please don't just dismiss this reply and go on looking for other people's answers starting to weigh opinions, etc. That's a procastination trap that will keep you stuck. I know because I personally experience it at times.

    Take the book, read it, and then do the work it tells you to do. I can guarantee it's all you need.

    Good luck!

  16. Posted

    @kieranperez Bro, just wanted you to know that I really appreciate the brutal wincerity, vulnerability and honesty from your post. 

    I don't comment a lot here, Kieran, but you really struck me with this. 

    Not many people are able to put their heart on their sleeve like that. Keep your heart pure, your head up high and your intentions genuine. You will get where you need to go if you keep this attitude.

    Don't beat yourself up so much. 

    If you want to accelerate your journey though, the best, easiest and most impactful way would be to start documenting your journey. Just flip the camera and start talking. Nothing fancy.

    A lot of people can relate with your struggle. Your built up influence through pure relatibility could maybe get you out of San Francisco eventually. It will also play as therapy through self-expression for you, and you too will see that people can empathize and that you are not alone in this. 

     

  18. Posted

    23 hours ago, Aakash said:

    I have read a couple but i don't think they quite fit the caliber of high consciousness books, what books have you guys read? 

    Letting Go by David R. Hawkins 

    A Monk's Memoir by Om Swami

    A Million Thoughts by Om Swami 

    Inner Engineering by Sadhguru

    The Power of Now and A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

    The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

    The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

     

  21. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    @NoSelfSelf If you have a skill you are good at, leverage it. Otherwise, flip burgers for minimum wage. That should cover your situation for a while. 

    That is, if you want to move as quickly as possible.

    You can also tell your parents that you need a few months to learn a skill in order to be able to get a half-decent to decent job. 

    If you are older than 22 though, your parents owe you nothing. Thus, they shouldn't care if you have to get a job at Mc Donald's. 

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    @ajasatya thing is i would rather live in a 5m2 apartment that is mine than 200m2 apartment with low rent...i just dont like credits debts rents this is where comfort thing kicks in ?

    You don't have the leverage for that kind of audacity right now. Welcome to the real world. 

  22. Posted

    Meet Danny. He spent almost his whole life in a maximum security prison, a pure Red, dog eat dog environment.

    If you pay close attention to his body language and the context of his story, you can see that he is not a cold blooded psychopath. 

    He just did everything he could to adapt to the environment he was put in, in order to survive. Not being aggressive was not an option in that prison.

    You shank when other prisoners attack you, otherwise you're seen as weak, prison clans make you their slave, suck everything you have and then discard you like an orange peel.

    It can clearly be seen that he DID NOT want to participate in criminal behavior or any kind of violent behavior in that prison. You can also see it in his eyes that he has no motive to lie about it. Fact is, the  only alternative to that was death. There are very few days without a lockdown in that prison. You could count them on one hand. There is always a life or death situation.

    He actually cried for the prisoners that he knew should be in a lower security prison. The ones that were soft and just got themselves in a bad situation. He knew they would get killed and there was nothing he could do about it.

    I see a proper integration of stage red as 

    • Cultivating your ability to be dangerous when needed.
    • Getting very good at overcoming real life or death situations when necessary.
    • Being able to bypass your high ideals temporarily, adapt to a red environment and be ferocious when the alternative is death. 

    Let me give you a practical example of someone who has and someone who has not integrated stage red properly:

    Joe Rogan versus a classical hippie. Who do you think would survive in a prison (red environment)?

    Joe Rogan has the same high ideals of 

    • Love, heart, soul, empathy, intimacy, kindness
    • Compassion, mercy, leniency
    • Humanism, liberalism, social progress
    • Spirituality 
    • Ecology
    • Cooperation over competition
    • Creativity, beauty, art
    • Warm interaction
    • Pacifism, peace

    Yet, unlike the hippie, he also cultivated the beast inside of him. With a black belt in martial arts, healthy assertiveness and a strong frame, he knows how to bring the beast out when needed. He knows he doesn't need to do that 99% of the time, but if he has to, he knows he can. That's why I think he integrates it in a healthy way.

    This is the difference I think between a person that is at stage green/yellow or above who has integrated red and someone who has not.

    I suggest you watch the whole series following Danny's story. He gives lots of juicy insights on how to survive a red environment if you find yourself in one.

    I think his story is especially valuable because he is not a cold blooded psychopath but feels more like what you and I would have been in a similar set of circumstances.

    You probably won't need to shank people in the future for your safety like Danny did. What you probably will need to do though is to see the underlying mindset behind that type of behavior so you can adapt it to the situation at hand if it is ever needed.

    Do you agree? Leave your thoughts below.

  23. Posted

    6 hours ago, Ross said:

    Hi there, 

    I feel like looks are important in dating, and by significant amount. I feel like also men get sexually judged on appearance as well. I just feel a little depressed because I know I am not and never will look like a model in my whole life, as say I don’t have desired looks such as chiselled jawline and ripped body and great hair, like Brad Pitt or Jeff Seid. I have been using tinder for a wjhile and the only girls I match tend to be ugly. How is it even possible for an ordinary guy like me to become more attractive among 8-10 range?  It’s annoying because I’m an engineering student and I have little time to work on dating life. 

    Go out more. You're ovethinking and making up boundaries that don't exist.

  24. Posted

    5 minutes ago, fewrocker said:

    @Dan Arnautu

     

    Dude!

    I've been going out alone once every week (wednesday/thursday) for two months now. It is one of the most amazing things you can do. The hustle will bring you the answer.

    My next step is probably to go out 5 nights in a row. Just hammer it down.  And in the future, maybe do a 30-day challenge.  I've heard you cannot come out of it completely transformed if you know what you're doing: minimum amount of alcohol (preferably zero), total presence, and just take action

    Sexuality is one of our most primary drives. If you tackle coming out of your comfort zone on that realm,  many others will be a piece of cake. It this is not about attachment to the action.  Good going  out means maximum engagement with least attachment, just like spirituality teaches us

    Glad to hear that, man! Yeah, the game is a wonderful thing. I've met so many amazing people because of it. It even helped me land my first job, haha.

  25. Posted

    1 hour ago, fewrocker said:

    hahaha I love the amount of pick-up instructors there. 

     

    Dude, I'm being honest here. Pick-up is an amazing activity to both spiritual and personal development if you do it the right way, and most people think it is stupid

    Yeah, I agree. I challenge people to hit the clubs for just 1 night, alone, and meet people. No friends and no permission to go home until 5 a.m. either. No safety net. No group to go back to. You either talk to people or you're seen as the weird loner guy. 

    I've done that once, and I'm gonna do it again in the future. A real transformational experience.

    People are gonna learn more in that one night about themselves than they have learned in years. It's like putting a mirror on your insecurities. And if you can push through it, and have some success, it feels like a million bucks. It's the feeling of leaning just beyond your edge, as David Deida puts it.