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The guy's got 10 years worth of savings, he's doing a whole lot better than most workers. What is the meaning of hard work? Genuinely curious what your views are. How have you worked hard throughout your life? How old are you? That works for some jobs, but many professional jobs require thorough learning of the topic. University learning is not a new phenomenon, people have been studies at universities for thousands of years. You're evidently trying hard to give off this persona of being the tough, older, more manly guy, but it's quite evident that you lack wisdom about life. Why do you idealise torturing and sacrificing yourself to work?

Nope. Forming a relationship with the right girl is among some of the most worthwhile things you could do in life. Not true, you've evidently been wallowing in too much toxic online content. There's good women out there and there's also shit women too. You want to cultivate relationships with the good people. This is terrible advice. It seems that you are trying to sabotage others. Yeah, pua advice on the internet it mostly trash. The easiest way to get laid a lot is to be good looking, which mostly comes down to genetics. There is nothing impressive about this that makes you a "real" man, it's mere luck.

Nice, congrats

Most cultures outside the Muslim world too. How common are large scale societies which practice non-monogamy? Christianity has played a substantial role in up holding these ideals, but the question is why were these values adopted by Christianity? When the men at the top of the hierarchy horde the majority of the women this leads to those at the bottom becoming disgruntled and disillusioned with society and often turning to violent revolts. It is also less fulfilling for the women too since most desire monogamous committed relationships rather than being part of a harem. Non-monogamous systems can be found in tribes of a few hundred people, however I was talking about role monogamy plays in larger, post-agricultural societies. What works in small tribes will often not scale well on to larger states of 100s of thousands of people or more. Having said that, monogamy is also quite common place among tribes too. It is better for extended family get involved in child rearing too. How does that mean the stability of the child's parent's relationship is not of vital importance? They are still the most influential factor in the child's development. Large-scale societies function very differently to close-knit tribal societies, how would this system of getting the whole tribe involved in the raising of a child work in a city state of ten thousand people, most of whom are unrelated? There's issues with culturally monogamous systems, I don't think anyone would argue that there isn't. But it is one of the few systems which has worked in preventing societal instability. When a system is seen quite universally across cultures and has been implemented for hundreds or thousands of years, there's certainly a very good reason for it. It is easy to overlook the benefits which we receive from stage blue structures since we have never had to suffer from the consequences which it prevents.

It doesn't just come from Christian ideas, there's an abundance of non-christian cultures which shun promiscuity and value purity significantly more than the West. Monogamy is important for societal stability and is more optimal for the raising of children. The vast majority of people naturally desire monogamous relationships and most people would be happiest in one compared to the alternatives. Thus, it's easy to see why the majority of post-agricultural societies have upheld these values. That's a legitimate concern. One of the most reliable predictors of an individual's future behaviour is their past behaviours.

I've found it to be important to spend your 20s focusing on building all of the important areas of life. You are able to work on more than one thing. So far in the decade since I've left high school I've managed to get my career on track, get my dating life sorted, cultivate fulfilling friendships, pursued spirituality, and had many unique life experiences. It requires you to get clear about what you really want out of life and then place you time/energy/focus on building that vision (and not wasting much time on the things which don't matter, like TV or doomscrolling). Dating really ought to be one of their top priorities, as relationships are one of the most important aspects of life.

Why is that?

Leo, are you in a long term monogonous relationship?

Settle? You are not as attractive as a highly attractive girl. It's not settling to date someone who is at your own level of attractiveness. You are shooting yourself in the foot by holding on to this fantasy of wanting a highly attractive women to date you, you very well could have a very fulfilling relationship with an average looking girl and it would make you a lot happier in life. You seem to be quite adverse to average girls as if you view them as being below you, but the truth is they're not. And you'll probably have to work on yourself and unwire a lot of your brainwashing and toxic ideas to even get a relationship with a nice, average looking girl.

You've been brainwashed by Youtube pick up artist theory lol (they are mostly con artists). Why would a top 1-3% girl choose you just because you pretend to be an "alpha male"? The majority of the stuff taught by these pick up coaches is just cringe and will harm your results in dating. The most attractive girls have immense options, they are going to go for the guys who are genuinely in the top 1-3%.

@something_else Most likely you simply aren't physically attractive enough for these girls that you're going after. I recommend focusing on women who are around your own level of attractiveness. Or you can be just as attractive as them. Money cannot buy genuine attraction. I don't think it would be a fulfilling situation for any guy to be used for their money. I suspect there may be geographic/cultural difference here. Perhaps most girls in LA or Vegas are going after status and money but I can't say I've seen this dynamic very often at all. The majority of attractive girls seem to desire a genuine relationship with a man who's attractive and that they have chemistry and a connection with, while a small percentage are more promiscuous (roughly 10%). I wouldn't try to use money in order to get a hot girl, it probably won't work and even if you get one to have sex with you it wouldn't be very fulfilling knowing that they just want your money and lifestyle. I genuinely mean no disrespect, but if that's you in your picture you seem to be around average in terms of looks. My advice would be to forget about trying to get a really hot girlfriend and instead try to find an average looking girl who you really like as a person and enjoy spending time with. Most guys will not get an 8-10/10 looking girl and that's okay. You can have a very fulfilling relationship with a girl even when they are not a model (as long as you are still sexually attracted to them). Personality compatibility is incredibly important for a relationship.

Do you think it's realistic for him to be able to find a mentor in the 3 weeks that he needs to be studying? If he was able to find a mentor tomorrow how would that be helpful for his situation?

You just need to sit down at a desk and do it, there's no special trick to it. Find a quiet space where you can study away from your PC or phone so that you can study free from any distraction. A local library or the library at your school would work. Dedicate a few hours each day as time where you are going to sit in that space with only your books/laptop and study, no Youtube or mindless scrolling allowed. Make sure you show up consistently everyday. After you've done studying enjoy the rest of the day however you like.

It's not the case that looks are the only thing that matters, life is rarely that simple. Personally and charisma are significant factors in attracting women. However, looks are the biggest factor determining your attractiveness to women. If a girl doesn't find you physically attractive you most likely won't even be considered as a potential sexual or romantic partner in the first place (unless they are similarly unattractive). There's a threshold of physical attractiveness with most often must be reached. It's rarely the case that someone who a girl finds physically unattractive can make that girl attracted to them through personality or charisma. However, the opposite can indeed be true; a girl can lose interest in someone physically attractive through lack of social skills, negative emotional state, or undesirable personality characteristics. Another important factor for attractiveness which people never seem to talk about is your emotional state or level of engery. As for the video, getting a girls number means nothing. It's very easy to get a girls number (which is why all these pick up videos like to show that off) but that doesn't mean it's going to lead anywhere. The majority of those girls will flake or just gave the wrong number. The real metric is did he actually go out with that girl? Did he have sex with them? Did he start a meaningful relationship?

@bebotalk I certainly don't advise it. It will have a negative impact on the results you get in your social life, not to mention it's just a shit way to treat people and acting immorally will negatively affect your self esteem and emotional well-being. Also your initial impression of someone will often be wrong especially if it's based on something superficial like someone's gender or how they look, you could be prematurely rejecting people who you could have potential to create a meaning relationship with, do this enough times over the course of your life and you may end up isolated with no meaningful relationships in your life.